I have a crush on this guy but he's 3 years older than me. We've seen each other like twice but we've been emailing and texting each other since, the first time we saw each other. He's called me cute twice. and he asked if I've ever had a boyfriend (I don't know if that means anything) he also said that having many things in common between us was a good thing. =) If we're texting late, he says he doesn't want to keep me up and when we say good night he says sweet dreams. He also asked for a picture of me for his phone ID thing. He's said I'm sweet too, and he defended me when this guy was annoying me.
Does he like me? Is he just flirting? Does all of this mean anything?Please help, love life advice?
it sounds to me like he likes you:)
this is a lot like what my last boyfriend did before we went out:)
very cute, good luck:)Please help, love life advice?
Do people not talk on the phone anymore? Texting is such a lame way of communicating, especially communicating feelings.
Yes, it sounds like he likes you. It also sounds like you should try using your phone as a phone.
Yes, he likes you.
he likes you! (:
He is in love with you... go make him yours!
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
I need some ';life advice';?
In my life I want to have a very close relationship with God (I'm roman catholic) and I am a teenager who (typically) sins and doesn't want to. I have cleaned up my act a lot lately but still gives into temptation, but I always regret it later (whatever it is). As everybody
does I want to be accepted in modern society but sometimes I destroy my relationship with God to do so. Any advice to help me through these trying times. But that is not all I feel alone in this world and I really don't have anybody to talk to these things about so I want to be accepted and have God be prevalent in my life. Thanks for any and all advice and, well, God bless!!!!!!!!!!I need some ';life advice';?
Dan, don't give in to the haters. Catholicism is not only christian but is the original form of christianity going back to Matthew 18:15-18. Also read John 6:51-56 and 1 Corinthians 11-23-29 and I think you would agree that what is written there resembles more a Catholic mass and the Eucharist than any other explanation.
As for your struggles in purity - you are human and young - and the struggles are natural. Remember that Satan creates nothing (God alone is the creator) but he perverts and twists. Hence, food is not evil, but its abuse in gluttony is; sex is not evil, but its abuse in pornography, premarital sex, and infidelity are. Sin is not about rules broken but a severing or abuse of a relationship (with God or others).
Remember that the difference between a saint and a sinner is that the saint falls but then gets back up. Jesus fell many times carrying the cross and still got back up(he was not a sinner but gave us many wonderful examples of perseverance in our faith walk), Peter denied the master three times and yet became the rock on which Christ built his church. We all sin, we all fail - just get back up, ask for forgiveness and make a heartfelt intention to do better and sin no more. And when you fail again - He will be there to catch you. He always does.
Feel free to write if you need more. You will find really good stuff on www.catholic.comI need some ';life advice';?
God loves you for just trying to be a good christian and trying to have a good relationship with him.
It's a good thing that you regret when you do something wrong. On the one hand you shouldn't beat yourself up like that about it. I mean... you are a teen!! But on the other hand (since you seem smart enough to regret) it's better to prevent than to cure.
To keep your relationship with God, pray to him on every occasion you can. Tell him that you want help and advice and i promise he will send someone right at your door.
That is the Holy Spirit letting you know that you need to repair your relationship with God. God is very close to your heart.
I would recommend that you keep in mind that you usually end up like your friends, so, I would take time to reflect on who your friends are. If they are the kind of people that you want to be like when you grow up, then continue to be their friend. If they are causing you to sin against God often, I would suggest that you find new friends.
I will pray for you and I hope that everything works out!
Who do you want acceptance from, others. What we think of you should matter little. What you think of yourself is what should matter. Life is a learning lesson. Learn from it and chance what you don't like. God of the bible and the real God are different. You will not go to hell but you will get more than one chance.
Having a prayer partner or two is good -- a trusted friend or relative you can call and pray with as needed. Maybe someone at church can help you with this or help you find someone to pray with you. Sounds like you need to work more on yielding to God's Holy Spirit in your life. Like praying daily for His will to reign in your life, and about what He wants you to do, like for the day and longer term. Things I focus on that can be helpful to get the right thoughts are faith, love, peace, meekness.
You need something more. What you need is a close personal relationship with Jesus. This is accomplished by praying to him.
The bible says if we confess our sins to the Lord he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins. You first need to be born again, Jesus said unless a man is born again he will never see the kingdom of God.
This cannot be accomplished by works though. It is accomplished by faith in Jesus.
we are to cast aside reiligion for a personal relationship with the living christ,where he took away the sins of the whole world from the eyes of god never to see them again,he died, and was baried,and on the third day he rose to life,when you by faith believe in this truth at that moment jesus raises you to life,this is what salvation is all about life,he who has the son jesus has life he who doesnot have the son does not have life,we live under a new covenant today,read hebrews10:16,18
God knows that we are not perfect. Ask God for forgiveness and try to do better. God realize that we sometimes make the same mistake over and over but He loves us non the less. Just continue to pray and ask God for his Grace and Mercy. May you be Blessed Always
no one is perfect. god forgives. just dont do anything that causes harm to kids or dont do anything that ll put u in jail.
edit: learn self disciple. learn karate.
men cannot save you. Jesus can. Pray for salvation in Jesus' name and repent. You can pray directly to God without the priest. Try reading the book of John and search online for free devotionals or try upperroom.com
inb4 an hero.
the beginning of second peter comes to mind.
Be a muslim... You'll thank me later.
hey:], i'm a teenager too so i definatly know what youre going through! there's always gonna be that feeling in you, yearning for love and acceptance, but it will go away...only if you fill it with Christ. It's hard, i know! Here's the thing, thats the AMAZINGG thing about God! He accepts us with our flaws..think about it, a perfect, holy God accepts sinners like us! how awesome:] So, because He is an all-knowing God, He understands that we WILL mess up! I've definatly made my mistakes..and it all comes down to how we handle it! you have to understand, God is ALWAYS going to lovee us, ALWAYS going to accept us but do you want God to be dissapoiinted in you? the answer should be no! so heres the thing, when we get a personal relationship with Christ, we are to seek Him in all aspects of our life. We are to strive to be more and more like Him. Because He is perfect, we are NEVER EVER going to be perfect like Him. But, the more we try, the more we seek and yearn for Him, your friends will see a change in you. They will see a change that they want, a change in you that makes them seek what you have! everyones situation is different, but know you are never alone in spiritual struggles. message me if you need any more advice!
Luke 12:6-8 (always remember God loves you, cares for you, seeks for you, accepts you)
Genesis 4:7 (overcome sin!)
Psalm 139 (God knows your heart, what your going through..talk to Him!!)
Wow. What is up with the totally ignorant and intolerant protestants today? Sorry you got treated so poorly by these misguided people. That's certainly no way to lead someone that is asking a serious question about faith.
Anyway, the fact that you feel ';guilt'; for your actions is a good thing. It means you have a strong conscience. Just don't let it eat you up. Taking advantage of the sacrament of confession would be really excellent, if you have not done so. A trusted confessor can help you work through these things - help you get to the root of why you repeat certain action. It's always hard the first few time, but the more often you do it (once a month?) the easier and more productive it is. It is a huge lesson is humility.
We tend to pray at set time s- Once in the morning, once at night, etc. What about adding in a few times during the day? Maybe take a few minutes at lunch to pray or read a spiritual meditation. That little extra focus through the day may help you stay centered. Pax.
Catholicism is not Christian. Catholicism teaches a false gospel of works that cannot save (Galatians 1:6-9).
Catholicism is a counterfeit from Satan. Catholicism cannot give you a personal relationship with Jesus.
It's clear from the Book of Acts in the Bible that catholics didn't even exist during the days of Acts. Those in the Book of Acts are the first Christians, and they believed what would be called fundamentalist doctrine today. ANYONE can read the Book of Acts for themselves and see. Had catholicism existed during the time of Acts, the first Christians would have rejected catholicism completely.
Also here's Christians that called the ';pope'; the antichrist, and who also completely rejected catholicism, long before Martin Luther was even born:
c. 1310
Dante Alighieri
c. 1331
Michael of Cesena
c. 1345
Johannes de Rupescissa
c. 1350
Francesco Petrarch
c. 1367
John Milicz
c. 1379
John Wycliffe
c. 1388
Matthias of Janow
c. 1389
R. Wimbledon
c. 1390
John Purvey
c. 1393
Walter Brute
c. 1412
John Huss
c. 1497
Girolamo Savonarola
So not only is it false to say that ';catholics were the first Christians';, but this list blows away the catholic claim that ';no churches existed other than the catholic church, until Martin Luther';.
There were ALWAYS saved believers outside the catholic cult, who knew catholicism cannot save anyone.
Catholicism cannot save. Only believing in Jesus alone for salvation, is what saves.
Jesus loves you so very much! :D
Salvation is a FREE GIFT that happens in a split second when you believe in Jesus! It is impossible to lose or ';leave'; salvation (John 6:39-40, 1 John 5:13).
The truth about Jesus is that the only way to be saved and to get into heaven and avoid being sent to eternal hell, is by believing in faith alone that Jesus, who is God, died for our sins on the cross as FULL PAYMENT for all our sins, and then Jesus rose from the dead (1 Corinthians 15:1-4). Believe this and you will be in heaven, no matter what!
Please pray now: ';Jesus, please forgive me of my sins. I believe that You died on the cross for my sins and You rose from the dead. Thank You for eternal life!'; You will be in heaven with Him forever when you die. :)
Well, what you are describing is something all who want to follow God experience, All of us are still sinners, but that doesn't mean we don't turn away from sins, if we fall now and then and truly ask for forgiveness, God will forgive, but if we pursue a relationship with God constantly, the less sin even tempts us, The opposite of all sin is Holiness, when we pursue God Who is Holy and the things of God- Holiness, the less we will fall into sin, In life, we will see that our dependence on things, on people, on certain events etc. will let us down, nothing and no one is completely dependable but God and if we depend on anything other than God, we can make these things God in our lives, and put God in a lower place, The very first commandment is Love the Lord thy God with all thy strength, mind, soul. God is to be number 1, If our relationship with God is number 1, everything else will be in right perspective and will be in their right place, and there is a peace and joy that comes from this. God is calling us to complete dependence and surrender to Him and this gives you peace, the world cannot give you.
Hold on to these verses in Jeremiah 17:5-10
';5Thus says the LORD:';Cursed is the man who trusts in man
and makes flesh his strength,
whose heart turns away from the LORD.
6 He is like a shrub in the desert,
and shall not see any good come.
He shall dwell in the parched places of the wilderness,
in an uninhabited salt land.
7 ';Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD,
whose trust is the LORD.
8 He is like a tree planted by water,
that sends out its roots by the stream,
and does not fear when heat comes,
for its leaves remain green,
and is not anxious in the year of drought,
for it does not cease to bear fruit.';
9The heart is deceitful above all things,
and desperately sick;
who can understand it?
10 ';I the LORD search the heart
and test the mind,
to give every man according to his ways,
according to the fruit of his deeds.';';
does I want to be accepted in modern society but sometimes I destroy my relationship with God to do so. Any advice to help me through these trying times. But that is not all I feel alone in this world and I really don't have anybody to talk to these things about so I want to be accepted and have God be prevalent in my life. Thanks for any and all advice and, well, God bless!!!!!!!!!!I need some ';life advice';?
Dan, don't give in to the haters. Catholicism is not only christian but is the original form of christianity going back to Matthew 18:15-18. Also read John 6:51-56 and 1 Corinthians 11-23-29 and I think you would agree that what is written there resembles more a Catholic mass and the Eucharist than any other explanation.
As for your struggles in purity - you are human and young - and the struggles are natural. Remember that Satan creates nothing (God alone is the creator) but he perverts and twists. Hence, food is not evil, but its abuse in gluttony is; sex is not evil, but its abuse in pornography, premarital sex, and infidelity are. Sin is not about rules broken but a severing or abuse of a relationship (with God or others).
Remember that the difference between a saint and a sinner is that the saint falls but then gets back up. Jesus fell many times carrying the cross and still got back up(he was not a sinner but gave us many wonderful examples of perseverance in our faith walk), Peter denied the master three times and yet became the rock on which Christ built his church. We all sin, we all fail - just get back up, ask for forgiveness and make a heartfelt intention to do better and sin no more. And when you fail again - He will be there to catch you. He always does.
Feel free to write if you need more. You will find really good stuff on www.catholic.comI need some ';life advice';?
God loves you for just trying to be a good christian and trying to have a good relationship with him.
It's a good thing that you regret when you do something wrong. On the one hand you shouldn't beat yourself up like that about it. I mean... you are a teen!! But on the other hand (since you seem smart enough to regret) it's better to prevent than to cure.
To keep your relationship with God, pray to him on every occasion you can. Tell him that you want help and advice and i promise he will send someone right at your door.
That is the Holy Spirit letting you know that you need to repair your relationship with God. God is very close to your heart.
I would recommend that you keep in mind that you usually end up like your friends, so, I would take time to reflect on who your friends are. If they are the kind of people that you want to be like when you grow up, then continue to be their friend. If they are causing you to sin against God often, I would suggest that you find new friends.
I will pray for you and I hope that everything works out!
Who do you want acceptance from, others. What we think of you should matter little. What you think of yourself is what should matter. Life is a learning lesson. Learn from it and chance what you don't like. God of the bible and the real God are different. You will not go to hell but you will get more than one chance.
Having a prayer partner or two is good -- a trusted friend or relative you can call and pray with as needed. Maybe someone at church can help you with this or help you find someone to pray with you. Sounds like you need to work more on yielding to God's Holy Spirit in your life. Like praying daily for His will to reign in your life, and about what He wants you to do, like for the day and longer term. Things I focus on that can be helpful to get the right thoughts are faith, love, peace, meekness.
You need something more. What you need is a close personal relationship with Jesus. This is accomplished by praying to him.
The bible says if we confess our sins to the Lord he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins. You first need to be born again, Jesus said unless a man is born again he will never see the kingdom of God.
This cannot be accomplished by works though. It is accomplished by faith in Jesus.
we are to cast aside reiligion for a personal relationship with the living christ,where he took away the sins of the whole world from the eyes of god never to see them again,he died, and was baried,and on the third day he rose to life,when you by faith believe in this truth at that moment jesus raises you to life,this is what salvation is all about life,he who has the son jesus has life he who doesnot have the son does not have life,we live under a new covenant today,read hebrews10:16,18
God knows that we are not perfect. Ask God for forgiveness and try to do better. God realize that we sometimes make the same mistake over and over but He loves us non the less. Just continue to pray and ask God for his Grace and Mercy. May you be Blessed Always
no one is perfect. god forgives. just dont do anything that causes harm to kids or dont do anything that ll put u in jail.
edit: learn self disciple. learn karate.
men cannot save you. Jesus can. Pray for salvation in Jesus' name and repent. You can pray directly to God without the priest. Try reading the book of John and search online for free devotionals or try upperroom.com
inb4 an hero.
the beginning of second peter comes to mind.
Be a muslim... You'll thank me later.
hey:], i'm a teenager too so i definatly know what youre going through! there's always gonna be that feeling in you, yearning for love and acceptance, but it will go away...only if you fill it with Christ. It's hard, i know! Here's the thing, thats the AMAZINGG thing about God! He accepts us with our flaws..think about it, a perfect, holy God accepts sinners like us! how awesome:] So, because He is an all-knowing God, He understands that we WILL mess up! I've definatly made my mistakes..and it all comes down to how we handle it! you have to understand, God is ALWAYS going to lovee us, ALWAYS going to accept us but do you want God to be dissapoiinted in you? the answer should be no! so heres the thing, when we get a personal relationship with Christ, we are to seek Him in all aspects of our life. We are to strive to be more and more like Him. Because He is perfect, we are NEVER EVER going to be perfect like Him. But, the more we try, the more we seek and yearn for Him, your friends will see a change in you. They will see a change that they want, a change in you that makes them seek what you have! everyones situation is different, but know you are never alone in spiritual struggles. message me if you need any more advice!
Luke 12:6-8 (always remember God loves you, cares for you, seeks for you, accepts you)
Genesis 4:7 (overcome sin!)
Psalm 139 (God knows your heart, what your going through..talk to Him!!)
Wow. What is up with the totally ignorant and intolerant protestants today? Sorry you got treated so poorly by these misguided people. That's certainly no way to lead someone that is asking a serious question about faith.
Anyway, the fact that you feel ';guilt'; for your actions is a good thing. It means you have a strong conscience. Just don't let it eat you up. Taking advantage of the sacrament of confession would be really excellent, if you have not done so. A trusted confessor can help you work through these things - help you get to the root of why you repeat certain action. It's always hard the first few time, but the more often you do it (once a month?) the easier and more productive it is. It is a huge lesson is humility.
We tend to pray at set time s- Once in the morning, once at night, etc. What about adding in a few times during the day? Maybe take a few minutes at lunch to pray or read a spiritual meditation. That little extra focus through the day may help you stay centered. Pax.
Catholicism is not Christian. Catholicism teaches a false gospel of works that cannot save (Galatians 1:6-9).
