Okay so i am 14 1/2 years old, i am going to be in 9th grade (at high school) next year.
Neither one of my parents went to college, but they both own their own bussinesses now. we are kinda well off. but not rich or anything. and my brother is a mega nerd (hes 16) and is pretty much on track to get a scholarship to harvard. and is on the debate and speech team and is like #5 in state for both.. and my parents are trying to get me to turn out just like him. and im pretty smart, but im not really into that kinda thing.
i love to paint, photography, and most of all.. bake and cook.
i kinda want to be a chef when im older, but i dont know what to do to kinda get there eventually.. what college should i eventually go to? etc..
i just want to have a fun life. and not disapoint my paretns, but take risks and live life like tommorow was my last day (:
haha thats really cheezy.. but yaI need some life advice..?
There is nothuing wrong with your dreams as long as you prepare for the future. There are many schools out there for chefs and I think that would e a worthwhile career. Hold on tight to your dreams and work toward them.I need some life advice..?
You sound like a very creative individual with some good solid goals in mind for your future. That's great. You are way ahead of most people already! You and your brother are 2 different personality types but that doesn't mean you can't do just as well for yourself doing something you really enjoy doing. It's a wonderful thing to be able to have a career that you enjoy and it makes your life happier %26amp; more fulfilling than working a stressful job that you hate just because that's what everyone thought you should do with your life. The Art Institute of Atlanta (there are more in several states) has a culinary program %26amp; is a really good school for creative minded people. You should do some research on the internet on culinary schools or universities with master chef or master baking schools. It's a hard business but one where there will always be jobs. I'm sure you will find your way to the right college and end up reaching your goals. Just work hard, study and stay focused. Determination is a must and always persevere if you want to live your dream. Wishing you much success.
Samy Awesome advise from a 15 yr old-live each day like it's your last and I don't find that cheezy at all, but very true.
You know as teens we always want to make our parents happy, but the thing that has made me happiest about my daughter and grand daughter (19) is seeing them happy at what they are doing with their lives. Not all people are made up of stuff to be on the debate team. Frankly I would rather know you can fix me a Prima meal when I'm out to dine. It sounds like you have more of the artist in you SO go for it. Trust me, in this world you better love what you do for a living because you do it for a long time. The right college will come along when you are ready-bottomline is study hard in high school and get a scholarship and go to the college that fits your NEEDS and WANTS. God Bless ReggieR
Monday, August 23, 2010
Has any advice you've received on Yahoo Answers made a difference to your life?
Have you benefited in any way from this Web Site and if so, how?Has any advice you've received on Yahoo Answers made a difference to your life?
Yes, this website constantly allows me to find and shape myself as a better individual through the questions asked and answers received. Everyone has something to contribute, even if it's showing you what not to be like. Perhaps even someone is meant to make you question your beliefs a little bit, which is good I find it to be healthy. If someone has to accept something as a fact ';just because'; or ';because someone said so'; something is being hidden and there is a lack of logic there. I've gotten advice and given it, but the one unchanging factor in all of this is the fact that, I know I'm not better than any single one of you out there, but I know for a fact that I'm better than I was yesterday, or in any of my lifetime previous to now, in every way.Has any advice you've received on Yahoo Answers made a difference to your life?
Yes it has. I'm getting married next month and have posted numerous questions regarding invitations, dresses, and other issues that I didn't have a clue about. I have received some great answers, and am very thankful for it!
Sure someone told me how to fix my lawnmower. I also get to spout my political and religious views.
No it hasnt
no
A little bit. I ask a lot of semi-rhetorical questions though, like why are people so stupid?
No it has not. I have not really got the answers that i was expecting.
oh, not really. most epople don't even aswer you half the time, and when they do, it's not well thought out.
Just 2 weeks ago I was having car trouble, I came on here and some people suggested how to fix it. It ended up just being a loose cable. comming here saved my husband a missed day of work and money getting a new alternator.
I was very thankful.
It wastes alot of my time.
Yes, this website constantly allows me to find and shape myself as a better individual through the questions asked and answers received. Everyone has something to contribute, even if it's showing you what not to be like. Perhaps even someone is meant to make you question your beliefs a little bit, which is good I find it to be healthy. If someone has to accept something as a fact ';just because'; or ';because someone said so'; something is being hidden and there is a lack of logic there. I've gotten advice and given it, but the one unchanging factor in all of this is the fact that, I know I'm not better than any single one of you out there, but I know for a fact that I'm better than I was yesterday, or in any of my lifetime previous to now, in every way.Has any advice you've received on Yahoo Answers made a difference to your life?
Yes it has. I'm getting married next month and have posted numerous questions regarding invitations, dresses, and other issues that I didn't have a clue about. I have received some great answers, and am very thankful for it!
Sure someone told me how to fix my lawnmower. I also get to spout my political and religious views.
No it hasnt
no
A little bit. I ask a lot of semi-rhetorical questions though, like why are people so stupid?
No it has not. I have not really got the answers that i was expecting.
oh, not really. most epople don't even aswer you half the time, and when they do, it's not well thought out.
Just 2 weeks ago I was having car trouble, I came on here and some people suggested how to fix it. It ended up just being a loose cable. comming here saved my husband a missed day of work and money getting a new alternator.
I was very thankful.
It wastes alot of my time.
Parents interrupting my life- advice plz?
ok, throughout my life, i was never allowed to go anywhere with friends, not even for projects, i was always being supervised by my parents, yeah they buy me what i need, and what i want, but they dont give me time for social life, they even pick me up for lunch, so that i dont stay at school (they dont like the fact of having a boyfriend, and they think i might have one, if i stay), i never stay after school for school purposes , and now im like a nobody to my friends, b/c i never talk with them either (msn not allowerd), i never went shopping w/o my mom! now that gr.12s coming up, they said i cans stay at skool for lunch- that's it, but i dont rlly care about that anymore, the thing is i want one year off after highschool but they won't let me, they are saying that i MUST go to university, right after highskool, they wont listen to me, they said there are no explanations, and i have to do that, what do i do???Parents interrupting my life- advice plz?
okay, I live with my grand-mum, and she's exactly the same...don't sweat it (although I know it's hard not to). Just sit down and talk to your parents about how, since you get good grades and uphold a good reputation, then you feel you deserve more social freedom. If they still harp about how they want what's best for you and blah blah blah, just tell them politely yet firmly that you don't only want, but NEED more freedom. I know parents can be WAY over-protective, and sometimes they seem to totally not understand you. They say that they remember how it was like to be a teenager, and that it was exactly the same in their day, but they don't realize that a lot of stuff is different than when they were our age, and they have actually forgotten what it's really like to be a teen..the stress and mood swings and the need for friendship and a social life to look forward to at the end of every school day. Just explain to your parents how you feel, and eventually they'll come around. Sooner or later they'll have to realize that they'll have to let you go, whether they like it or not, and hopefully they'll do it without too much lecturing about being responsible and all that stuff, but they'll come around, trust me..just try to hold out until then, and think about all the fun you'll be able to have with your buds when your parents give you more freedom.
Hope I helped you out and good luck! =)Parents interrupting my life- advice plz?
i believe that your parents are trying to live your life...let them know how you feel. let them understand that you need a social life and that you are responsible enough to make some of your own choices about school, boyfriends, friends, and shopping. i think its time you tell them what you really want and see fit for your own life, if university is not somewhere you want to be then what you should do is find all the positive things about where you really want to go like the cost the successful things that has happened there...sometime things work better when you tell a stubborn parent whats really going on and how you feel about the way they treat you. because honestly if it was me i would have been told my parents bluntly on how them constantly treating me like a 4 year old..parents cant constantly shelter a child because they wont always be there.. we are at the age where we have to mature ourselves, learn from our mistakes, and find out who we are without parent involvement..what they are doing is keeping you from who you are going to become one day and they need to know that! immediately!
This might not be the answer you want but its the truth. Your parents are only doing this because they love you and care about you. My daughter is only 3 months, but I have been thinking so much about her future and I don't plan on her doing alot of things either. Your parents do sound alittle overprotective, but they just don't want anything to happen to you. Not staying at school for lunch in alittle extreme and I can't find a reason why thats bad, but thats their choice. Like if you stayed over at a friends house and for some reason something bad did happen to you your parents lives would be over, your their child they would do anything to keep you safe. And thats just what they are doing. Lay back and think one day about when your a parent and have a kid, think about what you would and wouldn't let him/her do. I can relate to you so much though, because even though I'm a mother I've very young and my mom was the same exact way. She's only let a few friends come over my whole life, I was never allowed to go anywhere at all. But it's only because she cares. And now, having a kid myself I realize where she was coming from. You too will realize that someday. But just try talking to your parents, just sit them down and tell them how it makes you feel that they wount let you have a social life, if you tell them camly and rationally they will understand, and you never know what could happen.
you have it bad girl
Alot of parents think they can force there children to do whatever it is that they want them to do but in the long run it only leads to resentment. Your parents can pay all the money they want to pay for you to go to school but what does that change, a waste of money for your parents if you don't want to be in school especially if you really don't have to you are going to FAIL. Why? you don't want to be there. And you should explain this to your parents, if your parents keep acting and treating you the way they do you will turn into a wild child, or they will lose their child. I shouldn't say everyone would turn out like that, but my parents did the same thing. And if your not wild now, eventually you will be especially if you don't talk to them now. How bad could it be. You are Grown and should be able to speak your mind.
okay, I live with my grand-mum, and she's exactly the same...don't sweat it (although I know it's hard not to). Just sit down and talk to your parents about how, since you get good grades and uphold a good reputation, then you feel you deserve more social freedom. If they still harp about how they want what's best for you and blah blah blah, just tell them politely yet firmly that you don't only want, but NEED more freedom. I know parents can be WAY over-protective, and sometimes they seem to totally not understand you. They say that they remember how it was like to be a teenager, and that it was exactly the same in their day, but they don't realize that a lot of stuff is different than when they were our age, and they have actually forgotten what it's really like to be a teen..the stress and mood swings and the need for friendship and a social life to look forward to at the end of every school day. Just explain to your parents how you feel, and eventually they'll come around. Sooner or later they'll have to realize that they'll have to let you go, whether they like it or not, and hopefully they'll do it without too much lecturing about being responsible and all that stuff, but they'll come around, trust me..just try to hold out until then, and think about all the fun you'll be able to have with your buds when your parents give you more freedom.
