Have you ever pleaded with someone to make life style changes in order to live? Did they take the advice? How?

did you cope or continue to cope with the disaster and pain after their death?Have you ever pleaded with someone to make life style changes in order to live? Did they take the advice? How?
Yes.


Daddy - Please stop drinking. Died of a bad liver.





1st Husband - Please stop drinking. Came down with MS.





Potiential boyfriend - I can't date you if you snort coke. He gave it up. I stayed with him 7 years watching him destroy his kidneys with Coke a Cola and an unbalanced diet. I solved the problem by leaving him.





Mom - Go to the doctor. Mom has Alzheimers and is a Christian Scientist.





My Husband - Smoked, drank ate whatever he wanted, was somewhat overweight. He had 4-heart bypasses this year and has walked every morning with his friend. Bought a bicycle and rides it. Reads labels. Lost and maintained weight. Gave us smoking a few years ago, but will never lite one again. Eats healthy foods. I didn't tell him to, it was his decision.





No. When death came/comes, I know that it wasn't my fault. I have no control over their lives and all of them except my husband, didn't want to change. So I just go on living with my wonderful husband and know that I am only in control of me.Have you ever pleaded with someone to make life style changes in order to live? Did they take the advice? How?
Many times I have pleaded and prayed for people and with them. About half the time it works.
Yes, and he did. My father had copd, he finally gave up smoking and drinking, but far to late. Actually I watched him suffer long enough, and it was like a big weight came off of me after he passed. I knew then that the pain and suffering was over. I miss him, but he is ok now.
Yes, my brother was alcoholic and I pleaded several times but by the time he did dry out it was that or die, at 41 he had a very bad stomach ulcer and within 1 year died from that bleeding ulcer, leaving me with an18 and 20 year old niece and nephew who I had to advise and raised the girl from 15 on. He was his old self again that last year, and looked 10 years younger and we all had a chance to know him sober. At least I can live with that, but the pain is still there...not as bad and gets easier everyday. I coped by staying busy raising my two toddlers, and my niece and guiding my nephew through phone calls and visits. He is now my rock and his sister's rock. They are all the family I had after my brother died as my parents proceeded him in death. It wasn't easy and I made a lot of mistakes as they were only 10 and 12 years younger than me...but through all the losses we shared, we stuck together in the same area and now with there children and mine we have a family again. I don't know to this day how we all got through all the deaths and survived just the three of us at that time. I stayed busy and TRIED to be a good role model...I failed a lot but they turned out OK. I also tell their children all about there Grandma and Grandpa, and my parents to that they know they what they were like and that as grandchildren they would have been loved infinitely.