Catholicism is a counterfeit from Satan. Catholicism cannot give you a personal relationship with Jesus.
It's clear from the Book of Acts in the Bible that catholics didn't even exist during the days of Acts. Those in the Book of Acts are the first Christians, and they believed what would be called fundamentalist doctrine today. ANYONE can read the Book of Acts for themselves and see. Had catholicism existed during the time of Acts, the first Christians would have rejected catholicism completely.
Also here's Christians that called the ';pope'; the antichrist, and who also completely rejected catholicism, long before Martin Luther was even born:
c. 1310
Dante Alighieri
c. 1331
Michael of Cesena
c. 1345
Johannes de Rupescissa
c. 1350
Francesco Petrarch
c. 1367
John Milicz
c. 1379
John Wycliffe
c. 1388
Matthias of Janow
c. 1389
R. Wimbledon
c. 1390
John Purvey
c. 1393
Walter Brute
c. 1412
John Huss
c. 1497
Girolamo Savonarola
So not only is it false to say that ';catholics were the first Christians';, but this list blows away the catholic claim that ';no churches existed other than the catholic church, until Martin Luther';.
There were ALWAYS saved believers outside the catholic cult, who knew catholicism cannot save anyone.
Catholicism cannot save. Only believing in Jesus alone for salvation, is what saves.
Jesus loves you so very much! :D
Salvation is a FREE GIFT that happens in a split second when you believe in Jesus! It is impossible to lose or ';leave'; salvation (John 6:39-40, 1 John 5:13).
The truth about Jesus is that the only way to be saved and to get into heaven and avoid being sent to eternal hell, is by believing in faith alone that Jesus, who is God, died for our sins on the cross as FULL PAYMENT for all our sins, and then Jesus rose from the dead (1 Corinthians 15:1-4). Believe this and you will be in heaven, no matter what!
Please pray now: ';Jesus, please forgive me of my sins. I believe that You died on the cross for my sins and You rose from the dead. Thank You for eternal life!'; You will be in heaven with Him forever when you die. :)
Well, what you are describing is something all who want to follow God experience, All of us are still sinners, but that doesn't mean we don't turn away from sins, if we fall now and then and truly ask for forgiveness, God will forgive, but if we pursue a relationship with God constantly, the less sin even tempts us, The opposite of all sin is Holiness, when we pursue God Who is Holy and the things of God- Holiness, the less we will fall into sin, In life, we will see that our dependence on things, on people, on certain events etc. will let us down, nothing and no one is completely dependable but God and if we depend on anything other than God, we can make these things God in our lives, and put God in a lower place, The very first commandment is Love the Lord thy God with all thy strength, mind, soul. God is to be number 1, If our relationship with God is number 1, everything else will be in right perspective and will be in their right place, and there is a peace and joy that comes from this. God is calling us to complete dependence and surrender to Him and this gives you peace, the world cannot give you.
Hold on to these verses in Jeremiah 17:5-10
';5Thus says the LORD:';Cursed is the man who trusts in man
and makes flesh his strength,
whose heart turns away from the LORD.
6 He is like a shrub in the desert,
and shall not see any good come.
He shall dwell in the parched places of the wilderness,
in an uninhabited salt land.
7 ';Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD,
whose trust is the LORD.
8 He is like a tree planted by water,
that sends out its roots by the stream,
and does not fear when heat comes,
for its leaves remain green,
and is not anxious in the year of drought,
for it does not cease to bear fruit.';
9The heart is deceitful above all things,
and desperately sick;
who can understand it?
10 ';I the LORD search the heart
and test the mind,
to give every man according to his ways,
according to the fruit of his deeds.';';
Whats the best advice you could give a young person about life?
Give more, expect less.Whats the best advice you could give a young person about life?
1. D.U.D.E. - Don't Use Drugs Ever
2. Live life to the fullest but know your limitations
TEEN CREED
Don't let you parents down, they brought you up
Be Humble enough to obey, you may give orders someday
Choose companions with care, you may become what they are
Guard your thoughts, what you think you are
Choose only a date who would make a good mate
Be master of your habits or they will master you
Don't be a show off when you drive, drive with safety and arrive
Don't let the crowd pressure you
Stand for something, or you'll fall for nothing
This creed was from a frame the Vice mayor of our town gave me when I turned thirteen. :) it's just memorable enough to share.Whats the best advice you could give a young person about life?
Time heals all wounds
Things change, always, both for bad and for good, any bad times you go through - don't lose heart, things will change.
Love all you can no matter how much you get hurt, trust without giving your whole self away.
Laugh as often as you can and don't become cynical
Have compassion for your follow beings but don't let the weight of the world tear at your heart.
You only have one life - so be happy.
xx
Learn from your mistakes, enjoy your youth, embrace it, stay ignorant to the world for as long as possible, don't make war, make love, and most important: Don't take anything too seriously, have fun and live your life to the fullest cos you only get one chance
';If there's a message, let it be a message of love.';
';Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.';
Mohandas Gandhi
';No matter what you have or have not done, you are worthy of love.'; John.F.Demartini
Don't bother with the opposite sex until your finished school!
(Including college or university!!)
love every minute... have as much fun as you can... and if you're not having fun, get out and do the next big adventure... life's a gift.. live it to its fullest!
live every day like its your last
laugh at your self sometimes it helps
don't throw stones at glass houses
never judge unless you want to be judged
be kind to your self
x x x
There are no wrong descisions, but be open to oppurtunities.
never leave the one you love for the one you like cuz the one you like will leave you for the one they love
Look after the pennies and the pounds will look after themselves!
live every day like its your last, cos tomorrow may be..!!
and use a condom
say no to drugs
stay away from my daughter
heya!
i say: life is not about waiting for the storm to pass its about learning to dance in the rain.. :)
EXERCISE
Add more fiber to your diet or face horrid consequences.
i honestly cannot tell you i thought long and hard about this and i cannot give answer.
dont f*** up and take drugs.and dont quit high school.
(my younger brother is learning the hard way).
Be relax, be coldblooded
Get married ONLY with the one you love, don't get married because of money or other stupid reasons!
dont watch 2 girls 1 cup, itll scar you for life. :)
Don't EVER do drugs.
';Not everyone can be trusted.';
u'll face many disappointments but u have to find the courage to go on
any mistakes that i've made hopefully they listen and wont make those same mistakes
Life sucks so live it up...
just be smart to make smart choices and be strong coz life is full of challenges.
Just go loony!
keep an open mind, and try not to do drugs
it sucks.
and gets
worse
as
you
mature.
blah.
Be the change you want to see in the world.
Get used to it, kiddo.
It ain't gonna get any easier.
1. D.U.D.E. - Don't Use Drugs Ever
2. Live life to the fullest but know your limitations
TEEN CREED
Don't let you parents down, they brought you up
Be Humble enough to obey, you may give orders someday
Choose companions with care, you may become what they are
Guard your thoughts, what you think you are
Choose only a date who would make a good mate
Be master of your habits or they will master you
Don't be a show off when you drive, drive with safety and arrive
Don't let the crowd pressure you
Stand for something, or you'll fall for nothing
This creed was from a frame the Vice mayor of our town gave me when I turned thirteen. :) it's just memorable enough to share.Whats the best advice you could give a young person about life?
Time heals all wounds
Things change, always, both for bad and for good, any bad times you go through - don't lose heart, things will change.
Love all you can no matter how much you get hurt, trust without giving your whole self away.
Laugh as often as you can and don't become cynical
Have compassion for your follow beings but don't let the weight of the world tear at your heart.
You only have one life - so be happy.
xx
Learn from your mistakes, enjoy your youth, embrace it, stay ignorant to the world for as long as possible, don't make war, make love, and most important: Don't take anything too seriously, have fun and live your life to the fullest cos you only get one chance
';If there's a message, let it be a message of love.';
';Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.';
Mohandas Gandhi
';No matter what you have or have not done, you are worthy of love.'; John.F.Demartini
Don't bother with the opposite sex until your finished school!
(Including college or university!!)
love every minute... have as much fun as you can... and if you're not having fun, get out and do the next big adventure... life's a gift.. live it to its fullest!
live every day like its your last
laugh at your self sometimes it helps
don't throw stones at glass houses
never judge unless you want to be judged
be kind to your self
x x x
There are no wrong descisions, but be open to oppurtunities.
never leave the one you love for the one you like cuz the one you like will leave you for the one they love
Look after the pennies and the pounds will look after themselves!
live every day like its your last, cos tomorrow may be..!!
and use a condom
say no to drugs
stay away from my daughter
heya!
i say: life is not about waiting for the storm to pass its about learning to dance in the rain.. :)
EXERCISE
Add more fiber to your diet or face horrid consequences.
i honestly cannot tell you i thought long and hard about this and i cannot give answer.
dont f*** up and take drugs.and dont quit high school.
(my younger brother is learning the hard way).
Be relax, be coldblooded
Get married ONLY with the one you love, don't get married because of money or other stupid reasons!
dont watch 2 girls 1 cup, itll scar you for life. :)
Don't EVER do drugs.
';Not everyone can be trusted.';
u'll face many disappointments but u have to find the courage to go on
any mistakes that i've made hopefully they listen and wont make those same mistakes
Life sucks so live it up...
just be smart to make smart choices and be strong coz life is full of challenges.
Just go loony!
keep an open mind, and try not to do drugs
it sucks.
and gets
worse
as
you
mature.
blah.
Be the change you want to see in the world.
Get used to it, kiddo.
It ain't gonna get any easier.
Church Vs Social Life? Advice please...?
I believe in god and I do go to church every once in a while. I honestly don't have a social life and I feel I need one. But it seems everytime when I'm about to do something I always wanted to do, what I don't do in church always get thrown up in my face. I hear this so much to the point where I just don't believe anymore, and I'm just not sure.
I was just thinking back to when I started going out for the first time in two years and how badly my mother tried to hold me back from it. My cousin invited me to her 21st birthday party in May, and my mother didn't want me to go. She then tried to use church against what I wanted to do...saying things like ';can you go to your cousins party but you can't go to any church events?';...this happens all the time. When people invite me somewhere its always no this and no that, but when a church event comes up she always expect me to go and I never do. I'm not really interested and I would just like to live my life normal.
Then yesterday my cousin invited me to a party he was having and before I could say anything else, it was ';HELL NO. You're not going. They like to drink.'; It wasn't like I was going there to have a few drinks, I was going there just to have fun. I could care less on the drinking part. Plus whenever we do go over to our families house they do drink and smoke, so I don't really see the difference.
I would have a conversation with her about it, but it would get blown out of proportion and she would think little of me. I just don't want to live my life wondering if I'm doing anything wrong and feeling guilty of anything just because of how I was raised. Btw, I'm 19. I just want to live a normal life without any strings attach...Church Vs Social Life? Advice please...?
God doesn't exist. I'm 14 and am to old for these fairy tales. Use your common sense and use your brain. You have one life. Live it to your best.Church Vs Social Life? Advice please...?
It's utter nonsense ie sin to exercise control over a humanbeing unless he/she is a threat to society..A church being a part of society has to make its contribution to building a society that helps man to bloom to the full.So it's wrong to frame a phrase like 'church vs social life'
Leave the church, they are manipulating you.
you're 19? move out.
i'm really sorry about what you're going through, luckily my parents have always given me a choice to go to church or not.
anyways.. you should be able to move out soon, so you can do what you want and make friends.
also, drinking alcohol isn't a sin.
anyways... until you can move somewhere else, you're just going to have to deal with your mom.
Drinking is not a sin. It is only drunkenness that is sin, and like all sins, drunkenness is forgiven completely by the person believing in Jesus alone for salvation
And ';believing in God'; won't save you. Going to a church building won't save you either.
It is only believing in JESUS alone for salvation, that saves :)
Jesus is God, and Jesus loves you so very much! :D
Salvation is a FREE GIFT that happens in a split second when you believe in Jesus alone to save you! It is impossible to lose or ';leave'; salvation (John 6:39-40, John 10:28, 1 John 5:13).
The truth about Jesus is that the only way to be saved and to get into heaven and avoid being sent to eternal hell, is by believing in faith alone that Jesus, who is God, died for our sins on the cross as FULL PAYMENT for all our sins, and then Jesus rose from the dead (1 Corinthians 15:1-4). Believe this and you will be in heaven, no matter what!
Please pray now: ';Jesus, please forgive me of my sins. I believe that You died on the cross for my sins and You rose from the dead. Thank You for eternal life!'; You will be in heaven with Him forever when you die. :)
You are going through the normal pangs of teenage life and breaking out on your own. But if you truly believe in God and that Christ died for your sins, you will honor your mother and father. My mother did the same thing when I was a teenager and I was really angry, because I thought I was missing out. But looking back, I'm glad she did that, because many of those kids took a different road in life than I did. Your Mom loves you, and is trying to protect you. You will still have your good days and bad at home, but making the ';right'; choice isn't always the easy road.
sounds like your mom is worried about you and the paths that are out there with so much temptation...she doesnt want you tempted and off the right path.
you shouldnt feel guilty unless you are doing something you know is wrong. you will feel it inside, if you are a believer. if the people you want to hang are bad influences, it will effect your life. you cant think you can some how stay separate from it.
mb to please your mom and open other doors to explore, try some church events. there is no reason why you cant have both a life in and out of church.
try this...
Mom, I am 19 and an adult. I know right from wrong and God knows where I am and what I am doing and I am not going to do anything that he would be unhappy with.
If you have a problem with how you raised me then you need to talk to God about that and let me get on with my life and my walk with God.
Hope this idea helps...
don't do anything that your guardian angel would be embarrassed to see. :)elizabeth arden
I was just thinking back to when I started going out for the first time in two years and how badly my mother tried to hold me back from it. My cousin invited me to her 21st birthday party in May, and my mother didn't want me to go. She then tried to use church against what I wanted to do...saying things like ';can you go to your cousins party but you can't go to any church events?';...this happens all the time. When people invite me somewhere its always no this and no that, but when a church event comes up she always expect me to go and I never do. I'm not really interested and I would just like to live my life normal.
Then yesterday my cousin invited me to a party he was having and before I could say anything else, it was ';HELL NO. You're not going. They like to drink.'; It wasn't like I was going there to have a few drinks, I was going there just to have fun. I could care less on the drinking part. Plus whenever we do go over to our families house they do drink and smoke, so I don't really see the difference.
I would have a conversation with her about it, but it would get blown out of proportion and she would think little of me. I just don't want to live my life wondering if I'm doing anything wrong and feeling guilty of anything just because of how I was raised. Btw, I'm 19. I just want to live a normal life without any strings attach...Church Vs Social Life? Advice please...?
God doesn't exist. I'm 14 and am to old for these fairy tales. Use your common sense and use your brain. You have one life. Live it to your best.Church Vs Social Life? Advice please...?
It's utter nonsense ie sin to exercise control over a humanbeing unless he/she is a threat to society..A church being a part of society has to make its contribution to building a society that helps man to bloom to the full.So it's wrong to frame a phrase like 'church vs social life'
Leave the church, they are manipulating you.
you're 19? move out.
i'm really sorry about what you're going through, luckily my parents have always given me a choice to go to church or not.
anyways.. you should be able to move out soon, so you can do what you want and make friends.
also, drinking alcohol isn't a sin.
anyways... until you can move somewhere else, you're just going to have to deal with your mom.
Drinking is not a sin. It is only drunkenness that is sin, and like all sins, drunkenness is forgiven completely by the person believing in Jesus alone for salvation
And ';believing in God'; won't save you. Going to a church building won't save you either.
It is only believing in JESUS alone for salvation, that saves :)
Jesus is God, and Jesus loves you so very much! :D
Salvation is a FREE GIFT that happens in a split second when you believe in Jesus alone to save you! It is impossible to lose or ';leave'; salvation (John 6:39-40, John 10:28, 1 John 5:13).
The truth about Jesus is that the only way to be saved and to get into heaven and avoid being sent to eternal hell, is by believing in faith alone that Jesus, who is God, died for our sins on the cross as FULL PAYMENT for all our sins, and then Jesus rose from the dead (1 Corinthians 15:1-4). Believe this and you will be in heaven, no matter what!
Please pray now: ';Jesus, please forgive me of my sins. I believe that You died on the cross for my sins and You rose from the dead. Thank You for eternal life!'; You will be in heaven with Him forever when you die. :)
You are going through the normal pangs of teenage life and breaking out on your own. But if you truly believe in God and that Christ died for your sins, you will honor your mother and father. My mother did the same thing when I was a teenager and I was really angry, because I thought I was missing out. But looking back, I'm glad she did that, because many of those kids took a different road in life than I did. Your Mom loves you, and is trying to protect you. You will still have your good days and bad at home, but making the ';right'; choice isn't always the easy road.
sounds like your mom is worried about you and the paths that are out there with so much temptation...she doesnt want you tempted and off the right path.
you shouldnt feel guilty unless you are doing something you know is wrong. you will feel it inside, if you are a believer. if the people you want to hang are bad influences, it will effect your life. you cant think you can some how stay separate from it.
mb to please your mom and open other doors to explore, try some church events. there is no reason why you cant have both a life in and out of church.
try this...