Hope I helped you out and good luck! =)Parents interrupting my life- advice plz?
i believe that your parents are trying to live your life...let them know how you feel. let them understand that you need a social life and that you are responsible enough to make some of your own choices about school, boyfriends, friends, and shopping. i think its time you tell them what you really want and see fit for your own life, if university is not somewhere you want to be then what you should do is find all the positive things about where you really want to go like the cost the successful things that has happened there...sometime things work better when you tell a stubborn parent whats really going on and how you feel about the way they treat you. because honestly if it was me i would have been told my parents bluntly on how them constantly treating me like a 4 year old..parents cant constantly shelter a child because they wont always be there.. we are at the age where we have to mature ourselves, learn from our mistakes, and find out who we are without parent involvement..what they are doing is keeping you from who you are going to become one day and they need to know that! immediately!
This might not be the answer you want but its the truth. Your parents are only doing this because they love you and care about you. My daughter is only 3 months, but I have been thinking so much about her future and I don't plan on her doing alot of things either. Your parents do sound alittle overprotective, but they just don't want anything to happen to you. Not staying at school for lunch in alittle extreme and I can't find a reason why thats bad, but thats their choice. Like if you stayed over at a friends house and for some reason something bad did happen to you your parents lives would be over, your their child they would do anything to keep you safe. And thats just what they are doing. Lay back and think one day about when your a parent and have a kid, think about what you would and wouldn't let him/her do. I can relate to you so much though, because even though I'm a mother I've very young and my mom was the same exact way. She's only let a few friends come over my whole life, I was never allowed to go anywhere at all. But it's only because she cares. And now, having a kid myself I realize where she was coming from. You too will realize that someday. But just try talking to your parents, just sit them down and tell them how it makes you feel that they wount let you have a social life, if you tell them camly and rationally they will understand, and you never know what could happen.
you have it bad girl
Alot of parents think they can force there children to do whatever it is that they want them to do but in the long run it only leads to resentment. Your parents can pay all the money they want to pay for you to go to school but what does that change, a waste of money for your parents if you don't want to be in school especially if you really don't have to you are going to FAIL. Why? you don't want to be there. And you should explain this to your parents, if your parents keep acting and treating you the way they do you will turn into a wild child, or they will lose their child. I shouldn't say everyone would turn out like that, but my parents did the same thing. And if your not wild now, eventually you will be especially if you don't talk to them now. How bad could it be. You are Grown and should be able to speak your mind.
Need some serious life advice please?
I'm 20. I have a daughter. I have my own apartment. I work 80/hrs per week in a commission based tile selling job. I went to Western Michigan University for a year. I currently go to University of Phoenix online. That's the outside.
The inside is that my rent is past due, I'm potentially getting evicted soon. My internet is shut off on tuesday, so I won't be able to finish this semester at school. My commissioned job is ending next tuesday. I haven't paid gas or electricity in months. I have two warrants out for me for traffic violations (bench warrants). My car has 3 month expired plates, no insurance, no mirrors, cracked windshield, and a dragging muffler. I feel as if my life is imploding.
I just don't know how to dig myself out before it crashes down upon me.Need some serious life advice please?
We're all been to ups and downs, depends on how fast you go up will tell how fast you'll fall. Life is just a cycle, just try to hang on. don't loose hope. One day you'll be back on the good track again.
We are all connected, there will always be someone to take care and love.
Good luckNeed some serious life advice please?
Joel's right, financial problems can be solved. its waaaayyyyy better than having a problem that even loads of money cannot solve.
try to solve it one by one.draw up a plan/schedule. talk to your landlord first to give you grace time. go find another job. and don't worry about your studies for the time being. can you log in at the library?? use their internet.
i really think u need to go get some help! stay strong for the lil one.
I can't pretend that I know what its like to be in your situation. The stress must be nearly unbearable.
I don't know if I can help... but your probably looking for any advice about now... so
Sounds like your first move should be to prioritize. You have countless worries and problems, and you are allowing them to consume you.
Take a minute to just stop, and deeply consider the most important things in your life, the most pressing issues.
I'm sure your daughter and her well-being is first; as long she is in your life, it will not ';implode';. keep that in mind
I'd guess that next would be your income, since you're obviously stressing horribly over your job/career. Your first action, if you are not already doing so, is to search for another job, if you know your current one will end soon. Even if its not a great one, its better than nothing right?
As far as your education goes, try to put it in perspective. Maybe you can't complete this semester, but once you get back on your feet, you'll be able to return to school and become who you want to be.
I don't know if your already doing so, but if not, you should definately look into Student Financial Aid. Most educational institutions gladly loan money to people in your position.
I hope this wasn't totally useless, and I really think you'll pull yourself through.
If you got family ask for help, get a loan from the bank, or find another job. It seems like all your problems are routed from financial problems. Just don't go insane, stay strong. :)
Take care of the legal stuff first. You don't need to spend a night in jail while DCF picks you apart as a parent.
You can attend school if your job permits. Let your teachers know whats going on and that you may have to schedule internet use between work and library hours. Find out what activities are going on in the kid section and they may play babysitter while you upload your homework.
Do what you can with what you have, take some time alone to cry if you feel the world is crashing down but know it doesn't happen all at once. At this point you can still fight.
One thing at a time. Its a long hard process to evict a family with child, you can do your schoolwork and upload it at the library. Theirs nothing you can do about loosing your job but you can focus on things you can change.
I wish you luck, and if you need help please check with your local United Way!
check with your local court house and see if you can get a payment plan...lots of places will let you even though they have turned to warrants...be respectable and call it cant hurt!they should tell you about how much$you might need to give/also they might have a work program that could help you pay it off?talk to your land lord see if he wont let you ride a little longer on ';tab';who cant live with out internet for a while?are you a tile setter or saler?car thing is a drag ';I know';! umm, cant help a whole lot there sorry...it might be time to flip some burgers or something? sorry man!...kit
The inside is that my rent is past due, I'm potentially getting evicted soon. My internet is shut off on tuesday, so I won't be able to finish this semester at school. My commissioned job is ending next tuesday. I haven't paid gas or electricity in months. I have two warrants out for me for traffic violations (bench warrants). My car has 3 month expired plates, no insurance, no mirrors, cracked windshield, and a dragging muffler. I feel as if my life is imploding.
I just don't know how to dig myself out before it crashes down upon me.Need some serious life advice please?
We're all been to ups and downs, depends on how fast you go up will tell how fast you'll fall. Life is just a cycle, just try to hang on. don't loose hope. One day you'll be back on the good track again.
We are all connected, there will always be someone to take care and love.
Good luckNeed some serious life advice please?
Joel's right, financial problems can be solved. its waaaayyyyy better than having a problem that even loads of money cannot solve.
try to solve it one by one.draw up a plan/schedule. talk to your landlord first to give you grace time. go find another job. and don't worry about your studies for the time being. can you log in at the library?? use their internet.
i really think u need to go get some help! stay strong for the lil one.
I can't pretend that I know what its like to be in your situation. The stress must be nearly unbearable.
I don't know if I can help... but your probably looking for any advice about now... so
Sounds like your first move should be to prioritize. You have countless worries and problems, and you are allowing them to consume you.
Take a minute to just stop, and deeply consider the most important things in your life, the most pressing issues.
I'm sure your daughter and her well-being is first; as long she is in your life, it will not ';implode';. keep that in mind
I'd guess that next would be your income, since you're obviously stressing horribly over your job/career. Your first action, if you are not already doing so, is to search for another job, if you know your current one will end soon. Even if its not a great one, its better than nothing right?
As far as your education goes, try to put it in perspective. Maybe you can't complete this semester, but once you get back on your feet, you'll be able to return to school and become who you want to be.
I don't know if your already doing so, but if not, you should definately look into Student Financial Aid. Most educational institutions gladly loan money to people in your position.
I hope this wasn't totally useless, and I really think you'll pull yourself through.
If you got family ask for help, get a loan from the bank, or find another job. It seems like all your problems are routed from financial problems. Just don't go insane, stay strong. :)
Take care of the legal stuff first. You don't need to spend a night in jail while DCF picks you apart as a parent.