Mom, I am 19 and an adult. I know right from wrong and God knows where I am and what I am doing and I am not going to do anything that he would be unhappy with.
If you have a problem with how you raised me then you need to talk to God about that and let me get on with my life and my walk with God.
Hope this idea helps...
don't do anything that your guardian angel would be embarrassed to see. :)
I need some life advice?
I got married to my husband 1 year after my mother passed away (complications Heart Surgery) anyway he had been out of prison for 3 months when we married and he came to live with me and my family he finally got his life together and worked a good job spoiled me and my family, after my father died everything changed he quit working started drinking and doing drugs I thought to move away from our home town, his family, (mine died) to get a handle on the drinking,it was ok for a while then he found another dope dealer, and you know the rest, Well for 7 months he did nothing but lay around and drink daily,(he could get credit ) for drugs and drinking more than anyone I knew and we would either be sitting in the dark or trying to find somewhere to go, so I had to work after 7 months I got laid off (disabled) and he had to go to work, now he's working and I'm not and he expects me to kiss his ***, he counts every penny and is selfish, I am losing my mind what can I do?I need some life advice?
Move on, while you still retain some of YOU! Before long, the way this is going, there will be none of YOU, left!I need some life advice?
He is a loser and he is taking you down with him you need to get away from him and go out and find your place in this world. Get it together only without him you can be happy again.
you both need to grow up--you maried a guy fresh out of prison--did u think he would be a brain surgeon??? u in a single wide or double wide???
He sounds like an ill person in many ways. I think you need marriage counseling to work through these problems.
In general though, it is not ok for marital partners to be disrepsectful of each other. Marital partners need to treat each other the way they want to be treated! (do unto others...) If this is not happening, then there is a problem.
It sounds like he resents you for not working due to your disability, and wishes you would go back to work so he could stay home and drink and do drugs!!! Is this right?
I think it all sounds very unhealthy. I hope you can get counseling for these issues. If not, you may have to leave him. If he is still addicted, you'd be wise to leave him at least until he gets his addiction under control. He may need to be in rehab.
Move on, while you still retain some of YOU! Before long, the way this is going, there will be none of YOU, left!I need some life advice?
He is a loser and he is taking you down with him you need to get away from him and go out and find your place in this world. Get it together only without him you can be happy again.
you both need to grow up--you maried a guy fresh out of prison--did u think he would be a brain surgeon??? u in a single wide or double wide???
He sounds like an ill person in many ways. I think you need marriage counseling to work through these problems.
In general though, it is not ok for marital partners to be disrepsectful of each other. Marital partners need to treat each other the way they want to be treated! (do unto others...) If this is not happening, then there is a problem.
It sounds like he resents you for not working due to your disability, and wishes you would go back to work so he could stay home and drink and do drugs!!! Is this right?
I think it all sounds very unhealthy. I hope you can get counseling for these issues. If not, you may have to leave him. If he is still addicted, you'd be wise to leave him at least until he gets his addiction under control. He may need to be in rehab.
Second Life: Any advice from residents for a newbie?
Made my account this morning, but I really have no idea what it's all about. Wanna' be a tour guide?Second Life: Any advice from residents for a newbie?
Grid is down still for 'updating'. When you get on, use the Search button at the bottom of your screen. You can use to locate cool places to shop, go clubbing, practically anything. Give me a IM sometime, I'm Kristy Cordeaux in-game also. Good luck and have fun :)Second Life: Any advice from residents for a newbie?
Well, the gist is that it's not a ';game per se'; but more of an ';environment'; in which you can interact with other people as well as create world content -- objects (items, clothes, buildings, plants, cars, etc.), scripts (i.e., code that makes something happen, whether it's butterflies flying around or earrings that ';bling'; or guns that actually fire things or vehicles that move).
There's also a commercial component to SL. IOW, you can sell whatever you create to other players in-game, if they are willing to buy it. Many people like to customize their avatar's appearance (body, clothes, skin, etc.) and pay for what others have created in order to create a unique and individual look for themselves.
SL also provides a ';virtual interface'; for people to get together. You will find a bunch of groups who meet on different issues -- religious groups, therapy groups, programmers, etc. It's rather like the infamous ';party line'; except you can all interact in a virtual world. Maybe real life is better overall, but SL provides an interface not restrained by physical location.
Go hang out on Help Island. There are official ';mentors'; who make a point of helping new players and can give much more detailed information to your specific questions, as you go along.
Also liberally use the Search feature at the bottom of your screen. You can search for items being sold, places, specific people, events that are being held, and so on -- and teleport right to those locations in-game.
I would also recommend visiting the forums regularly (http://forums.secondlife.com).
The community forums are active and can provide much detailed information as well as an overview of what's important to residents right now. You can also post any specific questions you might have.
Good luck!
Grid is down still for 'updating'. When you get on, use the Search button at the bottom of your screen. You can use to locate cool places to shop, go clubbing, practically anything. Give me a IM sometime, I'm Kristy Cordeaux in-game also. Good luck and have fun :)Second Life: Any advice from residents for a newbie?
Well, the gist is that it's not a ';game per se'; but more of an ';environment'; in which you can interact with other people as well as create world content -- objects (items, clothes, buildings, plants, cars, etc.), scripts (i.e., code that makes something happen, whether it's butterflies flying around or earrings that ';bling'; or guns that actually fire things or vehicles that move).
There's also a commercial component to SL. IOW, you can sell whatever you create to other players in-game, if they are willing to buy it. Many people like to customize their avatar's appearance (body, clothes, skin, etc.) and pay for what others have created in order to create a unique and individual look for themselves.
SL also provides a ';virtual interface'; for people to get together. You will find a bunch of groups who meet on different issues -- religious groups, therapy groups, programmers, etc. It's rather like the infamous ';party line'; except you can all interact in a virtual world. Maybe real life is better overall, but SL provides an interface not restrained by physical location.
Go hang out on Help Island. There are official ';mentors'; who make a point of helping new players and can give much more detailed information to your specific questions, as you go along.
Also liberally use the Search feature at the bottom of your screen. You can search for items being sold, places, specific people, events that are being held, and so on -- and teleport right to those locations in-game.
I would also recommend visiting the forums regularly (http://forums.secondlife.com).
The community forums are active and can provide much detailed information as well as an overview of what's important to residents right now. You can also post any specific questions you might have.
Good luck!
Looking for Life advice?
Sorry if this is a bit drone.
Ok I know life is ultimately up to me but I really don't have anyone to look to for advice or guidance so why not ask a bunch of strangers that don't know me???
First is I am 25 years old and still live at home. The ONLY reason I still live at home is I have a disabled mom who needs help around the house and her husband works too much to help and my brothers and sisters refuse to help. That being said my life was put on hold pretty much as soon as I graduated high school I didn't get to go to college I don't really have a social life at all. My life revolves around making sure my mom has what she needs. But in doing so she 110% does not appreciate it at all and controls almost every aspect of my life. I mean I feel like a teen all the time.
Everything has to be her way period. And if it is not you will know by the tantrums and her downgrading you until you feel like nothing. But as soon as you do what she wants she acts like you are the best thing in the world. I am literally terrified when I hear her go to the kitchen of a morning if she doesn't speak. Because if she doesn't speak first I know she is going to do something that day to make me feel worthless.
I don't know if I should just keep my mouth shut until I can move out. Or if I should say something. On the good days me and my mom get along FANTASTICALLY!Looking for Life advice?
I agree with the above. I was in almost exact same situation with no appreciation feeling like my mom didn't give a hell about me as long as I was doing something for her.
We got along great as long as everything was her way but if I had a different opinion all hell broke loose.
I didn't get up and start shouting like a child or stomp off I sat down and talked to her like an adult.
I have since moved out and began my own life and me and my mom talk on the phone at least 3 times a week and I visit her often. There is no more downgrading me or making me feel like nothing.
My mom too is disabled and now she has people to help her out. Doesn't mean I totally cut her off I help when I can. And I didn't just leave without making sure she had the help she needed.Looking for Life advice?
well you can ask this advice at jamrie.com
its more of a personal advice website.
people over there might be able to help you out.
i go there all the time!
You know what, you have lost many years of your life taking care of your mother, and I would certainly say you are a good son.It's time that you leave and live your own life doing what you want to do. You need to tell your mom and dad both that they must hire someone to take care of your mother, that you will be moving out. All the good you have done for your mother and she treats you bad, that is not right. I wish you worlds of luck and hope you can leave soon.
She treats you badly because...she can. You have not told her that her bad behaviour is not acceptable...it doesn't mean you love her any less just because you tell her . What you need to do is ..stop looking for her approval...stop putting your hand out to have it slapped ..stand up for yourself. Maybe that is why the rest of the family don't do much for her...because they wont accept her ..thankless behaviour. It appears you get on FANTASTICALLY when everything is going her way. You are 25yrs old and that is old enough to take a stand...if she doesn't like it...then you need to move out and get a life for yourself.
Ok I know life is ultimately up to me but I really don't have anyone to look to for advice or guidance so why not ask a bunch of strangers that don't know me???
First is I am 25 years old and still live at home. The ONLY reason I still live at home is I have a disabled mom who needs help around the house and her husband works too much to help and my brothers and sisters refuse to help. That being said my life was put on hold pretty much as soon as I graduated high school I didn't get to go to college I don't really have a social life at all. My life revolves around making sure my mom has what she needs. But in doing so she 110% does not appreciate it at all and controls almost every aspect of my life. I mean I feel like a teen all the time.
Everything has to be her way period. And if it is not you will know by the tantrums and her downgrading you until you feel like nothing. But as soon as you do what she wants she acts like you are the best thing in the world. I am literally terrified when I hear her go to the kitchen of a morning if she doesn't speak. Because if she doesn't speak first I know she is going to do something that day to make me feel worthless.
I don't know if I should just keep my mouth shut until I can move out. Or if I should say something. On the good days me and my mom get along FANTASTICALLY!Looking for Life advice?
I agree with the above. I was in almost exact same situation with no appreciation feeling like my mom didn't give a hell about me as long as I was doing something for her.
We got along great as long as everything was her way but if I had a different opinion all hell broke loose.
I didn't get up and start shouting like a child or stomp off I sat down and talked to her like an adult.
I have since moved out and began my own life and me and my mom talk on the phone at least 3 times a week and I visit her often. There is no more downgrading me or making me feel like nothing.
My mom too is disabled and now she has people to help her out. Doesn't mean I totally cut her off I help when I can. And I didn't just leave without making sure she had the help she needed.Looking for Life advice?
well you can ask this advice at jamrie.com
its more of a personal advice website.
people over there might be able to help you out.
i go there all the time!
You know what, you have lost many years of your life taking care of your mother, and I would certainly say you are a good son.It's time that you leave and live your own life doing what you want to do. You need to tell your mom and dad both that they must hire someone to take care of your mother, that you will be moving out. All the good you have done for your mother and she treats you bad, that is not right. I wish you worlds of luck and hope you can leave soon.
She treats you badly because...she can. You have not told her that her bad behaviour is not acceptable...it doesn't mean you love her any less just because you tell her . What you need to do is ..stop looking for her approval...stop putting your hand out to have it slapped ..stand up for yourself. Maybe that is why the rest of the family don't do much for her...because they wont accept her ..thankless behaviour. It appears you get on FANTASTICALLY when everything is going her way. You are 25yrs old and that is old enough to take a stand...if she doesn't like it...then you need to move out and get a life for yourself.
Needing career/life advice...badly...?
ok....so its 2AM and I've been studying for the past 7 hours...i step out for some air and it hits me...WHY AM I DOING THIS?
I've been on this Political Science shtick for about 2 years now, but I'm having second thoughts about it. I love politics and want to participate in it most actively, but the material is boring me to tears at times. Read, read, read....thats all I do and it never seems to pay off. I'm struggling in my classes because they are just boring.
I've changed major from computer science to history to english and now its political science, something I thought would really interest me, but now I'm regretting it......this semester will be my 8th and I still have another year to go
My question boils done to this basically....how, if ever, did you come to realize what it was that you wanted to do with your life? I want to be happy, or at least mildly content, with my career...any wisdom on how you figured out what made you content?
I long for an ';aha'; moment....Needing career/life advice...badly...?
Doesn't that blow? At least you are realizing this while you are still in school! I had my moment when I graduated and did THREE YEARS of various interning at law firms/for judges. I woke up and said No way to a career in law. It was hard to deal with w/o feeling like I had wasted a ton of time but the important thing to remember is that finding out what you do NOT want to do is just as valuable as finding out what you do want to do. So waht now?
Take your butt to the career placement center - or wherever they offer a career assessment test at your school. If you cannot find a place, go online and search at about.com for a place that offers these - there are tons of them. many will charge a fee for a full report but many will give you a summary for free. The questions are bland and designed to help you narrow down your direction. Use the results as a guide, not gospel. research what sounds like a fit and pursue that.
Good luckNeeding career/life advice...badly...?
I feel you man, I've got a few classes now that I'd rather stab myself in the leg than go to. I'm pre-med, so I'm sure I've got a few of these classes coming to me. I don't know of anything that would give you an a-ha moment, but when I get frustrated with some of these classes I think about where I'll be when I finally get that M.D. Sometimes I watch like, knee replacements and bone grafting surgeries online, it gets me back on track. What made you change your major?
I could use someone to drag me back on track, if you want to try and help each other feel free to hit me up :)
I knew what I wanted to do back in high school. My art teacher was always asking me to help other students because I was helpful no matter what. I was always showing students how to draw and willing to listen and learn new ways of teaching students.
I continued to show a great deal of effort in my art classes and was even willing to suffer through Eurocentric art classes that didn't reflect other countries with art collections and histories.
My aha moment came when I was doing research and introduced African art into my Body in the Nonwestern art class. My teacher was actually impressed with my argument against calling other cultures primitive and child like. It was being able to influence and change somebody's thoughts with out using harsh language , but meaningful substance to get them change their thoughts on art.
I want to some day teach in a college or a community college...while African art is receiving more weight in modern times...I would like to still be able to teach foundational art to aspiring artists and help them see more than just Euro-centric texts for inspiration.
Art is not work for me..its fun and getting paid to teach it is like heaven for me. ..Plus getting paid double the rate of a district teacher is awesome too!
BTW..sometimes it ain't just the classes that determine our interest..sometimes its ourselves and the type of compatible teacher too...I was turned off by teachers that bragged that they had been to see the sistine chapel..that is about as appealing as watching paint dry...and so over done.. none of my professors could tell me they seen ancient Asian art in person..or ever traveled beyond Europe..now that's sad.
I've been on this Political Science shtick for about 2 years now, but I'm having second thoughts about it. I love politics and want to participate in it most actively, but the material is boring me to tears at times. Read, read, read....thats all I do and it never seems to pay off. I'm struggling in my classes because they are just boring.
I've changed major from computer science to history to english and now its political science, something I thought would really interest me, but now I'm regretting it......this semester will be my 8th and I still have another year to go
My question boils done to this basically....how, if ever, did you come to realize what it was that you wanted to do with your life? I want to be happy, or at least mildly content, with my career...any wisdom on how you figured out what made you content?
I long for an ';aha'; moment....Needing career/life advice...badly...?
Doesn't that blow? At least you are realizing this while you are still in school! I had my moment when I graduated and did THREE YEARS of various interning at law firms/for judges. I woke up and said No way to a career in law. It was hard to deal with w/o feeling like I had wasted a ton of time but the important thing to remember is that finding out what you do NOT want to do is just as valuable as finding out what you do want to do. So waht now?
Take your butt to the career placement center - or wherever they offer a career assessment test at your school. If you cannot find a place, go online and search at about.com for a place that offers these - there are tons of them. many will charge a fee for a full report but many will give you a summary for free. The questions are bland and designed to help you narrow down your direction. Use the results as a guide, not gospel. research what sounds like a fit and pursue that.
Good luckNeeding career/life advice...badly...?
I feel you man, I've got a few classes now that I'd rather stab myself in the leg than go to. I'm pre-med, so I'm sure I've got a few of these classes coming to me. I don't know of anything that would give you an a-ha moment, but when I get frustrated with some of these classes I think about where I'll be when I finally get that M.D. Sometimes I watch like, knee replacements and bone grafting surgeries online, it gets me back on track. What made you change your major?
I could use someone to drag me back on track, if you want to try and help each other feel free to hit me up :)
I knew what I wanted to do back in high school. My art teacher was always asking me to help other students because I was helpful no matter what. I was always showing students how to draw and willing to listen and learn new ways of teaching students.
I continued to show a great deal of effort in my art classes and was even willing to suffer through Eurocentric art classes that didn't reflect other countries with art collections and histories.
My aha moment came when I was doing research and introduced African art into my Body in the Nonwestern art class. My teacher was actually impressed with my argument against calling other cultures primitive and child like. It was being able to influence and change somebody's thoughts with out using harsh language , but meaningful substance to get them change their thoughts on art.