You can attend school if your job permits. Let your teachers know whats going on and that you may have to schedule internet use between work and library hours. Find out what activities are going on in the kid section and they may play babysitter while you upload your homework.
Do what you can with what you have, take some time alone to cry if you feel the world is crashing down but know it doesn't happen all at once. At this point you can still fight.
One thing at a time. Its a long hard process to evict a family with child, you can do your schoolwork and upload it at the library. Theirs nothing you can do about loosing your job but you can focus on things you can change.
I wish you luck, and if you need help please check with your local United Way!
check with your local court house and see if you can get a payment plan...lots of places will let you even though they have turned to warrants...be respectable and call it cant hurt!they should tell you about how much$you might need to give/also they might have a work program that could help you pay it off?talk to your land lord see if he wont let you ride a little longer on ';tab';who cant live with out internet for a while?are you a tile setter or saler?car thing is a drag ';I know';! umm, cant help a whole lot there sorry...it might be time to flip some burgers or something? sorry man!...kit
3rd part of life advice?
I really want to change my life once and for life
I don't know why i feel the way i feel, but i don't like it anymore, never did.
For a long time i been away from socializing, i always got things late in my life
Had fake friends, backstabbers, two faced. They would always try to start arguments with me
spread rumors, and gossip about me behind my back. This are friends i had for 10+ years.
A few of them, i don't talk to anymore, there is only one left, who keeps coming over
hanging out with my bro's %26amp; pretends everything is koo.
I just don't know what i should do, should i confront him for all the stupid **** he did, and caused me to feel this way about myself,
or should i just let it go, and make sure when he trys to do it again, i let him know and confront him about it then,
He always tried to **** **** with me, and between other people. He would get me involved in drama.
I don't know what to do with this situation anymore
I want to forgive myself, Stop pleasing people, get my prioritys in order,
I want to live my life to the fullest, start being happy and enjoying my life
I want to let go of the past and move on, but its hard when you have hella negative S H I T bottled up.
I want to start being myself again, i feel like i have to self confidence %26amp; no self esteem.
I feel self conscious about myself sometimes, for years i been making myself miserable.
I regret doing it, and i even hate myself more for it now.
I want to start standing up for myself, what should i do, to not be laid back anymore
I use to keep alot of things inside, and wouldn't speak up as much,
but i want to start being assertive, i want to be able to speak up and stand up for myself
when someone tries to disrespect me,
So from 1 to 10, what are some things i need to do in my life, to be more happy
how should i act, talk, what should i do in certain situations, good and bad.
and actually start living my life.
I really want some great advice, %26amp; don't worry,
whether your the first person to answer, or last
i will give best answer to who ever, gives me his best.
please do your best3rd part of life advice?
You come across in your question as a negative thinker. Think positive! It all depends on whether you want to be a success (in the popular sense) or happy. Most American media (TV, Movies, sports, Music, etc) touts success. Thhis means the single minded pursuit of wealth, power and fame. If you want to be truly happy discard these goals and pursue truth, appreciate beauty and exercise goodness. I am 76 and I can truthfully say I have never met a rich man who was truly happy. They are never satisfied; they always want more.
In human relations always consider the other persons welfare at least as important as your own. If you are a Christian, love your neighbor as your self and forgive; if you are ';Enlightened'; consider that the welfare of the other guy is to your advantage for if he is not doing well neither will you be.
Try a subscription to ';Positive Thinking'; available from www.positive thinkingmag.com for a nominal price.3rd part of life advice?
My Friend...you have an honorable attitude, and you have been hanging out with people who just don't think the same way, or feel the same way as you do. Let me ask you this,..Do you believe in God, and Jesus? I know, that people have been BRUTAL to me during my life, but on the other hand, the Lord, has blessed me so much..I love God and Jesus, and live for Them, It is hard to do sometimes in this life, but when you do, you can feel good about forgiving others, and you will have the comfort, to know that They have also forgiven you. Forgive your friends, if you want to move forward, because if you live in the past, you have no future...Ask God and Jesus, to come into your life, and give you guidance,and strength, and wisdom, to find your way in this world...Love your enemies, and do good to those, who spitefully hurt you...It may seem hard to do, but if you REALLY love God and Jesus, you will find it one of the easiest things you have ever had to do...Good luck little one, I will say a prayer for you to nightgold eyeshadow
I don't know why i feel the way i feel, but i don't like it anymore, never did.
For a long time i been away from socializing, i always got things late in my life
Had fake friends, backstabbers, two faced. They would always try to start arguments with me
spread rumors, and gossip about me behind my back. This are friends i had for 10+ years.
A few of them, i don't talk to anymore, there is only one left, who keeps coming over
hanging out with my bro's %26amp; pretends everything is koo.
I just don't know what i should do, should i confront him for all the stupid **** he did, and caused me to feel this way about myself,
or should i just let it go, and make sure when he trys to do it again, i let him know and confront him about it then,
He always tried to **** **** with me, and between other people. He would get me involved in drama.
I don't know what to do with this situation anymore
I want to forgive myself, Stop pleasing people, get my prioritys in order,
I want to live my life to the fullest, start being happy and enjoying my life
I want to let go of the past and move on, but its hard when you have hella negative S H I T bottled up.
I want to start being myself again, i feel like i have to self confidence %26amp; no self esteem.
I feel self conscious about myself sometimes, for years i been making myself miserable.
I regret doing it, and i even hate myself more for it now.
I want to start standing up for myself, what should i do, to not be laid back anymore
I use to keep alot of things inside, and wouldn't speak up as much,
but i want to start being assertive, i want to be able to speak up and stand up for myself
when someone tries to disrespect me,
So from 1 to 10, what are some things i need to do in my life, to be more happy
how should i act, talk, what should i do in certain situations, good and bad.
and actually start living my life.
I really want some great advice, %26amp; don't worry,
whether your the first person to answer, or last
i will give best answer to who ever, gives me his best.
please do your best3rd part of life advice?
You come across in your question as a negative thinker. Think positive! It all depends on whether you want to be a success (in the popular sense) or happy. Most American media (TV, Movies, sports, Music, etc) touts success. Thhis means the single minded pursuit of wealth, power and fame. If you want to be truly happy discard these goals and pursue truth, appreciate beauty and exercise goodness. I am 76 and I can truthfully say I have never met a rich man who was truly happy. They are never satisfied; they always want more.
In human relations always consider the other persons welfare at least as important as your own. If you are a Christian, love your neighbor as your self and forgive; if you are ';Enlightened'; consider that the welfare of the other guy is to your advantage for if he is not doing well neither will you be.
Try a subscription to ';Positive Thinking'; available from www.positive thinkingmag.com for a nominal price.3rd part of life advice?
My Friend...you have an honorable attitude, and you have been hanging out with people who just don't think the same way, or feel the same way as you do. Let me ask you this,..Do you believe in God, and Jesus? I know, that people have been BRUTAL to me during my life, but on the other hand, the Lord, has blessed me so much..I love God and Jesus, and live for Them, It is hard to do sometimes in this life, but when you do, you can feel good about forgiving others, and you will have the comfort, to know that They have also forgiven you. Forgive your friends, if you want to move forward, because if you live in the past, you have no future...Ask God and Jesus, to come into your life, and give you guidance,and strength, and wisdom, to find your way in this world...Love your enemies, and do good to those, who spitefully hurt you...It may seem hard to do, but if you REALLY love God and Jesus, you will find it one of the easiest things you have ever had to do...Good luck little one, I will say a prayer for you to night
I hate my life....advice please?
well i dont want to bore anyone with my life but right now i feel alone and since i have no one to turn to i thought maybe someone here might liisten.
nothing is like it use to be, which i guess is normal, sparks go away after a while. but its not just sparks, i feel nothing for my boyfriend anymore, i hate to say this but at times i feel hate. ( because of all the times hes been rude , mean ,weird ,etc) ive cried so many times, when he promised he would never put me through that.
i dont regret having our son, i love him w/all my heart. but i do regret other things.
my relationship w/my family has turned sour because of him, whenever my family told me that he was no good for me i would always stand up for him and defend him . now i see that they were right.
but i feel its too late.
i dont know what to do, i go to college thanks to my dads help, i dont work because of the baby and school.
he got laid off.....we live at my moms house and have no where else to go, not that i want to go with him anyways....
i hate my life, and i dont know how to fix it. all i can do is cry and cry and cry. and i know that wont help but .....i just dont know.
i chose the wrong guy ..... he doesnt respect me, doesnt listen when i speak, im pretty much talking to a brick wall. and i just feel like hes not there for me, at least not in the same way i was always there for him
i made the wrong choices.....
i just want to hear advice....anything to make me feel betterI hate my life....advice please?
Obviously the relationship is not doing you any good. It sounds to me as if you COULD be suffering from depression and you could benefit from talking to a doctor. Crying all the time is no good for you or your child. Good on you for going to college. I study while raising a family and know how hard it can be.
I went through the same thing as you but wasted twenty years of my life before I left the father of my child.
It must be hard for you both living at your mothers house and I guess he feels a bit useless because he is not working and can not take care of his family.
First thing is for you to see a doctor about all that crying - before it begins to effect your studies.
THen you need to sit down and have a good think about what YOU want. This man is the father of your child and therefore will always be a part of your life but if the relationship is making you so miserable it may be time to cut your losses and break it off with him.
Don't be too hard on yourself, we all make mistakes and the wrong choices at times. Just remember, life is not a dress rehearsal. THIS IS THE REAL THING and it is up to us to make the changes we need in order for us to be happy.I hate my life....advice please?
well cheer up i dont know what your going through right now but if your boyfriend dosent listen, respect etc. you then you cant be in a loveless relationship just dump him and start over with your son and graduate college and im sure the right guy will come into your life when you dont even expect it.
Actually now would be the best time to make changes in your life while you are living with your Mom. If you honestly feel this way, do the mature thing and decide what is best for you and your child, then act on it. Create a life's plan and follow it.
well it isnt all ur fault........
DUMP him
he doesnt deserve u
I would break up with him and find a guy who you do love and who does respect you. Just because you are with this guy and you have a child with him does not mean you are bound to be with him. Yes you have a child together but you can find someone who does make you happy. Graduate from college, get a great job, and focus on you and your son. get rid of the guy. Find a new and better guy...a guy who you love and want to wake up to everyday! It might take time but its worth it!
Listen, you seem like a caring person so you know as well i do thats its time to move on. If you wont do it for you do it for your child because the longer you stay with him the worst its gonna get and your child an family deserve more then that. Just know that its this guys loss not yours and you deserve better, so don't be silly about this and move on. If you are a good person good things will come....in time! just be patience. The only one thats needs you now is your child
I am so sorry things are not going well for you. I have never had any of these issues so I may not be the best to give you advice. But, since you call him your boyfriend I am assuming your not married. If he is not willing to discuss the issues with you and attempt to work on the relationship, get rid of him. Plenty of men are still great fathers, even though they weren't great boyfriends/husbands As for your family, if anyone can you help you through a situation like this it's them. Keep your head up and concentrate on college. Your life can always be improved. Thoughts are with you.
nothing is like it use to be, which i guess is normal, sparks go away after a while. but its not just sparks, i feel nothing for my boyfriend anymore, i hate to say this but at times i feel hate. ( because of all the times hes been rude , mean ,weird ,etc) ive cried so many times, when he promised he would never put me through that.
i dont regret having our son, i love him w/all my heart. but i do regret other things.
my relationship w/my family has turned sour because of him, whenever my family told me that he was no good for me i would always stand up for him and defend him . now i see that they were right.
but i feel its too late.
i dont know what to do, i go to college thanks to my dads help, i dont work because of the baby and school.
he got laid off.....we live at my moms house and have no where else to go, not that i want to go with him anyways....
i hate my life, and i dont know how to fix it. all i can do is cry and cry and cry. and i know that wont help but .....i just dont know.
i chose the wrong guy ..... he doesnt respect me, doesnt listen when i speak, im pretty much talking to a brick wall. and i just feel like hes not there for me, at least not in the same way i was always there for him
i made the wrong choices.....
i just want to hear advice....anything to make me feel betterI hate my life....advice please?
Obviously the relationship is not doing you any good. It sounds to me as if you COULD be suffering from depression and you could benefit from talking to a doctor. Crying all the time is no good for you or your child. Good on you for going to college. I study while raising a family and know how hard it can be.
I went through the same thing as you but wasted twenty years of my life before I left the father of my child.
It must be hard for you both living at your mothers house and I guess he feels a bit useless because he is not working and can not take care of his family.
First thing is for you to see a doctor about all that crying - before it begins to effect your studies.
THen you need to sit down and have a good think about what YOU want. This man is the father of your child and therefore will always be a part of your life but if the relationship is making you so miserable it may be time to cut your losses and break it off with him.
Don't be too hard on yourself, we all make mistakes and the wrong choices at times. Just remember, life is not a dress rehearsal. THIS IS THE REAL THING and it is up to us to make the changes we need in order for us to be happy.I hate my life....advice please?
well cheer up i dont know what your going through right now but if your boyfriend dosent listen, respect etc. you then you cant be in a loveless relationship just dump him and start over with your son and graduate college and im sure the right guy will come into your life when you dont even expect it.
Actually now would be the best time to make changes in your life while you are living with your Mom. If you honestly feel this way, do the mature thing and decide what is best for you and your child, then act on it. Create a life's plan and follow it.
well it isnt all ur fault........
DUMP him
he doesnt deserve u
I would break up with him and find a guy who you do love and who does respect you. Just because you are with this guy and you have a child with him does not mean you are bound to be with him. Yes you have a child together but you can find someone who does make you happy. Graduate from college, get a great job, and focus on you and your son. get rid of the guy. Find a new and better guy...a guy who you love and want to wake up to everyday! It might take time but its worth it!
Listen, you seem like a caring person so you know as well i do thats its time to move on. If you wont do it for you do it for your child because the longer you stay with him the worst its gonna get and your child an family deserve more then that. Just know that its this guys loss not yours and you deserve better, so don't be silly about this and move on. If you are a good person good things will come....in time! just be patience. The only one thats needs you now is your child
I am so sorry things are not going well for you. I have never had any of these issues so I may not be the best to give you advice. But, since you call him your boyfriend I am assuming your not married. If he is not willing to discuss the issues with you and attempt to work on the relationship, get rid of him. Plenty of men are still great fathers, even though they weren't great boyfriends/husbands As for your family, if anyone can you help you through a situation like this it's them. Keep your head up and concentrate on college. Your life can always be improved. Thoughts are with you.
I need career/life advice, help?
I just finished my second year of college. With a few more courses I could easily have an associate degree in Math Education. I planned on teaching. But lately I find myself unhappy with that. And I think God's way of telling me this isn't what I should be doing, is I cant afford the school I was at anymore.
I love dancing, I took classes in jazz tap ballet clogging hip-hop lyrical and basic acrobatics for 13 years. And really feel moved to start my own studio.
Can you answer some of these questions?:
How much does a studio cost to run? assuming i have roughly a 1000 sqft studio (give or take some).
I could offer all of the classes of styles I mentioned above. Also, If i had a partner that was more into the gymnastics/pageanty side of things, wouldnt that help?
I am basically just wondering if this is a really bad decision to change?
Should i just suck it up and get student loans and get a bachelors in math ed?I need career/life advice, help?
if your not happy with it then don't do it, in the meantime though you can find a job with your new qualifications and help save up for your new studio. the dancing thing sounds like a lot more fun than stuck in a stuffy old office 9-5 anyway :-)I need career/life advice, help?
Hello,
My Name is Maureen Sliver i live in the UK and life is worth living comfortably for me and my family now and i really have never seen goodness shown to me this much in my life as i am a struggling mum with three kids and i have been going through a serious problem as my husband encountered a terrible accident last two weeks, and the doctors states that he needs to undergo a delicate surgery for him to be able to walk again and i could not afford the bill for his surgery then i went to the bank for a loan and they turn me down stating that i have no credit card, from there i run to my father and he was not able to help, then when i was browsing through yahoo answers and i came across a loan lender Mrs Lillian Johnson who provides loans at an affordable interest rate and i have been hearing about so many scams on the internet but at this my desperate situation, i had no choice than to give it an attempt and surprisingly it was all like a dream, i received a loan of $35,000 USD and i payed for my husband surgery and thank GOD today he is okay and can walk and is working and the burden is longer so much on me any more and we can feed well and my family is happy today and i said to my self that i will shout aloud to the world of the wonders of GOD to me through this GOD fearing lender Mrs Lillian Johnson and i will advise anyone in genuine and serious need of loan to contact this GOD fearing woman via lillianjohnsonloancompany22@yahoo.com and i want you all to pray for this woman for me.
I love dancing, I took classes in jazz tap ballet clogging hip-hop lyrical and basic acrobatics for 13 years. And really feel moved to start my own studio.
Can you answer some of these questions?:
How much does a studio cost to run? assuming i have roughly a 1000 sqft studio (give or take some).
I could offer all of the classes of styles I mentioned above. Also, If i had a partner that was more into the gymnastics/pageanty side of things, wouldnt that help?
I am basically just wondering if this is a really bad decision to change?
Should i just suck it up and get student loans and get a bachelors in math ed?I need career/life advice, help?
if your not happy with it then don't do it, in the meantime though you can find a job with your new qualifications and help save up for your new studio. the dancing thing sounds like a lot more fun than stuck in a stuffy old office 9-5 anyway :-)I need career/life advice, help?
Hello,
My Name is Maureen Sliver i live in the UK and life is worth living comfortably for me and my family now and i really have never seen goodness shown to me this much in my life as i am a struggling mum with three kids and i have been going through a serious problem as my husband encountered a terrible accident last two weeks, and the doctors states that he needs to undergo a delicate surgery for him to be able to walk again and i could not afford the bill for his surgery then i went to the bank for a loan and they turn me down stating that i have no credit card, from there i run to my father and he was not able to help, then when i was browsing through yahoo answers and i came across a loan lender Mrs Lillian Johnson who provides loans at an affordable interest rate and i have been hearing about so many scams on the internet but at this my desperate situation, i had no choice than to give it an attempt and surprisingly it was all like a dream, i received a loan of $35,000 USD and i payed for my husband surgery and thank GOD today he is okay and can walk and is working and the burden is longer so much on me any more and we can feed well and my family is happy today and i said to my self that i will shout aloud to the world of the wonders of GOD to me through this GOD fearing lender Mrs Lillian Johnson and i will advise anyone in genuine and serious need of loan to contact this GOD fearing woman via lillianjohnsonloancompany22@yahoo.com and i want you all to pray for this woman for me.