I want to some day teach in a college or a community college...while African art is receiving more weight in modern times...I would like to still be able to teach foundational art to aspiring artists and help them see more than just Euro-centric texts for inspiration.
Art is not work for me..its fun and getting paid to teach it is like heaven for me. ..Plus getting paid double the rate of a district teacher is awesome too!
BTW..sometimes it ain't just the classes that determine our interest..sometimes its ourselves and the type of compatible teacher too...I was turned off by teachers that bragged that they had been to see the sistine chapel..that is about as appealing as watching paint dry...and so over done.. none of my professors could tell me they seen ancient Asian art in person..or ever traveled beyond Europe..now that's sad.
I Need Life Advice (Please Help)?
I hate my life so much I want to run away or kill myself. There's nothing good ever happening. I'm ugly, stupid... My family treats me horribly. They treat my sister better because she is smart(genius), beautiful, basically perfect. I barley have friends and the friends I do have don't really like me. I can't talk to people and I'm a horrible speller. I don't know what to do. I'm so stressed out. I still go to the babysitter (I'm over the age of 12) and the babysitter treats be horrible too! I don't get anything! I cry everyday of my life. Help me please... I can't take this any longer.I Need Life Advice (Please Help)?
just take it easy and sit down for a minute and think about what u just said. i hate my life too but im not gonna kill my self. u need to toughen up and find it inside u to just say im gonna go living for another day. ur barely 13 so u need to talk to ur parents or something. they will help u.I Need Life Advice (Please Help)?
wooaahh, dont kill youself, think things through...
on the outside, this doesnt seem so bad.. you may be tkaign things to seriously.. then again, i am not you.
what you need are some friends and some good nights out of the house with them. figure out why you think that your friends ';dont like you'; like, maybe you do soemthign that gets on everyones nerves? soemthing liek that could be changed..
dont be jelous of your sister... if you want to be like her, though, thee is nothing wrong with having role models. better yet, try to find seomthign that you are good at, and stick to it. become unique in your own way.
as for the looks, well, just try makeup, get a makeover, haircut... that can always be rexolved.
talkt o your parents about getting a new babysitter... or better yet, try to convince tham that ur old enough to take care of yourself.. i mean, ive never even had a babysitter...
if you dont like ur life where your at, just know that you cannot wait for the things around you to change- you have to get up yourself and change the thigns for the better.
wow you seem to be in a really bad place.
i wish i could help you but am unsure how, ill give you some advice but please dont take it the wrong way or think its stupid.
Have you ever thought of thinking about life from a different perspective? maybe the people you think dont like you actually really do but have no way of showing it. you family loves you even if you dont think so, maybe your sister is jealous of you for reasons you dont even notice about yourself.
most people dont realise this but they are their own worst ememy (i bet you put yourself down all the time)
you may not feel like you fit in now but as you get older you will meet new people and most likely will find someone else or a group of people that you instantly 'click' with. always remember that there is someone out there that is in the same situation as you, and there will always be people who are in a better or waaay worse situation. thats just life, its not always fair.
you are not alone. you will eventually find your place in the world. just give it a bit more time
just take it easy and sit down for a minute and think about what u just said. i hate my life too but im not gonna kill my self. u need to toughen up and find it inside u to just say im gonna go living for another day. ur barely 13 so u need to talk to ur parents or something. they will help u.I Need Life Advice (Please Help)?
wooaahh, dont kill youself, think things through...
on the outside, this doesnt seem so bad.. you may be tkaign things to seriously.. then again, i am not you.
what you need are some friends and some good nights out of the house with them. figure out why you think that your friends ';dont like you'; like, maybe you do soemthign that gets on everyones nerves? soemthing liek that could be changed..
dont be jelous of your sister... if you want to be like her, though, thee is nothing wrong with having role models. better yet, try to find seomthign that you are good at, and stick to it. become unique in your own way.
as for the looks, well, just try makeup, get a makeover, haircut... that can always be rexolved.
talkt o your parents about getting a new babysitter... or better yet, try to convince tham that ur old enough to take care of yourself.. i mean, ive never even had a babysitter...
if you dont like ur life where your at, just know that you cannot wait for the things around you to change- you have to get up yourself and change the thigns for the better.
wow you seem to be in a really bad place.
i wish i could help you but am unsure how, ill give you some advice but please dont take it the wrong way or think its stupid.
Have you ever thought of thinking about life from a different perspective? maybe the people you think dont like you actually really do but have no way of showing it. you family loves you even if you dont think so, maybe your sister is jealous of you for reasons you dont even notice about yourself.
most people dont realise this but they are their own worst ememy (i bet you put yourself down all the time)
you may not feel like you fit in now but as you get older you will meet new people and most likely will find someone else or a group of people that you instantly 'click' with. always remember that there is someone out there that is in the same situation as you, and there will always be people who are in a better or waaay worse situation. thats just life, its not always fair.
you are not alone. you will eventually find your place in the world. just give it a bit more time
A little life advice?
Lately I've found myself under a lot of stress and I think I know a way to solve it. It may just be the same thing that causes the usual high school drama, but I think I'm a little past that. With a lot of extra time on my hands, I've been thinking a lot out a certain few girls I like a lot. I'm pretty picky, and most of the girls at my school are whores or just straight up bitches, but there is one particular one I've had my eye on.
My problem is that I've never really been that popular. I've always been hated more than loved, because I was never part of the clique that dominates everything. The girl has always been part of the clique, and doubtless she has heard numerous made up rumors about me. Plus, I've never really talked to her or tried to get to know her due to the popularity barrier. I know that we have a lot in common and are quite a bit alike, but she doesn't realize that. Is there anyway to try to let her know who I really am without making her uncomfortable with associating with a nobody?
Now, there's one other girl. The problem with her is that she lives two hours away, has a boyfriend already, and is usually pretty busy with stuff I'm not around for. I like her a lot, and she realizes that we have a lot in common. I also found out she has told other people about me, and that she thinks I'm fun to be around, interesting, and likes to talk with me. However, I don't want to say anything about us dating, because she already has a boyfriend. I don't want to break them up if she's happy with him for now, but I want to let her know I'll always be available.
I'm not looking for sex, money, or reputation, just a serious relationship I can get to last for a long time where someone will actually live me back for once.A little life advice?
I give you props my friend. You arent a player or looking for anything besides love. Thats so mature and girls will love that about you.
I was girl number one for a while and this guy was the same as you. He stepped up and let me know... got me to notice him as he playfully kinda flirted with me. Although i was in the in crowd... i didnt get TONS of attention from guys. So it was cute and I sure noticed and flirted back. And then it escalated from there until he asked me out. Unfortunately I already had a bf at that point when he finally got up the nerve but i tell you that if i didnt have a bf... then he would have been next in line. Even tho he wasnt part of the in crowd... I pick girl number one. Its probably not a good idea to over-associate with girl number two. Dont get mixed up in her feelings. Leave her happily two hours away with her bf. It'll be better that way
Good luck my friend :)A little life advice?
Just start off with small talk with the first girl, I wouldnt go after the one with the boyfriend. Get to know the first girl more, you have nothing to lose, everything to gainelizabeth arden
My problem is that I've never really been that popular. I've always been hated more than loved, because I was never part of the clique that dominates everything. The girl has always been part of the clique, and doubtless she has heard numerous made up rumors about me. Plus, I've never really talked to her or tried to get to know her due to the popularity barrier. I know that we have a lot in common and are quite a bit alike, but she doesn't realize that. Is there anyway to try to let her know who I really am without making her uncomfortable with associating with a nobody?
Now, there's one other girl. The problem with her is that she lives two hours away, has a boyfriend already, and is usually pretty busy with stuff I'm not around for. I like her a lot, and she realizes that we have a lot in common. I also found out she has told other people about me, and that she thinks I'm fun to be around, interesting, and likes to talk with me. However, I don't want to say anything about us dating, because she already has a boyfriend. I don't want to break them up if she's happy with him for now, but I want to let her know I'll always be available.
I'm not looking for sex, money, or reputation, just a serious relationship I can get to last for a long time where someone will actually live me back for once.A little life advice?
I give you props my friend. You arent a player or looking for anything besides love. Thats so mature and girls will love that about you.
I was girl number one for a while and this guy was the same as you. He stepped up and let me know... got me to notice him as he playfully kinda flirted with me. Although i was in the in crowd... i didnt get TONS of attention from guys. So it was cute and I sure noticed and flirted back. And then it escalated from there until he asked me out. Unfortunately I already had a bf at that point when he finally got up the nerve but i tell you that if i didnt have a bf... then he would have been next in line. Even tho he wasnt part of the in crowd... I pick girl number one. Its probably not a good idea to over-associate with girl number two. Dont get mixed up in her feelings. Leave her happily two hours away with her bf. It'll be better that way
Good luck my friend :)A little life advice?
Just start off with small talk with the first girl, I wouldnt go after the one with the boyfriend. Get to know the first girl more, you have nothing to lose, everything to gain
Career/Job/Life Advice...?
I'm kind of in a 'stuck' place %26amp; not sure which direction to go in. I have 2 degrees in totally different subjects and cannot get past $8-$10/hr jobs.
Those salaries are not enough for me to pay for food, housing, transportation %26amp; student loans.
I'm in my 30's. I want to start my life in terms of buying a condo, have kids, pursue some hobbies but I can barely pay for my own expenses (did I mention I just rent a room). I can't even afford to pursue a new degree.
Which direction can I go in? I'm not a good 'people person' which knocks out a lot of jobs %26amp; even having my own business. I'm good at ideas, concepts, creativity and variety.
Any suggestions on what I could do to either decrease student loans, get a better paying job or both?Career/Job/Life Advice...?
Since the late 1980's there had been a steady increase in the number of graduates of all persuasions doing so called ';Mac-Jobs'; so you are not alone. There are plenty of well educated people who have not made a career for themselves.
You don't say what your degrees are in or what you are experienced in so I can't give you any specific information but here is how I went about turning my life around and how I have adviced other people in your situation.
1) Get ruthless with your finances. Ditch any expenditure that isn't absolutely vital and make sure anything you do spend is an investment in where you want to be.
2) Get ruthless with your time. No more tv, no more idling. Ring fence your free time and be sure that you use that time effectively to start thinking about what you are going to do and what you need to learn to get there.
3) Realise that you could be wrong about yourself. You know there are beliefs you have now about what is possible for yourself and some of those you got from the culture you grew up in, some of them you learned from your parents, others you have decided for yourself based on your experience. But you have been wrong before. So what if you were wrong about your beliefs about yourself. What if you are capable of far more than you think?
4) Take time to daydream about your life, in particular the things that you have been passionate about, the things that you love doing, the things you know more than anyone else about. Sure you've got to find some service or value that someone is willing to pay for but you will have far more enthusiasm, energy and passion for that if it is something you love. What about your hobbies?
5) Take a good look at your strengths and your weaknesses. How are your strengths useful to other people, what value to you add to your job over and above what is required of you. Look honestly at your weaknesses. Decide to do something about them. It's never too late to learn.
6) Start looking through the job pages. You mention you are creative so don't just look at the local newspaper. look at trade magazines, internet sites. explore industries you never knew existed. Look out for jobs that you think ';oohhh that sounds cool, I'd love to do that'; or ';Hey I could do that job I'm sure'; Don't worry about not having the experience or qualifications for now. This is just about finding out what you might like to do. The requirements of the job will tell you what you will need to do in order to be in a position to take such a job.
7) Get out and talk to people. Find other people who have turned their life around. Find people doing the jobs you would like to do and find out how they got there. Tell people about your ideas and see what comes back to you. You can't work it all out in your own head. Start putting ideas out into the world, people will respond to the good ones.
8) Be a people person. I know you say you are not a good people person. I see intelligent, resourceful people every day in my coaching practice who are shy, who don't know how to talk to other people or what is expected of them in social situations. And every week I see those people become more confident and more sure of themselves as they learn just how simple it is. Make this your first challenge. Be yourself with other people and it will completely turn your life around. Find some courses you can go on, if you can't afford to pay for them offer to do some voluntary work in return. An investment in yourself will pay for itself tenfold in any job you finally end up doing.
9) Find a good career coach (sometimes a local job agency will have someone who can help you create a great cv). Or find a friend who can do this for you. Look back over your work life, your hobbies, groups and clubs you have belonged to, any responsibility that you have had in your career or your personal life. What skills do these jobs demonstrate? As an example think of the single mum returning to work when her kids are all at school. She has to manage the family accounts, multi task, keep organised, deal with health workers, school teachers etc. All these skills are transferable into other domains.
10) There will always be people who never find the energy or the belief in themselves to turn their life around. But there are millions of people who have: and if one person can do it then that means a) it's possible and b) there's at least one way to learn how to do it. Decide what kind of person you are going to be and stick to it.
11) Be a people person. I know I know, you said you're not good with people. But the very fact that you asked this question means you realise how useful it is to have contact with other people, even strangers who you'll never meet. People are amazing! they are brave, fickle, loyal, beautiful, stupid. And everyone has a unique story to tell. I've spent time with people who I never in a million years thought I would ever have anythingCareer/Job/Life Advice...?
go to this website and see if you can get help
https://www.storesonlinepro.com/store/27鈥?/a>
The military may be a place to find your pursuits. Not all positions are combat.
Those salaries are not enough for me to pay for food, housing, transportation %26amp; student loans.
I'm in my 30's. I want to start my life in terms of buying a condo, have kids, pursue some hobbies but I can barely pay for my own expenses (did I mention I just rent a room). I can't even afford to pursue a new degree.
Which direction can I go in? I'm not a good 'people person' which knocks out a lot of jobs %26amp; even having my own business. I'm good at ideas, concepts, creativity and variety.
Any suggestions on what I could do to either decrease student loans, get a better paying job or both?Career/Job/Life Advice...?
Since the late 1980's there had been a steady increase in the number of graduates of all persuasions doing so called ';Mac-Jobs'; so you are not alone. There are plenty of well educated people who have not made a career for themselves.
You don't say what your degrees are in or what you are experienced in so I can't give you any specific information but here is how I went about turning my life around and how I have adviced other people in your situation.
1) Get ruthless with your finances. Ditch any expenditure that isn't absolutely vital and make sure anything you do spend is an investment in where you want to be.
2) Get ruthless with your time. No more tv, no more idling. Ring fence your free time and be sure that you use that time effectively to start thinking about what you are going to do and what you need to learn to get there.
3) Realise that you could be wrong about yourself. You know there are beliefs you have now about what is possible for yourself and some of those you got from the culture you grew up in, some of them you learned from your parents, others you have decided for yourself based on your experience. But you have been wrong before. So what if you were wrong about your beliefs about yourself. What if you are capable of far more than you think?
4) Take time to daydream about your life, in particular the things that you have been passionate about, the things that you love doing, the things you know more than anyone else about. Sure you've got to find some service or value that someone is willing to pay for but you will have far more enthusiasm, energy and passion for that if it is something you love. What about your hobbies?
5) Take a good look at your strengths and your weaknesses. How are your strengths useful to other people, what value to you add to your job over and above what is required of you. Look honestly at your weaknesses. Decide to do something about them. It's never too late to learn.
6) Start looking through the job pages. You mention you are creative so don't just look at the local newspaper. look at trade magazines, internet sites. explore industries you never knew existed. Look out for jobs that you think ';oohhh that sounds cool, I'd love to do that'; or ';Hey I could do that job I'm sure'; Don't worry about not having the experience or qualifications for now. This is just about finding out what you might like to do. The requirements of the job will tell you what you will need to do in order to be in a position to take such a job.
7) Get out and talk to people. Find other people who have turned their life around. Find people doing the jobs you would like to do and find out how they got there. Tell people about your ideas and see what comes back to you. You can't work it all out in your own head. Start putting ideas out into the world, people will respond to the good ones.
8) Be a people person. I know you say you are not a good people person. I see intelligent, resourceful people every day in my coaching practice who are shy, who don't know how to talk to other people or what is expected of them in social situations. And every week I see those people become more confident and more sure of themselves as they learn just how simple it is. Make this your first challenge. Be yourself with other people and it will completely turn your life around. Find some courses you can go on, if you can't afford to pay for them offer to do some voluntary work in return. An investment in yourself will pay for itself tenfold in any job you finally end up doing.
9) Find a good career coach (sometimes a local job agency will have someone who can help you create a great cv). Or find a friend who can do this for you. Look back over your work life, your hobbies, groups and clubs you have belonged to, any responsibility that you have had in your career or your personal life. What skills do these jobs demonstrate? As an example think of the single mum returning to work when her kids are all at school. She has to manage the family accounts, multi task, keep organised, deal with health workers, school teachers etc. All these skills are transferable into other domains.
10) There will always be people who never find the energy or the belief in themselves to turn their life around. But there are millions of people who have: and if one person can do it then that means a) it's possible and b) there's at least one way to learn how to do it. Decide what kind of person you are going to be and stick to it.