Messed up love life advice...?
So I met this ';guy'; online 6 years ago(when we were 14), We started talking things were great so we exchanged phone numbers. THe first time on the phone I thought he had a kinda girly voice, but hey he was young and maybe hadn't gone through puberty. So we kept talking, Started falling for eachother, but things were weird because he never mentioned me to his family or friends. Then i found his brother on myspace 2 years ago (after 4 years of ';dating';) and I find out that his brother didn't have a brother, he only had a sister...that confused me, so I went on ';his'; msn and started talking to ';his'; friends and found out that HE was really a SHE who thought she was a guy...transgender type of thing (and we had already met in person and I couldn't tell it was a girl) As soon as I found out she came here and for me things were really awkard, but her things were normal...now I don't now what to do. I've seen her twice since I found out...and I really do love ';him'; but I don't know if I can learn to love her? My parents are totally against the whole lesbian situation, and so was I...when I first had the hunch that HE was a SHE I felt sick to my stomach...and when I think about it I still do...but when I'm with this person I love being with them...I just hate when her parents call her by her name and any other time I'm reminded she's really a girl...I need serious advice...It's really messed up...Messed up love life advice...?
If it's hard on you, imagine how it's been for him.
He was born in a body that never felt right. He had to endure it betraying him with the wrong puberty, and family rejecting him when he tried to get treatment. His brother refuses to acknowledge him for who he is.
If you have to step back that's one thing. But please don't leave him because of his condition. He must have been glad you saw him for who he is instead of what he has. He must have been afraid to risk that by telling you about this.
If you had switched places - if you were both born in male bodies, and you were the one who had to transition, would you want him to see you for who you are, or would you want him to focus on your condition?Messed up love life advice...?
I don't think this person is right for you, if they had to lie to you and pretend to be a guy to hook up with you then they're not an honest person. You don't want someone who won't be completely honest, plus you're straight you don't want a girlfriend you want a boyfriend.
This is very difficult. But you gotta think of whats for the best in the long run and if you can handle the road ahead if you choose to be with this person, even if that means breaking someone's heart.
wow! i could tell you what to do,but if you won't listen to your parents then you won't listen to anybody.
Wowwee! Hunny, i think you need to sit down and think and decide whether you want to be with her. 'cos you fell for 'him' but not her which i understand. So really.. your kind of loving someone that doesn't exist, because she isnt a man.
Think.
Do you love her? Honestly.
Would you ever do anything with her... *wink wink*
When you see her, what do you think?
I think this girl has feelings for you, very strong feelings.
But, i don't know why she lied to you! Which is wrong.
Ask her next time you talk to her, why she did lie.
Just sit and think, you'll make the right decision :)
Blimey this is a real toughy. You love the tomboy her, but don't know if you can love the girly her.
Seems as though you have to think about what you really want, a lesbian relationship with someone who, in some ways you are in love with, or a straight relationship with a guy.
Maybe you could experiment with her, and see how things go, it's not unusual for people to try out different things sexually, its all down to what you really want from a relationship.
Either way, seems you have a loyal friend, its just a case of what you are looking for from a partner.
Mike t.
This is definitely an awkward situation! But you need to think wether you can be with this person or not. If you can't look at this person and say ';yea...they are with me'; then you don't need to be with them. You are the only one that can make this decision! Just relax and take some serious time to think about it.
GOOD LUCK!
I think it is best to let her go. I wouldn't even necessarily suggest staying friends. The entire relationship is based on a lie. Who know what else she has lied to you about. Even if you could get over the fact that she is a girl, you will always question if she is being truthful with you. Trust is very important in a relationship, without trust there will be endless fighting. You know that sick to your stomach feeling that you said you get when you think about her being a girl.... well I'm pretty sure that means you are not a lesbian. Even if you were I wouldn't recommend a relationship with a liar...No excuses
Girl leave that situation alone, take your self from out of that drama. She should have been upfront from the jump. People should have the choice of being an a gay relationship. She should have told you. You guys have been together for 4 years and you don't even really know her, because if you did you would have known he was a she. This just shows that maybe she couldn't trust you with the truth. I think that it is a dishonest situation. You fall in love with a lie, because you ever knew the people behind the disguise.
If it's hard on you, imagine how it's been for him.
He was born in a body that never felt right. He had to endure it betraying him with the wrong puberty, and family rejecting him when he tried to get treatment. His brother refuses to acknowledge him for who he is.
If you have to step back that's one thing. But please don't leave him because of his condition. He must have been glad you saw him for who he is instead of what he has. He must have been afraid to risk that by telling you about this.
If you had switched places - if you were both born in male bodies, and you were the one who had to transition, would you want him to see you for who you are, or would you want him to focus on your condition?Messed up love life advice...?
I don't think this person is right for you, if they had to lie to you and pretend to be a guy to hook up with you then they're not an honest person. You don't want someone who won't be completely honest, plus you're straight you don't want a girlfriend you want a boyfriend.
This is very difficult. But you gotta think of whats for the best in the long run and if you can handle the road ahead if you choose to be with this person, even if that means breaking someone's heart.
wow! i could tell you what to do,but if you won't listen to your parents then you won't listen to anybody.
Wowwee! Hunny, i think you need to sit down and think and decide whether you want to be with her. 'cos you fell for 'him' but not her which i understand. So really.. your kind of loving someone that doesn't exist, because she isnt a man.
Think.
Do you love her? Honestly.
Would you ever do anything with her... *wink wink*
When you see her, what do you think?
I think this girl has feelings for you, very strong feelings.
But, i don't know why she lied to you! Which is wrong.
Ask her next time you talk to her, why she did lie.
Just sit and think, you'll make the right decision :)
Blimey this is a real toughy. You love the tomboy her, but don't know if you can love the girly her.
Seems as though you have to think about what you really want, a lesbian relationship with someone who, in some ways you are in love with, or a straight relationship with a guy.
Maybe you could experiment with her, and see how things go, it's not unusual for people to try out different things sexually, its all down to what you really want from a relationship.
Either way, seems you have a loyal friend, its just a case of what you are looking for from a partner.
Mike t.
This is definitely an awkward situation! But you need to think wether you can be with this person or not. If you can't look at this person and say ';yea...they are with me'; then you don't need to be with them. You are the only one that can make this decision! Just relax and take some serious time to think about it.
GOOD LUCK!
I think it is best to let her go. I wouldn't even necessarily suggest staying friends. The entire relationship is based on a lie. Who know what else she has lied to you about. Even if you could get over the fact that she is a girl, you will always question if she is being truthful with you. Trust is very important in a relationship, without trust there will be endless fighting. You know that sick to your stomach feeling that you said you get when you think about her being a girl.... well I'm pretty sure that means you are not a lesbian. Even if you were I wouldn't recommend a relationship with a liar...No excuses
Girl leave that situation alone, take your self from out of that drama. She should have been upfront from the jump. People should have the choice of being an a gay relationship. She should have told you. You guys have been together for 4 years and you don't even really know her, because if you did you would have known he was a she. This just shows that maybe she couldn't trust you with the truth. I think that it is a dishonest situation. You fall in love with a lie, because you ever knew the people behind the disguise.
I need some life advice ?
i need some advice, i just dont know what to do anymore, i really am slacking off in school its just even know how hard i try my grades always suck anyways. My mother hates it when i get good grades and i hate it when i have to show her the bad grades. i know i can do the work its just there is no motivation in me. the other thing is when i was a kid i use to be happy and never had a worry in the world. but now i worry about everything and i practally find no enjoyment in anything anymore, i just do what i got to do and then thats it. is there something i can do?I need some life advice ?
You need to look at the positive side of things. Get involved with people that are happy and sure of them selves. Talk to the school counsel about bettering your self, I know you can do it, and you have done the first step anyway, You already ask for help, so you know what you want. Good luck to ya, and talk to your mom too, I'm sure she would love to help you, she loves you. And I'm sure there are alot of people who care.I need some life advice ?
';My mother hates it when i get good grades'; ???!!!
Motivation is addressed in section 28, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Worry in section 6; see page N first. Study tips; section 13. '; i practally find no enjoyment in anything anymore';:- You may be depressed; there is a quiz for this on page J of section 2. Print the result, and if confirmed, show to your parents, school counselor, and doctor. View page R in section 2, teen? depression, and eventually, the rest.
Trust me I know what you are going through I've been there done that, but you have to know that it's just life. You can only do what you can, and just do your best. I don't want to bring religion into it, but just pray about it, thats what helps me, I mean in this world you have to believe in something, and start with yourself. There is going to be haters and even family members that will bring you down, but you have to be able to tell yourself that you can do it. Get all of the drama and negativity out of your life cause stress will kill you. For me my faith is what keeps me stronger.
I'll probably get a million mean messages about this but i don't care.
You need to find God, if you already haven't, you should ask him, he'll help you find the Strength to overcome your weakness' repent yourself you'll feel as if all burdens have been lifted of you shoulders.
Here's some help.
http://www.worshipquest.org/
May God be with you!
Good-Luck!
=D
You are young! Enjoy your life everyday. Try to succeed in everything you do, as long as it makes you feel good. I know how stressful life can seem sometimes, I live with a mental illness and sometimes I'm happy and sometimes I'm sad, but I try not to let the little things stress me out. School is important, no matter how you look at it. If you look inside yourself, you will know you are something special and you were brought here for a reason. Try and keep a journal, it helps to alleviate the stress and heartache sometimes. I know it seems silly but trust me it helps. Also, if you feel you cant get past that motivation block- find something interesting to do, draw-paint-run-walk-sing-bowl-play board games- be productive, don't let the worst overcome you! I hope this helped!!
You need to look at the positive side of things. Get involved with people that are happy and sure of them selves. Talk to the school counsel about bettering your self, I know you can do it, and you have done the first step anyway, You already ask for help, so you know what you want. Good luck to ya, and talk to your mom too, I'm sure she would love to help you, she loves you. And I'm sure there are alot of people who care.I need some life advice ?
';My mother hates it when i get good grades'; ???!!!
Motivation is addressed in section 28, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris Worry in section 6; see page N first. Study tips; section 13. '; i practally find no enjoyment in anything anymore';:- You may be depressed; there is a quiz for this on page J of section 2. Print the result, and if confirmed, show to your parents, school counselor, and doctor. View page R in section 2, teen? depression, and eventually, the rest.
Trust me I know what you are going through I've been there done that, but you have to know that it's just life. You can only do what you can, and just do your best. I don't want to bring religion into it, but just pray about it, thats what helps me, I mean in this world you have to believe in something, and start with yourself. There is going to be haters and even family members that will bring you down, but you have to be able to tell yourself that you can do it. Get all of the drama and negativity out of your life cause stress will kill you. For me my faith is what keeps me stronger.
I'll probably get a million mean messages about this but i don't care.
You need to find God, if you already haven't, you should ask him, he'll help you find the Strength to overcome your weakness' repent yourself you'll feel as if all burdens have been lifted of you shoulders.
Here's some help.
http://www.worshipquest.org/
May God be with you!
Good-Luck!
=D
You are young! Enjoy your life everyday. Try to succeed in everything you do, as long as it makes you feel good. I know how stressful life can seem sometimes, I live with a mental illness and sometimes I'm happy and sometimes I'm sad, but I try not to let the little things stress me out. School is important, no matter how you look at it. If you look inside yourself, you will know you are something special and you were brought here for a reason. Try and keep a journal, it helps to alleviate the stress and heartache sometimes. I know it seems silly but trust me it helps. Also, if you feel you cant get past that motivation block- find something interesting to do, draw-paint-run-walk-sing-bowl-play board games- be productive, don't let the worst overcome you! I hope this helped!!
PLEASE help me(life advice)?
I have been contemplating about this every second that I am awake over the past 2 weeks. Here is my story:
I moved to the united states when I was 11 from Poland with my parents. Since then, Poland became part of the european union(and im still a citizen). I have been both happy and unhappy in the u.s. I like the economy and all the freedoms, but I do not like the culture and other things as much. So over the past two weeks I have been craving about going back to europe and maybe starting my life over there(what country I dont know yet). I am 18, so I would go to college. However, if I leave the u.s. I cant come back(dont ask why). Also, as Ive said before the economy here is great and I have a lot of possiblities here with jobs that pay a lot. I know that western european countries have a good economy as well, but it just seems that their standard of life is lower. So ok, the economy here is good, but I am very homesick of europe. And whos to say I cant be successfull there? Cont...PLEASE help me(life advice)?
The answer lies within your values and what is important to you. Americans tend to be more materialistic than the rest of the world, we always think that we need new and better things to be happy. For some reason we are more concerned with what are neighbors think of us and our social status then spending quality time with friends, family, and loved ones. The European value system tends to be much different, with more emphasis on family and community, not just the pursuit of material wealth. So you need to ask yourself what your real values are and how do you need to live your life to be truly happy. Forget about what American advertisers tell you that you need to be happy, and look within yourself for the answers. Take some time to do this. Then just follow your heart and it will tell you what to do.PLEASE help me(life advice)?
there must be someway that you can contact someone in Poland and discuss life there, what they like and dislike. Maybe that would help you make a decision which . Hope I helped. Good luck
Go--live life-the American dream is a myth.
Seven years ago you were a child. You thought like a child and behaved like a child. Are you idealizing a childish memory? At seven no one is aware of the difficulties and realities of adult life. You may have been misinformed about your ability to come back. See an immigration lawyer, to find out your real legal status, and what can be done about the situation. God be with you.
I don't know, Mac. I have to agree that you may be holding onto childhood memories. You need to base your decision on where you can make a good living for yourself and a future family.
I've decided that there is no perfect place to live. Life is where you make it. And also...our economy in the U.S. right now is definitely not that great but hopefully it will turn around.
Best of luck to you!
stay here. I lived in Eastern Europe as well. You will never like some things about the US, but it's just better for you. Besides, you can always just move to AMerican town with a large Polish community, depending on the state you want to live in. there is enough Polish people here to continue living by the Polish culture
I moved to the united states when I was 11 from Poland with my parents. Since then, Poland became part of the european union(and im still a citizen). I have been both happy and unhappy in the u.s. I like the economy and all the freedoms, but I do not like the culture and other things as much. So over the past two weeks I have been craving about going back to europe and maybe starting my life over there(what country I dont know yet). I am 18, so I would go to college. However, if I leave the u.s. I cant come back(dont ask why). Also, as Ive said before the economy here is great and I have a lot of possiblities here with jobs that pay a lot. I know that western european countries have a good economy as well, but it just seems that their standard of life is lower. So ok, the economy here is good, but I am very homesick of europe. And whos to say I cant be successfull there? Cont...PLEASE help me(life advice)?
The answer lies within your values and what is important to you. Americans tend to be more materialistic than the rest of the world, we always think that we need new and better things to be happy. For some reason we are more concerned with what are neighbors think of us and our social status then spending quality time with friends, family, and loved ones. The European value system tends to be much different, with more emphasis on family and community, not just the pursuit of material wealth. So you need to ask yourself what your real values are and how do you need to live your life to be truly happy. Forget about what American advertisers tell you that you need to be happy, and look within yourself for the answers. Take some time to do this. Then just follow your heart and it will tell you what to do.PLEASE help me(life advice)?
there must be someway that you can contact someone in Poland and discuss life there, what they like and dislike. Maybe that would help you make a decision which . Hope I helped. Good luck
Go--live life-the American dream is a myth.
Seven years ago you were a child. You thought like a child and behaved like a child. Are you idealizing a childish memory? At seven no one is aware of the difficulties and realities of adult life. You may have been misinformed about your ability to come back. See an immigration lawyer, to find out your real legal status, and what can be done about the situation. God be with you.
I don't know, Mac. I have to agree that you may be holding onto childhood memories. You need to base your decision on where you can make a good living for yourself and a future family.
I've decided that there is no perfect place to live. Life is where you make it. And also...our economy in the U.S. right now is definitely not that great but hopefully it will turn around.
Best of luck to you!
stay here. I lived in Eastern Europe as well. You will never like some things about the US, but it's just better for you. Besides, you can always just move to AMerican town with a large Polish community, depending on the state you want to live in. there is enough Polish people here to continue living by the Polish culture
I need some life advice?
Well I am in a weird situation as far as my life goes. Basically, I was raised by my grandmother and she passed away a couple months back. Now that I'm over the grief, I'm somewhat frightened since I am all alone and my life has no meaning. I have my own online business and work by myself. I make good money but have no friends and don't have a personal relationship with anyone in this world. It's a weird solitary life... I wake up, go for a jog, eat then work all day then eat dinner and sleep.. day in day out. Weekends after my jog I just plant myself in front of the TV all day. I don't have the social skills and don't know how to change my life, I am very unhappy. I guess my life is better than some people since I have money to take care of myself, so should I just live my life this way, since I don't really have the skills or know how to change it, or the courage to talk to girls.I need some life advice?
You should see ';Taxi Driver'; when De Niro plays ';God's lonely man';.
If I were you, I would become a taxi driver,and later I'd go on a rampage until the cops kill me.Since you have the money ,it would be easy to buy some good pistols.I need some life advice?
Well, your in luck, there is a site for you:
www.plentyoffish.com
';since I don't really have the skills or know how to change it, or the courage to talk to girls.';
Trust, women love to YAP! They want YOU to listen. :-)
I know this may come down as pretty heavy reading, but two books I would recommend you read to help you keep a girl friend or wife when you DO get one:
Love Busters
His Needs/ Her Needs
read these and you will be light years ahead of MOST men who ';think'; they have experience and know what they are doing.
Good Luck!
two days ago you said you dated a girl for 6 months. you must have had some social skill to date for that long. you must have talked to her at some point during the 6 months. good luck to you
I am very close to my Grandma and I take care of her a lot, Since I'm only 16 it is hard for me. I have thought about what I'll do when she is gone, But I know I have other people arounf me.
Maybe you should go out and party a little, it never hurt anyone to have a little fun. After a while I'm sure everything is going to get better. It is hard for me a 16 year old girl to tell you that everyones life has a meaning, But it's true. You are here for a reason, Maybe you should put yourself out in the world to find out what your use is.