11) Be a people person. I know I know, you said you're not good with people. But the very fact that you asked this question means you realise how useful it is to have contact with other people, even strangers who you'll never meet. People are amazing! they are brave, fickle, loyal, beautiful, stupid. And everyone has a unique story to tell. I've spent time with people who I never in a million years thought I would ever have anythingCareer/Job/Life Advice...?
go to this website and see if you can get help
https://www.storesonlinepro.com/store/27鈥?/a>
The military may be a place to find your pursuits. Not all positions are combat.
Hi...... I need some life advice please!?
I work at a spa as a technician. My job does not offer health care benefits... or any benefits at all. I see a dermatologist regularly for skin problems and have to take medication and blood test regularly ($$$). I also see a medical doctor every three months and am perscribed medicine once a month that I have to take ($$$). I fully support myself and live alone and have to pay full price for all my medical expenses.
My job also has me on a K1 tax form (whatever that is) and I was told by someone who looked at my taxes that I couldn't not write anything off, and I also pay more taxes because I'm on a K1. I filed an extension and still do not have any extra money to pay the IRS (I'm really getting scared). I am also trying to find time to talk to a school counselor because I want to go back to school so I can get out of this situation. I have credit card debt because I can't afford to live, feed myself, pay rent, car notes, car insurance, medical expenses, perscriptions, etc... I am in over my head. Someone please give me some good advice. I really need help, I don't know what to do!!!Hi...... I need some life advice please!?
First of all, why does your job have you as a K-1?? That is a tax form for a Partnership. You are an employee. That's pretty shady. You need to get out of that job asap!! They are taking advantage of you. I'm assuming since you are a K-1 that you can't file for unemployment. Find another job, even if you have to waitress somewhere.
My job also has me on a K1 tax form (whatever that is) and I was told by someone who looked at my taxes that I couldn't not write anything off, and I also pay more taxes because I'm on a K1. I filed an extension and still do not have any extra money to pay the IRS (I'm really getting scared). I am also trying to find time to talk to a school counselor because I want to go back to school so I can get out of this situation. I have credit card debt because I can't afford to live, feed myself, pay rent, car notes, car insurance, medical expenses, perscriptions, etc... I am in over my head. Someone please give me some good advice. I really need help, I don't know what to do!!!Hi...... I need some life advice please!?
First of all, why does your job have you as a K-1?? That is a tax form for a Partnership. You are an employee. That's pretty shady. You need to get out of that job asap!! They are taking advantage of you. I'm assuming since you are a K-1 that you can't file for unemployment. Find another job, even if you have to waitress somewhere.
I Need Some Relationship/Life Advice...?
So at the beginning of this month my life took a turn for the worst, in fact the much worse. I had been dating someone for 2 years and we had a wonderful relationship and we were planning on marriage, she had matured so much with me and i had matured with her, she was a part of my church and my family, and then its like one day she just woke up changed, she said she was going through an identity crisis... this identity crisis lead to her blowing my best friend twice v.v we split and since then ive been a wreck, she still txts me and shes been on and off saying she wants to be with me and then that she doesnt know what she wants. Im just sick of all the pain, she lies to me now and she still goes out and sees him i dont think she even cares about how much im hurting. As for the ';friend'; i havent talked to him since... i just dont understand what the hell to do, im really upset i loved her because she was so innocent and she was pure and loving, and now she lies and doesnt care. she says that she cheated because she wasnt feeling attracted to me lately, but i have felt unattracted so often and never thought once about cheating, i just dont get it. I want to get out there and find anouther person if shes never going to come around, but i just feel so hopeless, i cant be with someone who is slutty and skanky, i dont party, drink, or do drugs, and principles and morals are essential to me, i just feel like im never going to find anyone, especially cuz im in my 2nd year of college, working full time, and planning for medical school... i really dont want to end up as the 40 year old lonely bitter man, im already starting to hate my life, im very miserable and i just dont even know where to begin solving this problem.I Need Some Relationship/Life Advice...?
The girl you dated for 2 years who was ';the one';, just doesnt seem right for you anymore, you know? She went off with your best friend, who would do such a thing? Plus the fact that she lies, and doesnt care, doesnt seem as if she would ever come around. Not being attracted to someone for a time isnt an excuse to cheat, A girl like that wouldnt even deserve my time after everything she's done. I know you ';loved'; her, but the question is, do you love her 'now'? What if she comes back to you, there's always a possiblity that she would cheat every now and then. But then again, maybe she might've learned from the first time.
Even though there's a majority of slutty girls these days that only care for hooking up, there are tons of other girls out there who describe your needs. Im one of those people who have morals, and no, I dont drink, smoke or do drugs, and I know other people as well who are just like you and me. Maybe you havent looked in the right places. If you found a great girl like that, what are the chances that you wont ever find someone like that again? You're what, 19, 20 years old? You're still at a point in your life where you can find the perfect girl, you're young, in college, and have a great future ahead of you. Dont think so negatively, do something with your life. Also, if you want to be successful, your grades are more important than girls. Of course, they're important too, but dont let your whole situation bring your grades down with it. If you really want this girl back, you have to have a serious talk with her, b/c she's just wasting your time. (In my opinion)
Best of LuckI Need Some Relationship/Life Advice...?
You need to value yourself more. Whether ';she';wants to work it out or not, shouldn't be up to her. She cheated! You didn't! You need to decide within yourself if you can forgive her and trust her and move on. If you can't, then you need to end the relationship yourself. Once you make up your mind that the relationship is over because YOU want it to be, then you can begin your healing process. There are alot of women out there who have high moral standards just like yourself, and you will find someone just as committed as you when the time is right. Believe in yourself and others will follow. Just a clue... confidence and mental strength are a turn on for many women.
The girl you dated for 2 years who was ';the one';, just doesnt seem right for you anymore, you know? She went off with your best friend, who would do such a thing? Plus the fact that she lies, and doesnt care, doesnt seem as if she would ever come around. Not being attracted to someone for a time isnt an excuse to cheat, A girl like that wouldnt even deserve my time after everything she's done. I know you ';loved'; her, but the question is, do you love her 'now'? What if she comes back to you, there's always a possiblity that she would cheat every now and then. But then again, maybe she might've learned from the first time.
Even though there's a majority of slutty girls these days that only care for hooking up, there are tons of other girls out there who describe your needs. Im one of those people who have morals, and no, I dont drink, smoke or do drugs, and I know other people as well who are just like you and me. Maybe you havent looked in the right places. If you found a great girl like that, what are the chances that you wont ever find someone like that again? You're what, 19, 20 years old? You're still at a point in your life where you can find the perfect girl, you're young, in college, and have a great future ahead of you. Dont think so negatively, do something with your life. Also, if you want to be successful, your grades are more important than girls. Of course, they're important too, but dont let your whole situation bring your grades down with it. If you really want this girl back, you have to have a serious talk with her, b/c she's just wasting your time. (In my opinion)
Best of LuckI Need Some Relationship/Life Advice...?
You need to value yourself more. Whether ';she';wants to work it out or not, shouldn't be up to her. She cheated! You didn't! You need to decide within yourself if you can forgive her and trust her and move on. If you can't, then you need to end the relationship yourself. Once you make up your mind that the relationship is over because YOU want it to be, then you can begin your healing process. There are alot of women out there who have high moral standards just like yourself, and you will find someone just as committed as you when the time is right. Believe in yourself and others will follow. Just a clue... confidence and mental strength are a turn on for many women.
I need some love life advice =/?
So, I'm 17 years old (a girl) and last year around this time I moved 4 hours away from a town I've lived in all my life. I've been best friends with a boy since 8th grade and he really is my tried and true best friend. I've never really had strong romantic feelings for him until this summer when I was able to visit and he could come up and visit me. I never knew he liked me in that way until just recently when another one of my friends told me that he had tried to kiss me multiple times this summer but was afriad of rejection. Every one of our friends has told me that it's ';so obvious'; that we like eachother and they've made comments like ';why aren't you together?';
I'm visiting again on valentines day and two of my girlfriends have told me to just kiss him when he picks me up from the train station, but I'm really nervous...because well, 1 - what if I'm a bad kisser? [lol] 2- he is my BEST friend and I really can't lose him %26amp; 3 - I live so far away now...
any advice please?!I need some love life advice =/?
if you don't try you will regret it later on how are you going to know if you don't trust the advice your friends are giving you sometimes the very best of friends make remarkable couples it's better to live and learn then to never give it a chance if things don't go right the hurt will go away after away, if you don't try the regret never will leave trust me I live with it everyday good luckI need some love life advice =/?
go for it.. if you truly are friends you wont lose him even if you tell him your actually a man, dont wory bout the whole kissing thing alot of people do but relax its not that important if you like each other, long distance can work and even its a fling for in the moment type thing...nothing wrong with that.
u only have 1 life so y not live it? i say go 4 the kiss but if ur really that nervous about it say something cute and romantic before but u've known him since 8th grade so u should no by now that he would still remain friends after this even if things dont go like u plan. also, if things do work out, ur 18 so u can move out with him if u so desire to...good luck
thats really cute, I think you should go for it. It is clear you have a very low risk of rejection and you guys already know a lot about each other. Relationships that are based on firendships are the best ones. Hope everything goes well!
you tell me me! im in love in with my guy best friend!
Well i know what you are going through. I was in the same place as you are know so I thought if it was worth it. Also i told him if we were to go out that if somthing happens that we will always be freinds no madder what. That is still working for me know
I'm visiting again on valentines day and two of my girlfriends have told me to just kiss him when he picks me up from the train station, but I'm really nervous...because well, 1 - what if I'm a bad kisser? [lol] 2- he is my BEST friend and I really can't lose him %26amp; 3 - I live so far away now...
any advice please?!I need some love life advice =/?
if you don't try you will regret it later on how are you going to know if you don't trust the advice your friends are giving you sometimes the very best of friends make remarkable couples it's better to live and learn then to never give it a chance if things don't go right the hurt will go away after away, if you don't try the regret never will leave trust me I live with it everyday good luckI need some love life advice =/?
go for it.. if you truly are friends you wont lose him even if you tell him your actually a man, dont wory bout the whole kissing thing alot of people do but relax its not that important if you like each other, long distance can work and even its a fling for in the moment type thing...nothing wrong with that.
u only have 1 life so y not live it? i say go 4 the kiss but if ur really that nervous about it say something cute and romantic before but u've known him since 8th grade so u should no by now that he would still remain friends after this even if things dont go like u plan. also, if things do work out, ur 18 so u can move out with him if u so desire to...good luck
thats really cute, I think you should go for it. It is clear you have a very low risk of rejection and you guys already know a lot about each other. Relationships that are based on firendships are the best ones. Hope everything goes well!
you tell me me! im in love in with my guy best friend!
Well i know what you are going through. I was in the same place as you are know so I thought if it was worth it. Also i told him if we were to go out that if somthing happens that we will always be freinds no madder what. That is still working for me know
Hi...... I need some life advice please!?
I work at a spa as a technician. My job does not offer health care benefits... or any benefits at all. I see a dermatologist regularly for skin problems and have to take medication and blood test regularly ($$$). I also see a medical doctor every three months and am perscribed medicine once a month that I have to take ($$$). I fully support myself and live alone and have to pay full price for all my medical expenses.
My job also has me on a K1 tax form (whatever that is) and I was told by someone who looked at my taxes that I couldn't not write anything off, and I also pay more taxes because I'm on a K1. I filed an extension and still do not have any extra money to pay the IRS (I'm really getting scared). I am also trying to find time to talk to a school counselor because I want to go back to school so I can get out of this situation. I have credit card debt because I can't afford to live, feed myself, pay rent, car notes, car insurance, medical expenses, perscriptions, etc... I am in over my head. Someone please give me some good advice. I really need help, I don't know what to do!!!Hi...... I need some life advice please!?
I hope you read down this far since all the other replies you got seem to be spammers. First step, BREATH. A lot of people just starting their careers are in the same place, if not worse. Debt, budgeting, managing your life on your own is daunting and hard! Advice from someone who's been there. It takes time to work through all the rings but it will save you stress and fretting in the long run.
Second step, if you haven't done this already write down all your bills and expenses every month. Then look at where else you spend money, dining out, entertainment...then see where you can scale back (i.e. smaller cell phone plan, fewer meals out etc.). Car insurance, check to see how high of a deductible you have. If it's low, say like 250.00, call your insurance and see if you can get a higher deductible and then DRIVE SAFE. If you have a 500-1000 deductible it will signifigantly reduce your rates. Other bills, reduce your cable service, get local only, borrow movies from your local library, use their internet...cook at home etc.
Next, dependant on your income you may be eligible for Medicaid. If you don't want to go that route, seriously look into health care plans offered by your local or regional hospital. It may be 150-250 a month but look at what you are paying now for your medical expenses monthly and how much a health care plan would cover. They have people at hosptial plans that can walk you through that. Sign up for an HSA. This takes money from your paycheck pre-tax towards medical expenses. Read about it. Medications, doctors visits, co-pays, asprin, bandaids...it's a good thing. You elect how much you want deducted weekly, monthly. Etc. This may be a later step once you get your finances under control.
Credit card debt. If it's really bad, like you are 20K in debt, putting your rent on your credit card etc. Think about moving home or getting a roommate if possible. Then go to the http://www.nfcc.org/ this is a foundation that may get you pointed in the right direction on how to manage debt and those creditors. One would hope reputable counselers are on their site and not companies trying to make $$$ off your debt.
IRS, talk to their counselors before it gets worse.
School...if you can't afford to live now, going back to school, aquiring more debt and having a reduced or eliminated income...may not be the best idea. Unless you can get your debt under control, find a better living situation (more affordable) and steady part time work, then you can think about school.
If you go to church and are into that, it may be a good time to pray for peace in your heart. This is a stressful situation but you'll only be stronger in the long run.
My job also has me on a K1 tax form (whatever that is) and I was told by someone who looked at my taxes that I couldn't not write anything off, and I also pay more taxes because I'm on a K1. I filed an extension and still do not have any extra money to pay the IRS (I'm really getting scared). I am also trying to find time to talk to a school counselor because I want to go back to school so I can get out of this situation. I have credit card debt because I can't afford to live, feed myself, pay rent, car notes, car insurance, medical expenses, perscriptions, etc... I am in over my head. Someone please give me some good advice. I really need help, I don't know what to do!!!Hi...... I need some life advice please!?
I hope you read down this far since all the other replies you got seem to be spammers. First step, BREATH. A lot of people just starting their careers are in the same place, if not worse. Debt, budgeting, managing your life on your own is daunting and hard! Advice from someone who's been there. It takes time to work through all the rings but it will save you stress and fretting in the long run.
Second step, if you haven't done this already write down all your bills and expenses every month. Then look at where else you spend money, dining out, entertainment...then see where you can scale back (i.e. smaller cell phone plan, fewer meals out etc.). Car insurance, check to see how high of a deductible you have. If it's low, say like 250.00, call your insurance and see if you can get a higher deductible and then DRIVE SAFE. If you have a 500-1000 deductible it will signifigantly reduce your rates. Other bills, reduce your cable service, get local only, borrow movies from your local library, use their internet...cook at home etc.
Next, dependant on your income you may be eligible for Medicaid. If you don't want to go that route, seriously look into health care plans offered by your local or regional hospital. It may be 150-250 a month but look at what you are paying now for your medical expenses monthly and how much a health care plan would cover. They have people at hosptial plans that can walk you through that. Sign up for an HSA. This takes money from your paycheck pre-tax towards medical expenses. Read about it. Medications, doctors visits, co-pays, asprin, bandaids...it's a good thing. You elect how much you want deducted weekly, monthly. Etc. This may be a later step once you get your finances under control.
Credit card debt. If it's really bad, like you are 20K in debt, putting your rent on your credit card etc. Think about moving home or getting a roommate if possible. Then go to the http://www.nfcc.org/ this is a foundation that may get you pointed in the right direction on how to manage debt and those creditors. One would hope reputable counselers are on their site and not companies trying to make $$$ off your debt.
IRS, talk to their counselors before it gets worse.
School...if you can't afford to live now, going back to school, aquiring more debt and having a reduced or eliminated income...may not be the best idea. Unless you can get your debt under control, find a better living situation (more affordable) and steady part time work, then you can think about school.
If you go to church and are into that, it may be a good time to pray for peace in your heart. This is a stressful situation but you'll only be stronger in the long run.
I need serious financial /life advice about my credit?
ok , im 23 and i owe over $3400 dollars to a credit card i have with bank of america
bottom line i wanna pay off this debt but at the same time i wanna have money for the future to maybe move out or have freedom
i originally had the card with american express but things were so hard financially that i couldnt keep up with the payments and well here i am
my father gave me $20,000 and i currently have 13,000 or something left and dont know what i should do i mean i cant move without a job anyway (because work has been hard to find)
(sigh) i wil speak to credit score people and other financial advisors but what should i do? the BofA people said i can pay 1600 and the rest will be concidered earned income?? i dunno how that all works
and also as of may 1st my credit card account with bank of america was closed
bottom line i wanna pay off this debt but at the same time i wanna have money for the future to maybe move out or have freedomI need serious financial /life advice about my credit?