:)
-Emeyle
well...to me you are some what shy man....but try going to some clubs ..and ask girls out..you'll be ok....good luck..man.
umm wow. if i were you honestly i would see a phsycologist. it might be procy but he can help you ease into a social life. best i can do
You have skills and communicate very well. Self confidence may be lacking here. And to say your life has no meaning is just to judgmental. Perhaps if you judge yourself so harshly then you just might be doing this to those around you. Just start hanging around the kid of people you have things in common with. Did you just say they do not exist. Sorry again they do. Life is a hunt for a treasure. even though it might be hard to find the search is worth it.
First, let me offer my condolences. Fortunately, I've never lost someone I loved, seeing how I'm still quite young, but I'm sorry for your loss.
But now that you're getting over the grief, I think it's time to be free for a moment. You are no longer required to take care of your grandmother since she's in a better place. Now it's time to take care of YOURSELF. Since you said you have the money to take care of yourself, why don't you take a vacation to another country? Somewhere you haven't been before, but somewhere where you at least know the language. It's a great way to meet new people to form new friendships/relationships, but also, you'll get to experience a totally new place.
Maybe all you need is just a little change in your life, instead of doing the same thing every day.
Everyone is afraid at some points, but maybe someone else is too. Maybe they don't have the courage to do the things they want. You just need to take the first step.
Hope things get better.
Okay first off you are not alone God is with you always and he wants you to know him and love him trust him and talk to him he is just sitting there trying to wait for you to run to his arms he is never going to leave you alone and he will never ever break your heart no mater what you say or do. don't hate me for telling you the truth i am really sorry bout your grandmother. you can e-mail me if you would like really i would like to help but God can help you a lot more then i can sorry this is so long but i don't want to leave you w/out and answer. E-mail me if you would like to get in contact you will be in my prayers always.
Well money doesnt make someone happy if there's no love... if u preffer love over money go look for a job that would leave u time 2 go out 2 clubs and meet people... and if u stay in ur house 2 watch tv u aint gonna find any friends... go out and live life, spend ur money in wat makes u happy... after ur been loved , money wont be so important :)gold eyeshadow
You should see ';Taxi Driver'; when De Niro plays ';God's lonely man';.
If I were you, I would become a taxi driver,and later I'd go on a rampage until the cops kill me.Since you have the money ,it would be easy to buy some good pistols.I need some life advice?
Well, your in luck, there is a site for you:
www.plentyoffish.com
';since I don't really have the skills or know how to change it, or the courage to talk to girls.';
Trust, women love to YAP! They want YOU to listen. :-)
I know this may come down as pretty heavy reading, but two books I would recommend you read to help you keep a girl friend or wife when you DO get one:
Love Busters
His Needs/ Her Needs
read these and you will be light years ahead of MOST men who ';think'; they have experience and know what they are doing.
Good Luck!
two days ago you said you dated a girl for 6 months. you must have had some social skill to date for that long. you must have talked to her at some point during the 6 months. good luck to you
I am very close to my Grandma and I take care of her a lot, Since I'm only 16 it is hard for me. I have thought about what I'll do when she is gone, But I know I have other people arounf me.
Maybe you should go out and party a little, it never hurt anyone to have a little fun. After a while I'm sure everything is going to get better. It is hard for me a 16 year old girl to tell you that everyones life has a meaning, But it's true. You are here for a reason, Maybe you should put yourself out in the world to find out what your use is.
:)
-Emeyle
well...to me you are some what shy man....but try going to some clubs ..and ask girls out..you'll be ok....good luck..man.
umm wow. if i were you honestly i would see a phsycologist. it might be procy but he can help you ease into a social life. best i can do
You have skills and communicate very well. Self confidence may be lacking here. And to say your life has no meaning is just to judgmental. Perhaps if you judge yourself so harshly then you just might be doing this to those around you. Just start hanging around the kid of people you have things in common with. Did you just say they do not exist. Sorry again they do. Life is a hunt for a treasure. even though it might be hard to find the search is worth it.
First, let me offer my condolences. Fortunately, I've never lost someone I loved, seeing how I'm still quite young, but I'm sorry for your loss.
But now that you're getting over the grief, I think it's time to be free for a moment. You are no longer required to take care of your grandmother since she's in a better place. Now it's time to take care of YOURSELF. Since you said you have the money to take care of yourself, why don't you take a vacation to another country? Somewhere you haven't been before, but somewhere where you at least know the language. It's a great way to meet new people to form new friendships/relationships, but also, you'll get to experience a totally new place.
Maybe all you need is just a little change in your life, instead of doing the same thing every day.
Everyone is afraid at some points, but maybe someone else is too. Maybe they don't have the courage to do the things they want. You just need to take the first step.
Hope things get better.
Okay first off you are not alone God is with you always and he wants you to know him and love him trust him and talk to him he is just sitting there trying to wait for you to run to his arms he is never going to leave you alone and he will never ever break your heart no mater what you say or do. don't hate me for telling you the truth i am really sorry bout your grandmother. you can e-mail me if you would like really i would like to help but God can help you a lot more then i can sorry this is so long but i don't want to leave you w/out and answer. E-mail me if you would like to get in contact you will be in my prayers always.
Well money doesnt make someone happy if there's no love... if u preffer love over money go look for a job that would leave u time 2 go out 2 clubs and meet people... and if u stay in ur house 2 watch tv u aint gonna find any friends... go out and live life, spend ur money in wat makes u happy... after ur been loved , money wont be so important :)
Can anyone give me advice on life?
I'm 16 years old and I haven't finished school because I dropped out. I'm not the most confident guy, and I'm not really good around new people because I'm too shy. I don't know really know what to do with myself. I'm too afraid to talk to mother about this, and I don't wanna go to the trouble of seeing a shrink. Can anyone just please give me some help? Even if you know any exercises in raising confidence because I'm in bad need of some. Thanks (:Can anyone give me advice on life?
Join the ArmyCan anyone give me advice on life?
Firstly (I no I sound like a old lady) but I think you should still go to school - at least you can get it out of the way while it is free . If you drop ouy now you may have to pay for education when you get older.
The best way to boost your confidence is to do what you enjoy - If you like sport then play it - this doesn't have to cost you money there are loads of hobbies which are free.
This will not only allow you to meet people with the same interest it will give you something to talk about.
Do you have any hobbies, or talents? Well, you probably do. Even if its just like video games, or something you never found very interesting about yourself.
Take that and research what you can do with it. Go in a talent show, or contest etc.
If you really can't find anything, then you'll have to do some searching. Say your interested in History, then go and read up on some history and then go to a WW2 Convention or something, and meet people that have the same interests.
The best way to make friends is to get involved. Even if you have no experience or anything, go take an acting class or something. You'll make friends/connections eventually.
It's time to look at life as a chance not a game. You don't live forever so why do you not want to go out and have fun. Who cares if you look like an idiot in the process? As long as you're happy with you're life, everything is going to be fine.
I don't know if this was what you were looking for but, this is how I make it through life! :)
Take some advice from people who are much older and have gone through much more of life.
1- Go back to school.
2- See a shrink. Your life is worth the trouble.
3- Start an exercise program and build up your body, it is always a confidence builder.
Well... confidence comes from within. You have to start believing in yourself and until you do, you will never feel confident. My recommendations are to get your GED and become more motivated. Stop wasting your precious time. You can achieve anything you set your mind to. Read self help books. Keep journals. Learn about yourself and proceed to follow your dreams.
Good luck to you.
Take risks ! The only way to get over your shyness is to push yourself . Just blurt something you know you would never blurt or walk up to someone you feel is friendly and say hello . It's only awkward if you make it awkward . Really whats the worst someone can do .
I really think you should have stayed in school no matter what. Where do you think do you learn to be not shy? School. What i would reccommend to you is to go see some sort of councilor or someone like that. GOOD LUCK :)
I think you should join some club or association.
A lot of 16 year olds are just like you.
Join some choir, some postmark collectors club or a chess club.
It doesn't matter as long as you get to meet other people.
You're only 16 I really think you should go back to school. You have your whole life in front of you and it is very difficult theses days to get a job let alone trying to find one without a high school/college education. However, if you feel like you just can't do that please consider getting your GED which is a certificated certificate that can help you get a job and prosper in your future. I dont want you to think there's no one there for you and I understand it might be difficult to talk to your mother but if you need someone to talk to dont think that going to a psychologist is a bad thing it really isnt and they will help you feel a lot less stressed really trust me on this give it a try if you want .. and if you dont like it then dont go back its worth a shot!! many of my friends go to therapy and all of them have told me it really helped them see more clearly and logicallyly talkin to anyone about what worries you always helps.. I know it does for me. I can see this is really bothering you because you are asking for help and i dont want you to feel trapped! find someone to talk about this with and if you cant then you always have yourself. That is one person in your life that will never put u down :-) finding happiness in ones self is golden and you can help yourself and become more confident if you put yourself out there. dont be afraid of school or challenges because I know you can overcome them! I have confidence in you. Just because you came here on yahoo and asked this question lets me know its really bothering you and I dont want you ever to feel alone :-) High school can be hard and if its the grades that are challenging then ask for help teachers are willing to spend time with you never give up never! challenge yourself and you might just see that you have what it takes! I swear if you think positive even in the most negative of times. it really helps.. When your stressed calm yourself my listening to music or writing something for you or talk to someone! MAKE me proud come on what do you say! :-)
Join the ArmyCan anyone give me advice on life?