There are numerous answers;
1) DON'T BOTHER WITH THE STOCK MARKET!!!
2) You would benefit far more if you just paid off the account as it would reflect better on your credit report. Any late payments will remain on your report for only 2 years (Running of Reporting Period - Section 605 [15 U.S.C. 搂 1681c] but at least it will show a balance of $0.
3) If you pay off in settlement, then what ever amount they charge off, you will have to report on your federal taxes at the end of the year (this is where the unearned income comes into play). This is due the an IRS rule that a creditor who charges off any amount in excess of $600 must file a 1099-C with the IRS and the customer. This will reduce your tax refund. Also you credit report will show paid in settelment and list the amount charged off. This will be a potentialy negative entry on your cedit report.
You can pay it off and put your remainng funds into a money market account and use that as collateral to open a secured credit card account. Your credit limit would be whatever you have in your money market. This way, you can access the funds as needed and still have the original amount of money tucked away. Credit Unions are best for this type of account.
JUST DO NOT let the secured credit card fall behind as you will damage your credit again. And remember if you do ever want to move to find work, both the landlord (in some cases) and the employer will want to see your credit report.
Hope this helps answer your question and good luckI need serious financial /life advice about my credit?
You have $13,000, and you owe only $3400, so you should pay off all your debts to avoid high interest.
With the rest of your money, you can go for short-term gain by buying and shorting stocks and then selling or covering once you get 10% gain. If you want long-term gain, buy gold and carefully selected dividend paying stocks.
Hey, what is up with all the thumbs down?? ;(
It is important to pay off all credit card debts ASAP to avoid paying ridiculously high interest like 19.999%.
THEN, gold and stocks are the only safe places to go for the rest of your money. Massive inflation is coming soon thanks to massive government bailouts and money printing.
Money market accounts, savings account, or CDs are useless because they cannot give you high enough interest rate to beat inflation. You need stocks and gold for the long term to do that. I am NOT saying just go and buy stocks indiscriminately, but I cannot go into much details in a concise short answer. Some good places to start educating yourself about stocks are your local library or bookstore (best), www.fool.com, www.nyse.com, and www.morningstar.com. Now is an extremely volatile time in the stock market, so potential for short--term gains, via buying stocks that have been oversold and shorting stocks that have been overbought, can give you 10% gain very quickly, sometimes within the same day or two. You should also make a list of solid companies with high dividends and good fundamentals to buy for the long term once the Dow falls below 7000 again. Hope this helps. Again, I repeat, educate yourself, and know that gold and stocks are the only safe places for your money in this hyperinflationary era we are living in right now.
If they're willing to settle for $1600, you should consider it but get it in writing first.If you live rent free you can't live any cheaper than that. You should put $2000 in a savings account for emergency and the rest in a cd. Don't worry about the interest rate and do not play the stock market
So...you have 13000 just sitting in a bank.
If you are lucky, it's earning a whopping 2% interest.
You have a credit card with a balance of 3400 at 16% or higher interest.
Let me ask you this....would you borrow 3400 at 16% interest just to put it in your savings account so it could earn 2%?
No.
In essence that is what you are doing.
I'd take 3400 out of that 13K and pay the credit card off.
Now that you no longer have that debt, you can take the money you were paying to the credit card company and build your savings back up. In a year or two, you will have your 13K back in the bank.
The only way this works is if you stop using the credit card and do not run the balance up again.elizabeth arden
bottom line i wanna pay off this debt but at the same time i wanna have money for the future to maybe move out or have freedom
i originally had the card with american express but things were so hard financially that i couldnt keep up with the payments and well here i am
my father gave me $20,000 and i currently have 13,000 or something left and dont know what i should do i mean i cant move without a job anyway (because work has been hard to find)
(sigh) i wil speak to credit score people and other financial advisors but what should i do? the BofA people said i can pay 1600 and the rest will be concidered earned income?? i dunno how that all works
and also as of may 1st my credit card account with bank of america was closed
bottom line i wanna pay off this debt but at the same time i wanna have money for the future to maybe move out or have freedomI need serious financial /life advice about my credit?
There are numerous answers;
1) DON'T BOTHER WITH THE STOCK MARKET!!!
2) You would benefit far more if you just paid off the account as it would reflect better on your credit report. Any late payments will remain on your report for only 2 years (Running of Reporting Period - Section 605 [15 U.S.C. 搂 1681c] but at least it will show a balance of $0.
3) If you pay off in settlement, then what ever amount they charge off, you will have to report on your federal taxes at the end of the year (this is where the unearned income comes into play). This is due the an IRS rule that a creditor who charges off any amount in excess of $600 must file a 1099-C with the IRS and the customer. This will reduce your tax refund. Also you credit report will show paid in settelment and list the amount charged off. This will be a potentialy negative entry on your cedit report.
You can pay it off and put your remainng funds into a money market account and use that as collateral to open a secured credit card account. Your credit limit would be whatever you have in your money market. This way, you can access the funds as needed and still have the original amount of money tucked away. Credit Unions are best for this type of account.
JUST DO NOT let the secured credit card fall behind as you will damage your credit again. And remember if you do ever want to move to find work, both the landlord (in some cases) and the employer will want to see your credit report.
Hope this helps answer your question and good luckI need serious financial /life advice about my credit?
You have $13,000, and you owe only $3400, so you should pay off all your debts to avoid high interest.
With the rest of your money, you can go for short-term gain by buying and shorting stocks and then selling or covering once you get 10% gain. If you want long-term gain, buy gold and carefully selected dividend paying stocks.
Hey, what is up with all the thumbs down?? ;(
It is important to pay off all credit card debts ASAP to avoid paying ridiculously high interest like 19.999%.
THEN, gold and stocks are the only safe places to go for the rest of your money. Massive inflation is coming soon thanks to massive government bailouts and money printing.
Money market accounts, savings account, or CDs are useless because they cannot give you high enough interest rate to beat inflation. You need stocks and gold for the long term to do that. I am NOT saying just go and buy stocks indiscriminately, but I cannot go into much details in a concise short answer. Some good places to start educating yourself about stocks are your local library or bookstore (best), www.fool.com, www.nyse.com, and www.morningstar.com. Now is an extremely volatile time in the stock market, so potential for short--term gains, via buying stocks that have been oversold and shorting stocks that have been overbought, can give you 10% gain very quickly, sometimes within the same day or two. You should also make a list of solid companies with high dividends and good fundamentals to buy for the long term once the Dow falls below 7000 again. Hope this helps. Again, I repeat, educate yourself, and know that gold and stocks are the only safe places for your money in this hyperinflationary era we are living in right now.
If they're willing to settle for $1600, you should consider it but get it in writing first.If you live rent free you can't live any cheaper than that. You should put $2000 in a savings account for emergency and the rest in a cd. Don't worry about the interest rate and do not play the stock market
So...you have 13000 just sitting in a bank.
If you are lucky, it's earning a whopping 2% interest.
You have a credit card with a balance of 3400 at 16% or higher interest.
Let me ask you this....would you borrow 3400 at 16% interest just to put it in your savings account so it could earn 2%?
No.
In essence that is what you are doing.
I'd take 3400 out of that 13K and pay the credit card off.
Now that you no longer have that debt, you can take the money you were paying to the credit card company and build your savings back up. In a year or two, you will have your 13K back in the bank.
The only way this works is if you stop using the credit card and do not run the balance up again.
I need some good life advice?
So, my question has several parts please bear with me.
I have a B.A. in history and after college went off to work for an insurance company. I had wanted to be a teacher but low pay and job insecurity in California made me go the insurance route.
Now I want to move into a new profession - physical therapy. The problem: I never took science classes so now I have to do a bunch of prerequisites that are hard. I did Bio and it was easy, but all these programs require physics and therefore calculus. I took college algebra like 9 yrs ago.
My algebra base is weak hence I can't take calculus. ANd in order to take calculus I'd need to take college algebra, trig, precalculus, THEN calculus. This all requires lots of time which I don't have. I have a full time job, kid, wife, and can only take one class per semester if its science based.
At this rate it would take me 3 years just to get to physics. Should I just re take the classes and take the long route, seems like starting over?
Also, I considered going back to grad school for history to teach like in tended, but still low pay, adjunct status, no benefits, no tenure, this all worries me and may not be worth it. I dodged this before because there were simply too many history phd and not enough full time positions.
I'm so frustrated and confused. I seriously don't know what to do. I'm 30 yrs old and need to make a decision now.
Your thoughtful advice is so appreciated!I need some good life advice?
So you are 30 now. And you will work another 30-35 years. 4 or 5 years of preparation for a new profession is still short enough to make a worthwhile career change. Talk to the people where you will take the PT training, I am sure they can tell you a lot more of what you need than I, or any other person with a little free time in front of a computer can.I need some good life advice?
Why do you have to take trig and pre-calc? I'm a finance major which is heavy math, but I only had to take college algebra, statistics and then calculus. Why the extra two classes?
And Calculus really isn't hard. Don't be intimidated by it. It's mainly derivatives which are really really easy once you get the hang of them.
Never take life to serious you'll never make it out alive.
I have a B.A. in history and after college went off to work for an insurance company. I had wanted to be a teacher but low pay and job insecurity in California made me go the insurance route.
Now I want to move into a new profession - physical therapy. The problem: I never took science classes so now I have to do a bunch of prerequisites that are hard. I did Bio and it was easy, but all these programs require physics and therefore calculus. I took college algebra like 9 yrs ago.
My algebra base is weak hence I can't take calculus. ANd in order to take calculus I'd need to take college algebra, trig, precalculus, THEN calculus. This all requires lots of time which I don't have. I have a full time job, kid, wife, and can only take one class per semester if its science based.
At this rate it would take me 3 years just to get to physics. Should I just re take the classes and take the long route, seems like starting over?
Also, I considered going back to grad school for history to teach like in tended, but still low pay, adjunct status, no benefits, no tenure, this all worries me and may not be worth it. I dodged this before because there were simply too many history phd and not enough full time positions.
I'm so frustrated and confused. I seriously don't know what to do. I'm 30 yrs old and need to make a decision now.
Your thoughtful advice is so appreciated!I need some good life advice?
So you are 30 now. And you will work another 30-35 years. 4 or 5 years of preparation for a new profession is still short enough to make a worthwhile career change. Talk to the people where you will take the PT training, I am sure they can tell you a lot more of what you need than I, or any other person with a little free time in front of a computer can.I need some good life advice?
Why do you have to take trig and pre-calc? I'm a finance major which is heavy math, but I only had to take college algebra, statistics and then calculus. Why the extra two classes?
And Calculus really isn't hard. Don't be intimidated by it. It's mainly derivatives which are really really easy once you get the hang of them.
Never take life to serious you'll never make it out alive.
Care to Give Some Life Advice?
I'm seeking advice because i seem to be stuck in between a rock and a hard place, yet again. I am an 18 year old female, I'm very responsible, mature, and told by all that i am wise beyond my years. I currently have two jobs. I work extremely hard. I live with a friend and pay rent. In fact, I pay for EVERYTHING. She works as well but doesn't pay a dime. I'm desperately searching for apartments, living with her just is not working out. I also am looking for a car. I bought a car in February, but i let my mother borrow it and she was in an accident where the car was totaled. She can't afford to pay me back, so I'm stuck without a car. Speaking of my mother, i help pay her bills as well. Because I am 18 I have no credit, there for i do not have any credit at all. I've never had a credit card or anything. This makes it much harder to get a car or an apartment. Im not complaining in the least bit, i know there are others less fortunate then me. Just wondering if anyone has been through the same, or has advice. Thank you all!Care to Give Some Life Advice?
ok... First of all you need to take care of you.
Find a small apt close to one of your jobs or inbetween them both. Use public transport,
tell your mom you need for her to pay you back in one year from today.
If she doesnt then you can take her to small claims court while be putting money away for a car.
I know you want to help your borothers... helping is fine but you are not thier mother. If you buy them things fine...but not at the cost of self support. Do you know how many more children your mom will have?
I know its easy for me to say be a hard As s but you need to start looking out for your life.
Seek the help of the salvation army or your local womens center.
Good luck and god bless
Care to Give Some Life Advice?
You are way too nice and people are just using you because of it. Here is what you need to do:
1) Tell your Mom that you need the money for the car. She can go get a second job to pay you back.
2) Don't give your Mom any more money. You are creating a dependent monster and it won't stop until you tell her no and mean it. You are encouraging her to live beyond her means. She needs to grow up,
3) Find a new roommate as soon as possible. If your name is on that lease and the roomie's is not, replace her with somebody that isn't going to mooch off you because you are so responsible.
4) Start saving your money. You will need it or you will find yourself in the same situation as your Mom.
5) Tell the roomie that she will have to start paying half of everything as of August 1 or move out.
6) Be firm with these mooches. You sound like a sweet girl. I wish I had a nice friend to move in with you to share those expenses. Good luck and don't let them walk all over you, Sweetie.
ok... First of all you need to take care of you.
Find a small apt close to one of your jobs or inbetween them both. Use public transport,
tell your mom you need for her to pay you back in one year from today.
If she doesnt then you can take her to small claims court while be putting money away for a car.
I know you want to help your borothers... helping is fine but you are not thier mother. If you buy them things fine...but not at the cost of self support. Do you know how many more children your mom will have?
I know its easy for me to say be a hard As s but you need to start looking out for your life.
Seek the help of the salvation army or your local womens center.
Good luck and god bless
Care to Give Some Life Advice?
You are way too nice and people are just using you because of it. Here is what you need to do:
1) Tell your Mom that you need the money for the car. She can go get a second job to pay you back.
2) Don't give your Mom any more money. You are creating a dependent monster and it won't stop until you tell her no and mean it. You are encouraging her to live beyond her means. She needs to grow up,
3) Find a new roommate as soon as possible. If your name is on that lease and the roomie's is not, replace her with somebody that isn't going to mooch off you because you are so responsible.
4) Start saving your money. You will need it or you will find yourself in the same situation as your Mom.
5) Tell the roomie that she will have to start paying half of everything as of August 1 or move out.
6) Be firm with these mooches. You sound like a sweet girl. I wish I had a nice friend to move in with you to share those expenses. Good luck and don't let them walk all over you, Sweetie.
First love v. Better life (advice)?
I've been seeing a guy for a year now. He's great and like my best friend in everything. I love him, but it's mostly on the friend level. We do have sex, but it's just kind of because it's something I think I should do for him because we are ';together';. We don't fight. We have lots of the same outlooks on life as far as family, kids, education and so on... He asked me to marry him last week and I said yes. I mean, who doesn't want to marry someone they get along with and wants the same things, and the sex thing has not been that big of a deal to me.
And then in steps ';Huge Problem';
My first love found me online 2 days after the proposal. We started catching up and talking about the memories and I remember the passion and the emotions and I miss it and I still feel a strong love for him that I'm pretty sure will never go away. Plus he just knows every little thing about me. Even things I don't really know about myself, he notices and remembers and understands... So now I'm questioning my relationship. My first love is very unstable and moves a lot and can't hold a job down, so my logical side is saying STAY AWAY, but my emotions are telling me go for it.
So what to do... Love or Stability?
And how do I handle it? Just cut one of the out completely? Help....First love v. Better life (advice)?
I think you should not be with either of them. You obviously don't know what you want, so you should figure out what you want with your life first. If your not sure than don't do it and your not sure who you ';love';. Love yourself first.First love v. Better life (advice)?
I am married and not to my first love.
1) A stable relationship with a man who cares for you is more important that excitement in the long run.
2) Everyone's first love is the strongest and most hard to forget. But most people do not marry their first love.
3) You are comparing apples to oranges.
4) Instability and moving a lot on top of having trouble holding down a job = bad boyfriend material, never mind husband material.
When I got engaged I went through the same thing. And I know I made the right decision because I love my husband and he's a good man. He doesn't bring drama into my life with unemployment or cheating or homelessness or whatever else... he doesn't know every little thing about me but we have our whole lives to learn those things.
Yes you cut one out completely. And if you don't mind advice from someone who's been there/done that... please choose the stable one. Your life will be so much easier. And you'll be so much happier.
Listen to your logical side. It knows what's best for you.
And then in steps ';Huge Problem';
My first love found me online 2 days after the proposal. We started catching up and talking about the memories and I remember the passion and the emotions and I miss it and I still feel a strong love for him that I'm pretty sure will never go away. Plus he just knows every little thing about me. Even things I don't really know about myself, he notices and remembers and understands... So now I'm questioning my relationship. My first love is very unstable and moves a lot and can't hold a job down, so my logical side is saying STAY AWAY, but my emotions are telling me go for it.
So what to do... Love or Stability?
And how do I handle it? Just cut one of the out completely? Help....First love v. Better life (advice)?
I think you should not be with either of them. You obviously don't know what you want, so you should figure out what you want with your life first. If your not sure than don't do it and your not sure who you ';love';. Love yourself first.First love v. Better life (advice)?
I am married and not to my first love.
1) A stable relationship with a man who cares for you is more important that excitement in the long run.
2) Everyone's first love is the strongest and most hard to forget. But most people do not marry their first love.
3) You are comparing apples to oranges.
4) Instability and moving a lot on top of having trouble holding down a job = bad boyfriend material, never mind husband material.
When I got engaged I went through the same thing. And I know I made the right decision because I love my husband and he's a good man. He doesn't bring drama into my life with unemployment or cheating or homelessness or whatever else... he doesn't know every little thing about me but we have our whole lives to learn those things.
Yes you cut one out completely. And if you don't mind advice from someone who's been there/done that... please choose the stable one. Your life will be so much easier. And you'll be so much happier.
Listen to your logical side. It knows what's best for you.
I need career and life advice, i feel lost and confused. ur 2cents appreciated?
high school graduate, art skill, automotive skill, aspiring tatto artist,. blah blah. any career options you guys could throw at me? im broke, cant find decent job, i have a bad back. turning 21. having bad day. sorry to be a baby bout it.I need career and life advice, i feel lost and confused. ur 2cents appreciated?
first i need to know what is ur hobbies and ur skill u have now? please post it so ppl can give u more options.
also answer mine pleasehttp://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>I need career and life advice, i feel lost and confused. ur 2cents appreciated?
the way I look at things now, I wished I was more focused in the past. I think the best thing to do is to stick with 1 thing and master that thing. Take that 1 skill to it's natural fullest. If you master something it will work for you. But if you have 5 trades, you'll never be a master at 1. Pick something you enjoy and try sticking with it for a few years.
you sound like a natural for going into the automotive creative paint job market....put your skills to work in polymer and start turning out some dynamite paint jobs on cars....I'd say there's some bucks there for a guy with talent!...good luck
Buy the book What Color Is Your Parachute. It's got a lot of advice for people like you. It should give you some direction and help.
first i need to know what is ur hobbies and ur skill u have now? please post it so ppl can give u more options.
also answer mine pleasehttp://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>I need career and life advice, i feel lost and confused. ur 2cents appreciated?
the way I look at things now, I wished I was more focused in the past. I think the best thing to do is to stick with 1 thing and master that thing. Take that 1 skill to it's natural fullest. If you master something it will work for you. But if you have 5 trades, you'll never be a master at 1. Pick something you enjoy and try sticking with it for a few years.
you sound like a natural for going into the automotive creative paint job market....put your skills to work in polymer and start turning out some dynamite paint jobs on cars....I'd say there's some bucks there for a guy with talent!...good luck
Buy the book What Color Is Your Parachute. It's got a lot of advice for people like you. It should give you some direction and help.
Can I have some life advice?
Lonely. Suicidal. Depressed.
I'm 14, I recently moved away from my best friends that were the only thing that made me happy. My parents aren't ever THERE if you know what I mean. I fell in love and got my heart shredded into three million freaking pieces and every day I think over and over ';what did I do wrong?';. My real dad ditched and my step dad is really sick not gonna live long and my parents only care about work. I kinda feel dead inside for some reason. Like, what the hell am I doing here? I tried talking to my best friend about how I was cutting and she flipped! So I told her I was kidding. :( I'm sad and so lonely ALL the time. All my life is, is the computer. Things get worse every day. Oh and I don't do any of this crap for attention either! okay? I haven't told a single person any of this stuff and I wear long sleeves at school and public.Can I have some life advice?
Hi, Juno H.
14, huh? That was an extremely tough time in my life as well. Those early teen years can really put anyone through the grinder. Not only are your outside circumstances difficult (real father not there, parents seem self-absorbed, new home, broken heart, etc...) but your internal world, your very physiology, is changing. You're a mess of hormones that screw with your ability to stay level-headed and serene. This is the time in every person's life where they are probably the most irrational and moody (not your fault). This is when children start to really break-away from their parents to develop their own identity (and tend to over-compare and judge themselves too harshly against kids their own age).
The only reason I'm telling you this is to maybe give yourself some patience. This is going to be difficult time for a while. Better to KNOW that you are facing hard times and prepare yourself for it, than to DENY it and try to avoid it or escape it through destructive acts (suicide, self-mutilation, drugs, dangerous or promiscuous behavior). But YOU WILL get through it and rediscover joy again.
I'm not going to tell you to stop cutting. Who am I to do that? From what I know cutting is a way to redirect the pain somewhere else. It is an indication of your inability to cope without it, but it is a coping mechanism of sorts and it's better than promiscuity, drugs, or more serious self-destructive behavior.
Life goes in cycles and you are going through a particularly rough patch right now. As long as you don't try to escape your feelings, you'll eventually learn to deal with them. But if you feel as if you are sliding a lot faster than you can deal with, ask your parents for help. See if they can take you to your doctor and tell him/her what you feel (don't sugar-coat the fact that you are feeling suicidal and that you need someone to talk to). Don't be afraid to be honest about how you feel. While your situation is unique, your maturity level and reactions are typical. There are therapists out there trained to help those with issues like yours. (Personally, however, I wouldn't let them medicate you with anti-depressants. Do your research on these drugs. They can complicate your issues more. Just ask that you want to work out your feelings without drugs and that you are not going to kill yourself.)
It is NORMAL to feel depressed at this time in your life and for the specific issues that you are dealing with. It sucks, it really does. But you are strong enough to go through it. Don't feel like a failure because you aren't happy and don't know how to be. Most don't at your age.
Be gentle and loving to yourself. Try to occupy your time with things you know you enjoy. Try to stop yourself while feeling especially down and redirect your attention to something more soothing. Take it one day at a time and I guarantee you that your storm will eventually subside and the light will shine again. Not only that, but you will be a mentally stronger and more mature person for it.
Good luck to you, Juno.Can I have some life advice?
I cant say i've ever been there, but when all goes wrong, pick up a book, and sink into the depths of it's pages.
shoot yourself
everyone goes through some tough times. but i must say your dealing with an awful lot at once. i know what its like to have all your friends ripped away from you all at once. i was forced to move to the other side of the world by my parents.
i hate to think that your cutting yourself. why? to feel alive?
you need to hang on through the tough times. you need to talk to somebody about this, a problem shared is a problem halved as the saying goes.
i hope ive helped, but what can one say apart from time heals all wounds.
Hello Juno, I am so sorry that things feel so very overwhelming right now....are you staying in contact with your friends...stay in touch with them every opportunity that you can....it will really help alot.....then try to make some new friends that you can feel comfortable talking to....I know change is hard, but soon you will feel more at home here...it just will take a little time....Is there a relative or someone that you feel close to that you can talk to about how you are feeling right now....please reach out to someone that you trust....they will be able to help in how you are feeling....I know it is hard right now, but things will get better....give yourself some positive affirmations every day, try to think positively and write some goals for yourself. Writing goals will help you to focus on your future and what direction that you want your life to go....try something new, start a new hobby, volunteer somewhere nearby that will make you feel good to be able to help others and take the focus off of yourself for a little while....Sweetness, I know you feel sad and lonely, but things will get better, you only want your sadness and pain to go away, not your life....please do not even consider suicide...it is not the answer....be strong, rise above all of the sadness and tell yourself that you are going to be alright....you never know what wonderful things that are waiting for you around the very next corner....you will make new friends, you will have many boyfriends in your lifetime....sweetie, I wish you comfort for when you are feeling sad and alone, and I wish for you every happiness that your young life has to offer you....if you ever need to talk to someone who cares, please, please email me..I will listen....((((HUGS))))...Linda
What your feeling is normal as long as you dont follow through on it. Stop cutting because you already proved that you can feel.You will get better at understanding life and its meaning as each day passes.Now that you are getting older you have to find out how to enjoy your own company, instead of depending on your friends to amuse you. Of course having friends to hang with is always fun but you can have fun alone to.Pamper your self. try some new hair styles, new makeup styles or clean out your closet and mix %26amp; match some outfits.Read a good book or watch some comedy on T.V. when you are bored.Did you look into any clubs at school ? Volunteer at a animal shelter ?Join a church ? Anything to meet new people. As for the boyfriend issue unfortunately we all get our hearts stomped on at least once in life but find happiness in knowing that what goes around comes around and he will get paid back.Please talk to your mom and let her know what is going on, if not Please tell a school counsler ASAP.You sound very mature and smart so I am sure you will get through this soon.
you probably feel out of place, new city, new people, out of place!
and plus your 14 a teenager which means some tend to get depress,self acceptance.Try looking at life in a different direction.If you sit around in your pc your missing out. Have lunch in a different place, go up to people and say hi,make conversation,make friends and soon you will probably forget what ever is going around you (it probably wont consume you) fresh air and sun rays for who knows what reason helps with stress, oh try meditation-!!!
and cutting yourself doesn't look to good your just letting me know your not a stable person,so don't do this to your self turn off your pc and have fun,forget and love.
All I can say is that we all get depressed. I get depressed and sometimes more than others. i went to a therapist and it really helped. I am not on any meds they just helped me out as far as my outlook on life and exposing me to certain things while exposing myself and finding out that life usually works itself out. You just have to give it time and work hard it really sucks and can be very tired and boring, I wonder all the time what am I doing here and is this going to make me happy. But, I manage to just tell myself what i tell myself and I get over it pretty quick. that is what the therapist did really helped me rationalize my feelings, so that I did not feel weird or awkward anymore. I hope that you feel better Much Love
I'm 14, I recently moved away from my best friends that were the only thing that made me happy. My parents aren't ever THERE if you know what I mean. I fell in love and got my heart shredded into three million freaking pieces and every day I think over and over ';what did I do wrong?';. My real dad ditched and my step dad is really sick not gonna live long and my parents only care about work. I kinda feel dead inside for some reason. Like, what the hell am I doing here? I tried talking to my best friend about how I was cutting and she flipped! So I told her I was kidding. :( I'm sad and so lonely ALL the time. All my life is, is the computer. Things get worse every day. Oh and I don't do any of this crap for attention either! okay? I haven't told a single person any of this stuff and I wear long sleeves at school and public.Can I have some life advice?
Hi, Juno H.
14, huh? That was an extremely tough time in my life as well. Those early teen years can really put anyone through the grinder. Not only are your outside circumstances difficult (real father not there, parents seem self-absorbed, new home, broken heart, etc...) but your internal world, your very physiology, is changing. You're a mess of hormones that screw with your ability to stay level-headed and serene. This is the time in every person's life where they are probably the most irrational and moody (not your fault). This is when children start to really break-away from their parents to develop their own identity (and tend to over-compare and judge themselves too harshly against kids their own age).
The only reason I'm telling you this is to maybe give yourself some patience. This is going to be difficult time for a while. Better to KNOW that you are facing hard times and prepare yourself for it, than to DENY it and try to avoid it or escape it through destructive acts (suicide, self-mutilation, drugs, dangerous or promiscuous behavior). But YOU WILL get through it and rediscover joy again.
I'm not going to tell you to stop cutting. Who am I to do that? From what I know cutting is a way to redirect the pain somewhere else. It is an indication of your inability to cope without it, but it is a coping mechanism of sorts and it's better than promiscuity, drugs, or more serious self-destructive behavior.
Life goes in cycles and you are going through a particularly rough patch right now. As long as you don't try to escape your feelings, you'll eventually learn to deal with them. But if you feel as if you are sliding a lot faster than you can deal with, ask your parents for help. See if they can take you to your doctor and tell him/her what you feel (don't sugar-coat the fact that you are feeling suicidal and that you need someone to talk to). Don't be afraid to be honest about how you feel. While your situation is unique, your maturity level and reactions are typical. There are therapists out there trained to help those with issues like yours. (Personally, however, I wouldn't let them medicate you with anti-depressants. Do your research on these drugs. They can complicate your issues more. Just ask that you want to work out your feelings without drugs and that you are not going to kill yourself.)
It is NORMAL to feel depressed at this time in your life and for the specific issues that you are dealing with. It sucks, it really does. But you are strong enough to go through it. Don't feel like a failure because you aren't happy and don't know how to be. Most don't at your age.
Be gentle and loving to yourself. Try to occupy your time with things you know you enjoy. Try to stop yourself while feeling especially down and redirect your attention to something more soothing. Take it one day at a time and I guarantee you that your storm will eventually subside and the light will shine again. Not only that, but you will be a mentally stronger and more mature person for it.
Good luck to you, Juno.Can I have some life advice?
I cant say i've ever been there, but when all goes wrong, pick up a book, and sink into the depths of it's pages.
shoot yourself
everyone goes through some tough times. but i must say your dealing with an awful lot at once. i know what its like to have all your friends ripped away from you all at once. i was forced to move to the other side of the world by my parents.
i hate to think that your cutting yourself. why? to feel alive?
you need to hang on through the tough times. you need to talk to somebody about this, a problem shared is a problem halved as the saying goes.
i hope ive helped, but what can one say apart from time heals all wounds.
Hello Juno, I am so sorry that things feel so very overwhelming right now....are you staying in contact with your friends...stay in touch with them every opportunity that you can....it will really help alot.....then try to make some new friends that you can feel comfortable talking to....I know change is hard, but soon you will feel more at home here...it just will take a little time....Is there a relative or someone that you feel close to that you can talk to about how you are feeling right now....please reach out to someone that you trust....they will be able to help in how you are feeling....I know it is hard right now, but things will get better....give yourself some positive affirmations every day, try to think positively and write some goals for yourself. Writing goals will help you to focus on your future and what direction that you want your life to go....try something new, start a new hobby, volunteer somewhere nearby that will make you feel good to be able to help others and take the focus off of yourself for a little while....Sweetness, I know you feel sad and lonely, but things will get better, you only want your sadness and pain to go away, not your life....please do not even consider suicide...it is not the answer....be strong, rise above all of the sadness and tell yourself that you are going to be alright....you never know what wonderful things that are waiting for you around the very next corner....you will make new friends, you will have many boyfriends in your lifetime....sweetie, I wish you comfort for when you are feeling sad and alone, and I wish for you every happiness that your young life has to offer you....if you ever need to talk to someone who cares, please, please email me..I will listen....((((HUGS))))...Linda
What your feeling is normal as long as you dont follow through on it. Stop cutting because you already proved that you can feel.You will get better at understanding life and its meaning as each day passes.Now that you are getting older you have to find out how to enjoy your own company, instead of depending on your friends to amuse you. Of course having friends to hang with is always fun but you can have fun alone to.Pamper your self. try some new hair styles, new makeup styles or clean out your closet and mix %26amp; match some outfits.Read a good book or watch some comedy on T.V. when you are bored.Did you look into any clubs at school ? Volunteer at a animal shelter ?Join a church ? Anything to meet new people. As for the boyfriend issue unfortunately we all get our hearts stomped on at least once in life but find happiness in knowing that what goes around comes around and he will get paid back.Please talk to your mom and let her know what is going on, if not Please tell a school counsler ASAP.You sound very mature and smart so I am sure you will get through this soon.
you probably feel out of place, new city, new people, out of place!
and plus your 14 a teenager which means some tend to get depress,self acceptance.Try looking at life in a different direction.If you sit around in your pc your missing out. Have lunch in a different place, go up to people and say hi,make conversation,make friends and soon you will probably forget what ever is going around you (it probably wont consume you) fresh air and sun rays for who knows what reason helps with stress, oh try meditation-!!!
and cutting yourself doesn't look to good your just letting me know your not a stable person,so don't do this to your self turn off your pc and have fun,forget and love.
All I can say is that we all get depressed. I get depressed and sometimes more than others. i went to a therapist and it really helped. I am not on any meds they just helped me out as far as my outlook on life and exposing me to certain things while exposing myself and finding out that life usually works itself out. You just have to give it time and work hard it really sucks and can be very tired and boring, I wonder all the time what am I doing here and is this going to make me happy. But, I manage to just tell myself what i tell myself and I get over it pretty quick. that is what the therapist did really helped me rationalize my feelings, so that I did not feel weird or awkward anymore. I hope that you feel better Much Love
I really need some life advice!?
ok Im 22 years old and im noticing lately that im going through a late puperty and going through teen things that i never went through as a 16 year old should! i may be 22 but in my mind right now im at the 16 year old mind. im soo confused about my own thoughts right now i dont know what i really think, feel and beleive in terms of what im about to tell you.
ok so i sat down and thought about it, i love anime, and conentions, and anime guys. i've lked it since i was like 12. and really got into it when i was 15 or 16. i notice that though i really like 'real' guys'', im kinda afraid to get into a relashinship with a real guy, because if i do, then i wont be able to like anime guys anymore. sounds silly, but i thoight about it and i know its because anime guys are safe, they dont dump you, and you never have to worry about him bugging you, or huritng you, etc. and maybe a part of me is afraid to leave part of that behind. same goes for ceonventions and stuff, i looked at going to cenventions a little differently like its kinda immature to go around dressed up like characters and act like your 10. yet at the same time i feel down in the dumps because i LOVE conventions and i like anime guys. i know im afraid of the real world in a way, and that anime is kind of my escape. my mom said its ok to like all these things just dont go overboard and realize that the world isnt scary as i think it is. i think since anime helped with my childhood problems from being picked on in school and ignored, it helped me to feel safe, secere and in a fantasy place where i could escape. what is going on with me? i dont even know what i beleive in terms of how i feel about these things anymore. please help!I really need some life advice!?
You should do it if you enjoy it (what ever it is?) and it makes you feel happy and is not hurting anyone. That way you will be around people that are doing the same thing and have something in common. I was also picked on at school and from what I have seen neither one of us is missing out on much ( most of the people who hassled me are now a bunch of alcoholic drug addicted bums )
You seem mature enough to me. With the exception of your spelling. Can you please edit these words so I can understand you?
anime
anime guyI really need some life advice!?
alter your mindset a little. understand that things canot be stagnant forever. same goes for EVERYTHING.
accept the changes in you and in everything else as it comes. prepare to grow up and enter reality. some children are ';picked on'; which isn't unusual. it's harmless, shouldn't you come out of it already?? worse things happened (to others) and alot are living alright.
pain is part of the sweetness in love. a crude example would be labour pain. if the mother doesn't go throught the pain, the ';fruit of love'; canot come to this world.
i think, not in a bad way, but you have to get over your self you will never find a REAL nice guy if you don't try.
if you like conventions and anime guys then you don't have to stop.
Forget about you being picked on, i mean it was a long time ago, i think you just don't want to let go of evrything,like you being picked on, it's time for you to make a new start.gold eyeshadow
ok so i sat down and thought about it, i love anime, and conentions, and anime guys. i've lked it since i was like 12. and really got into it when i was 15 or 16. i notice that though i really like 'real' guys'', im kinda afraid to get into a relashinship with a real guy, because if i do, then i wont be able to like anime guys anymore. sounds silly, but i thoight about it and i know its because anime guys are safe, they dont dump you, and you never have to worry about him bugging you, or huritng you, etc. and maybe a part of me is afraid to leave part of that behind. same goes for ceonventions and stuff, i looked at going to cenventions a little differently like its kinda immature to go around dressed up like characters and act like your 10. yet at the same time i feel down in the dumps because i LOVE conventions and i like anime guys. i know im afraid of the real world in a way, and that anime is kind of my escape. my mom said its ok to like all these things just dont go overboard and realize that the world isnt scary as i think it is. i think since anime helped with my childhood problems from being picked on in school and ignored, it helped me to feel safe, secere and in a fantasy place where i could escape. what is going on with me? i dont even know what i beleive in terms of how i feel about these things anymore. please help!I really need some life advice!?
You should do it if you enjoy it (what ever it is?) and it makes you feel happy and is not hurting anyone. That way you will be around people that are doing the same thing and have something in common. I was also picked on at school and from what I have seen neither one of us is missing out on much ( most of the people who hassled me are now a bunch of alcoholic drug addicted bums )
You seem mature enough to me. With the exception of your spelling. Can you please edit these words so I can understand you?
anime
anime guyI really need some life advice!?
alter your mindset a little. understand that things canot be stagnant forever. same goes for EVERYTHING.
accept the changes in you and in everything else as it comes. prepare to grow up and enter reality. some children are ';picked on'; which isn't unusual. it's harmless, shouldn't you come out of it already?? worse things happened (to others) and alot are living alright.
pain is part of the sweetness in love. a crude example would be labour pain. if the mother doesn't go throught the pain, the ';fruit of love'; canot come to this world.
i think, not in a bad way, but you have to get over your self you will never find a REAL nice guy if you don't try.
if you like conventions and anime guys then you don't have to stop.
Forget about you being picked on, i mean it was a long time ago, i think you just don't want to let go of evrything,like you being picked on, it's time for you to make a new start.
Just need some love life advice (male and female)?
Right, so i've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We, like any other relationship, have our ups and our downs. But i don't know what to think right NOW. He's 19, going on 20 the end of this year. I see him during the day and he's generally happy and lovey. But at night i drop him off at his friends house to play halo all freakin night. Last night he went out drinking with them, and i keep just getting this awful feeling that he's cheating on me. I mean, he swears up and down that he would never, and i have NO evidence except that i feel paranoid. He's been generally trustworthy. Once he never told me he went to a party and got drunk. But that's been about the only big lie. I don't know what to do, and he gets mad when i want to have a serious conversation cause he thinks i'll just *****, and we'll fight. Do all freakin guys act different around their friends? what should i do?Just need some love life advice (male and female)?
Just stay with him when he goes to his friends house to play Halo. Or go there secretly so he doesn't know you're there. Spy on him.Just need some love life advice (male and female)?
Hmm .... All freakin guys DO act different around their friends, what you should do is to talk to one of his friend who is in neutral position where he can give you an honest opinion about your boyfriend, and ask him about your boyfriend cheating. Usually, (most of the time) your instinct is correct, and what your gut feeling telling you, it's normally true, especially he takes it offensively every time you try to talk to him about it..... You should try writing him a letter express your concerns, that way you're not there for him to interrupt and get into an argument, he has to read the whole thing and reply back to you.
He's drinking at 19 ??? well, I shouldn't be surprise ... but at his age .... he thinks with his penis ... and not with his brain ... sorry to be the one telling you this .... I've been there ... done that ... once upon a time ....
Hope that helps. Good luck.
Just stay with him when he goes to his friends house to play Halo. Or go there secretly so he doesn't know you're there. Spy on him.Just need some love life advice (male and female)?
Hmm .... All freakin guys DO act different around their friends, what you should do is to talk to one of his friend who is in neutral position where he can give you an honest opinion about your boyfriend, and ask him about your boyfriend cheating. Usually, (most of the time) your instinct is correct, and what your gut feeling telling you, it's normally true, especially he takes it offensively every time you try to talk to him about it..... You should try writing him a letter express your concerns, that way you're not there for him to interrupt and get into an argument, he has to read the whole thing and reply back to you.
He's drinking at 19 ??? well, I shouldn't be surprise ... but at his age .... he thinks with his penis ... and not with his brain ... sorry to be the one telling you this .... I've been there ... done that ... once upon a time ....
Hope that helps. Good luck.
Hey! Please read! Basketball/Life Advice?
Okay. First of all, I would just like to say thanks for taking the time to read this. Now on to my advice. Myself and a teammate of mine were recently pulled to jv because our parents called and were tired of seeing us barely playing on varsity. We were a little upset at first, so much that we had an emergency team meeting. By the time we got out to practice, I was fine and ready to go, but she was pouty and wouldn't do any of our plays, she was walking up and down the court, and she was still crying. Her excuse was that she's not used to playing with people that aren't as experienced as she is, and that at home she's spoiled. and to top that she was still crying and her excuse for that is that she's sensitive and that we shouldn't yell at her! We never yell at her unless its for encouragement or to bring it together. She recently got better from breaking her pinkie. I didn't expect her to get right back on varsity. She then started insulting the entire JV team by stating that they weren't as skilled as she was and even though i wasn't on their team for long, I felt a little disturbed by that. She eventually apologized for saying the way she said but she still didn't want to play with JV. It's bringing down our entire team, and it's no fair. to put the icing on the cake, WE ARE FRESHMAN!! we have three years left to be on varsity. Please could somebody give me advice on what my team and I should say to her?Hey! Please read! Basketball/Life Advice?
tell her to get a grip.your only freshmen and lucky to be on varsity at all. remind her of that. it doesn't matter how good u are, you make do with what you have. i play soccer with people who aren't as skilled as me and it has made me more confident and better
tell her to get a grip.your only freshmen and lucky to be on varsity at all. remind her of that. it doesn't matter how good u are, you make do with what you have. i play soccer with people who aren't as skilled as me and it has made me more confident and better
Looking for legal and life advice?
I鈥檓 looking for legal and life advice
I was dating this girl back in July and I really liked her but things went different ways, 4 months later she told me she was pregnant. I move her into my house along with her 15 year old daughter, on April 9th the baby was born, now the fact that she was not living with me the whole time made me question if I was the father so we took a DNA test. The DNA test was a legal test but a 100% legit company and it turns out I am not the father. Now with this company I used I can have my named removed from the birth cert with the results.
Now I鈥檓 left with a ton of questions on what I should do. I love the baby I named the baby, I was there for the birth and cut the cord鈥? She told me the only other guy she has sex with in July and I contacted him, he wants nothing to do with him.
do I try to get him to sign over his rights to me and adopt him as my own? What if he won鈥檛 go along with this process? Do I cut my ties not and get out and start over?
If I do try to adopt him and the real father does sign over his rights what are my rights? Can later on he come back and rescind everything and get him back? What if things go sour with me the mother and she takes off with him do I have rights to see him??/
Please any advice would be great, I鈥檓 looking for lawyers and or people have been in this spot before please tell me in your comments how you have come to your answers/comments
And nothing mean if you want to be mean in your comments take it somewhere else!Looking for legal and life advice?
My advice is DO NOT have your name taken off the birth certificate. This gives you parental rights. You're already on it, you can't be taken off if you don't request it (to my knowledge - it may vary by state).
If you've already had your name taken off (which honestly, would be very silly and somewhat strange if you want to act as his father), if you want to be in his life and love him, get that adoption paperwork signed ASAP. Once you adopt the baby officially she has to work out a plan to share custody, because legally you are his father. Once it is legally done, the biological father has no right any longer. It is just like any other adoption. Now, he can ALWAYS come back - any body can change their mind. But he would essentially have to sue for custody and they would very likely not rule in his favor since he didn't want anything to do with the baby when he was given the opportunity. Your best bet in that circumstance, both for all the adults sake and the baby, is to try to involve everyone civilly.
Think about it from the child's perspective - he will probably want to know his bio-dad for the sake of knowing who he is and where he came from (ancestry and otherwise) but you are the person who has been in his life and cared for him. It means a lot that you still want to be in his life and care for him even though you are not the father, but for his sake - do not go half way. If you want to be his dad, you can't bail out when the going gets tough (like if his bio-dad came back in the picture). It would be your responsibility then (putting all legal aside) to put the child's best interests first and try and involve everyone in his life.
It's really a lot less legal and more emotional. If you are ready to be there for this kid no matter what, good for you and all the better for the kiddo! Just remember - if you never had the DNA test, you would assume he was yours. And you wouldn't be having these thoughts of not assuming legal responsibility for him then. Just remember, if you have your name taken off the birth certificate (a bad move if you want to be in his life) and don't adopt him, you have no rights. If you do one or the other, you have all the rights of his father. I would contact a real laywer off of this answer site, since laws vary very much by state and find out what your best course of action is.Looking for legal and life advice?
Tod there is no harm in seeing, if he (natural father) truly has no desire to be apart of this baby鈥檚 life he might as well give up his rights and then you can adopt the baby assuming the mother is for you adopting her son. Clearly you care more about this little boy then his natural father this kid is lucky to have you. It would probably be wise to have this man take a dna test just to make sure he is indeed the biological father.
Once the biological father gives up his rights typical he will have a time period that he could change his mind that time frame will depend on what state you鈥檙e in. Once this time frame has passed the only way for him to get his rights back would be to readopt the baby and that couldn鈥檛 happen unless the baby鈥檚 legal parents agreed to it and gave up his/her rights. If you legally adopt this baby it will be no different then if he was your biological son. You would be responsible for paying child support until he was 18 and sometimes one even has to pay child support a bit longer. I know a lady that because her kids went to college she had to pay support through their junior year of college. You would be there for him emotionally which clearly you already have been even before he was born.
As far as the mother again once you legally adopt the baby it is no different (legally) then if he was biological your child so if things went sour she could not just take off with him and disappear or prevent you from seeing him. As his everyday father and legal father (if you adopt him) you have a right to be in his life and would get some sort of visitation no different then if he was your biological son and things went west.
If the child's biological father agrees to sign over his rights, and you legally adopt the baby, then you will have the SAME legal rights that you would have if he was your biological child. At that point the bio father couldn't come back and change his mind later, as he would have no legal rights. If you and the mother split up after the adoption was finalized, you would have the right to shared custody just like any other father.
I would suggest contacting an adoption/ family attourney right away, and figure out what is your best move at this point. Good luck.
First it will have to be determined with a DNA test if he is the father. He can't sign anything until paternity is determined.
I wouldn't take you name off the birth certificate, since you are already named as the father.
As for how to adopt him you really need to go and talk to a lawyer. That way you will know what you will have to do. The consultation visit is usually free.
I was dating this girl back in July and I really liked her but things went different ways, 4 months later she told me she was pregnant. I move her into my house along with her 15 year old daughter, on April 9th the baby was born, now the fact that she was not living with me the whole time made me question if I was the father so we took a DNA test. The DNA test was a legal test but a 100% legit company and it turns out I am not the father. Now with this company I used I can have my named removed from the birth cert with the results.
Now I鈥檓 left with a ton of questions on what I should do. I love the baby I named the baby, I was there for the birth and cut the cord鈥? She told me the only other guy she has sex with in July and I contacted him, he wants nothing to do with him.
do I try to get him to sign over his rights to me and adopt him as my own? What if he won鈥檛 go along with this process? Do I cut my ties not and get out and start over?
If I do try to adopt him and the real father does sign over his rights what are my rights? Can later on he come back and rescind everything and get him back? What if things go sour with me the mother and she takes off with him do I have rights to see him??/
Please any advice would be great, I鈥檓 looking for lawyers and or people have been in this spot before please tell me in your comments how you have come to your answers/comments
And nothing mean if you want to be mean in your comments take it somewhere else!Looking for legal and life advice?
My advice is DO NOT have your name taken off the birth certificate. This gives you parental rights. You're already on it, you can't be taken off if you don't request it (to my knowledge - it may vary by state).
If you've already had your name taken off (which honestly, would be very silly and somewhat strange if you want to act as his father), if you want to be in his life and love him, get that adoption paperwork signed ASAP. Once you adopt the baby officially she has to work out a plan to share custody, because legally you are his father. Once it is legally done, the biological father has no right any longer. It is just like any other adoption. Now, he can ALWAYS come back - any body can change their mind. But he would essentially have to sue for custody and they would very likely not rule in his favor since he didn't want anything to do with the baby when he was given the opportunity. Your best bet in that circumstance, both for all the adults sake and the baby, is to try to involve everyone civilly.
Think about it from the child's perspective - he will probably want to know his bio-dad for the sake of knowing who he is and where he came from (ancestry and otherwise) but you are the person who has been in his life and cared for him. It means a lot that you still want to be in his life and care for him even though you are not the father, but for his sake - do not go half way. If you want to be his dad, you can't bail out when the going gets tough (like if his bio-dad came back in the picture). It would be your responsibility then (putting all legal aside) to put the child's best interests first and try and involve everyone in his life.
It's really a lot less legal and more emotional. If you are ready to be there for this kid no matter what, good for you and all the better for the kiddo! Just remember - if you never had the DNA test, you would assume he was yours. And you wouldn't be having these thoughts of not assuming legal responsibility for him then. Just remember, if you have your name taken off the birth certificate (a bad move if you want to be in his life) and don't adopt him, you have no rights. If you do one or the other, you have all the rights of his father. I would contact a real laywer off of this answer site, since laws vary very much by state and find out what your best course of action is.Looking for legal and life advice?
Tod there is no harm in seeing, if he (natural father) truly has no desire to be apart of this baby鈥檚 life he might as well give up his rights and then you can adopt the baby assuming the mother is for you adopting her son. Clearly you care more about this little boy then his natural father this kid is lucky to have you. It would probably be wise to have this man take a dna test just to make sure he is indeed the biological father.
Once the biological father gives up his rights typical he will have a time period that he could change his mind that time frame will depend on what state you鈥檙e in. Once this time frame has passed the only way for him to get his rights back would be to readopt the baby and that couldn鈥檛 happen unless the baby鈥檚 legal parents agreed to it and gave up his/her rights. If you legally adopt this baby it will be no different then if he was your biological son. You would be responsible for paying child support until he was 18 and sometimes one even has to pay child support a bit longer. I know a lady that because her kids went to college she had to pay support through their junior year of college. You would be there for him emotionally which clearly you already have been even before he was born.
As far as the mother again once you legally adopt the baby it is no different (legally) then if he was biological your child so if things went sour she could not just take off with him and disappear or prevent you from seeing him. As his everyday father and legal father (if you adopt him) you have a right to be in his life and would get some sort of visitation no different then if he was your biological son and things went west.
If the child's biological father agrees to sign over his rights, and you legally adopt the baby, then you will have the SAME legal rights that you would have if he was your biological child. At that point the bio father couldn't come back and change his mind later, as he would have no legal rights. If you and the mother split up after the adoption was finalized, you would have the right to shared custody just like any other father.
I would suggest contacting an adoption/ family attourney right away, and figure out what is your best move at this point. Good luck.
First it will have to be determined with a DNA test if he is the father. He can't sign anything until paternity is determined.
I wouldn't take you name off the birth certificate, since you are already named as the father.
As for how to adopt him you really need to go and talk to a lawyer. That way you will know what you will have to do. The consultation visit is usually free.
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