Firstly (I no I sound like a old lady) but I think you should still go to school - at least you can get it out of the way while it is free . If you drop ouy now you may have to pay for education when you get older.
The best way to boost your confidence is to do what you enjoy - If you like sport then play it - this doesn't have to cost you money there are loads of hobbies which are free.
This will not only allow you to meet people with the same interest it will give you something to talk about.
Do you have any hobbies, or talents? Well, you probably do. Even if its just like video games, or something you never found very interesting about yourself.
Take that and research what you can do with it. Go in a talent show, or contest etc.
If you really can't find anything, then you'll have to do some searching. Say your interested in History, then go and read up on some history and then go to a WW2 Convention or something, and meet people that have the same interests.
The best way to make friends is to get involved. Even if you have no experience or anything, go take an acting class or something. You'll make friends/connections eventually.
It's time to look at life as a chance not a game. You don't live forever so why do you not want to go out and have fun. Who cares if you look like an idiot in the process? As long as you're happy with you're life, everything is going to be fine.
I don't know if this was what you were looking for but, this is how I make it through life! :)
Take some advice from people who are much older and have gone through much more of life.
1- Go back to school.
2- See a shrink. Your life is worth the trouble.
3- Start an exercise program and build up your body, it is always a confidence builder.
Well... confidence comes from within. You have to start believing in yourself and until you do, you will never feel confident. My recommendations are to get your GED and become more motivated. Stop wasting your precious time. You can achieve anything you set your mind to. Read self help books. Keep journals. Learn about yourself and proceed to follow your dreams.
Good luck to you.
Take risks ! The only way to get over your shyness is to push yourself . Just blurt something you know you would never blurt or walk up to someone you feel is friendly and say hello . It's only awkward if you make it awkward . Really whats the worst someone can do .
I really think you should have stayed in school no matter what. Where do you think do you learn to be not shy? School. What i would reccommend to you is to go see some sort of councilor or someone like that. GOOD LUCK :)
I think you should join some club or association.
A lot of 16 year olds are just like you.
Join some choir, some postmark collectors club or a chess club.
It doesn't matter as long as you get to meet other people.
You're only 16 I really think you should go back to school. You have your whole life in front of you and it is very difficult theses days to get a job let alone trying to find one without a high school/college education. However, if you feel like you just can't do that please consider getting your GED which is a certificated certificate that can help you get a job and prosper in your future. I dont want you to think there's no one there for you and I understand it might be difficult to talk to your mother but if you need someone to talk to dont think that going to a psychologist is a bad thing it really isnt and they will help you feel a lot less stressed really trust me on this give it a try if you want .. and if you dont like it then dont go back its worth a shot!! many of my friends go to therapy and all of them have told me it really helped them see more clearly and logicallyly talkin to anyone about what worries you always helps.. I know it does for me. I can see this is really bothering you because you are asking for help and i dont want you to feel trapped! find someone to talk about this with and if you cant then you always have yourself. That is one person in your life that will never put u down :-) finding happiness in ones self is golden and you can help yourself and become more confident if you put yourself out there. dont be afraid of school or challenges because I know you can overcome them! I have confidence in you. Just because you came here on yahoo and asked this question lets me know its really bothering you and I dont want you ever to feel alone :-) High school can be hard and if its the grades that are challenging then ask for help teachers are willing to spend time with you never give up never! challenge yourself and you might just see that you have what it takes! I swear if you think positive even in the most negative of times. it really helps.. When your stressed calm yourself my listening to music or writing something for you or talk to someone! MAKE me proud come on what do you say! :-)
Any advice on how to not suck at life?
I have more failures than i can count and i cant remember the last time something went my way. I dont know what i am doing so terribly wrong. I think it has to do with me not being very spirited, like i get super motivated for about a week and then i dont care about anything i just end up sucking. So any advice on how to maintain motivation or to just not suck at life would be greatly appreciated. ThankssAny advice on how to not suck at life?
This is the kind of question that is difficult to answer, because the given information is hardly enough to come to a solid conclusion about your personality. it sounds to me like you have nothing that inspires you, this is something that you need to solve for yourself. no one can come up and tell you what you need to motivate yourself.
there are millions and millions of possibility's in the world. and every person has a path that is right for them. expand yourself, look around, for something that you can connect with and pursue.
sorry i sound so weird..Any advice on how to not suck at life?
Don't spend time regretting anything. If you live in the past, you can never have a future.
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Do what makes you happy.
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Always remember, ';you can only do what you can do when you can do it.';
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There are always far worse off than you, striving to do better and doing just that.
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Learn from your mistakes and the mistakes of others. Good knowledge always comes from bad experiences.
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Work to live, don't live to work.
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Enjoy life. You only have one chance. Live like there is no tmrw!
Think... what do you believe in? Then stand up for whatever you believe in. That will make you motivated. For example, many people believe in God, so they live their motivated lives to get to Heaven. Some people believe in serving their country, so they live their motivated lives and join the military.
Look up motivational people on youtube (like Anthony Robbins). Write down what motivates you and post it where you can see it each day, along with goals.
You have been motivated in the past and can do it again!
Just Do It!
Sounds like your about 19 wait till you hit 23 you'll get motivated to do something.
You need a quick answer:
Meditation
dont be emo/goth
live by the reality principle, rather than the pleasure principle.
Yes, do NOT be an atheist.
This is the kind of question that is difficult to answer, because the given information is hardly enough to come to a solid conclusion about your personality. it sounds to me like you have nothing that inspires you, this is something that you need to solve for yourself. no one can come up and tell you what you need to motivate yourself.
there are millions and millions of possibility's in the world. and every person has a path that is right for them. expand yourself, look around, for something that you can connect with and pursue.
sorry i sound so weird..Any advice on how to not suck at life?
Don't spend time regretting anything. If you live in the past, you can never have a future.
*
Do what makes you happy.
*
Always remember, ';you can only do what you can do when you can do it.';
*
There are always far worse off than you, striving to do better and doing just that.
*
Learn from your mistakes and the mistakes of others. Good knowledge always comes from bad experiences.
*
Work to live, don't live to work.
*
Enjoy life. You only have one chance. Live like there is no tmrw!
Think... what do you believe in? Then stand up for whatever you believe in. That will make you motivated. For example, many people believe in God, so they live their motivated lives to get to Heaven. Some people believe in serving their country, so they live their motivated lives and join the military.
Look up motivational people on youtube (like Anthony Robbins). Write down what motivates you and post it where you can see it each day, along with goals.
You have been motivated in the past and can do it again!
Just Do It!
Sounds like your about 19 wait till you hit 23 you'll get motivated to do something.
You need a quick answer:
Meditation
dont be emo/goth
live by the reality principle, rather than the pleasure principle.
Yes, do NOT be an atheist.
What is the best advice about life in two words?
I know this is not 2 words, but part of life is to break the rules.Live a life that is yours and where you don't live huddled up in your bed in your closet. Live your story.What is the best advice about life in two words?
Get realWhat is the best advice about life in two words?
LOVE IT!!!
Life sucks
and then you die
thats it.
I hate it.
kick it
ask mom!
move forward
get laid
live it
don't worry
find yourself
Bad Idea.
Go Slowwwwwww
Strength %26amp; Humility
enjoy life
Be bold
Help others.
Enjoy it
find happiness
stay happy
live love
God saves.
Love truly
Forty Two
Family...Love
Have fun
Be yourself.....
relax enjoy
Good Luck
Worship God.
Be Humane.
Get realWhat is the best advice about life in two words?
LOVE IT!!!
Life sucks
and then you die
thats it.
I hate it.
kick it
ask mom!
move forward
get laid
live it
don't worry
find yourself
Bad Idea.
Go Slowwwwwww
Strength %26amp; Humility
enjoy life
Be bold
Help others.
Enjoy it
find happiness
stay happy
live love
God saves.
Love truly
Forty Two
Family...Love
Have fun
Be yourself.....
relax enjoy
Good Luck
Worship God.
Be Humane.
Need some general life advice or any kind of positive feedback?
I just want to share my situation and what's on my mind with anyone who is willing to listen! =) I just want to share my heart, but anonymously. So, here goes. I am new in this pretty challenging University. I just transferred from a community college. I am having a hard time. But its not just about the school. Though that is currently where my inner struggles are manifesting. I just want to get away. And I think that may be a bad habit of mine, to want to get away from challenging situations. I just feel like I want to start anew. I want to be away from all that's here. From my family and my community. I want to make my own new decisions. I feel like I have been making all the decisions in my life for reasons other than my own, and I don't even know what I want anymore. So I just feel buried under the weight of others' expectations, and feeling blind to my own heart. That's all I will share for now. I don't know if any of it really comes across clearly, but if you have any thoughts, feel free to share them with me. Thank you!Need some general life advice or any kind of positive feedback?
You really need to figure this out. If you are going to school for all the wrong reasons and not taking classes that are going to help you get where YOU want to be then you need to make a change. But if you think you are just under pressure and scared and getting the I need to run syndrome you need to know that so you can combat it. Stop and look at how you really feel about all this, Think about how you feel when your parents/friends etc give you advice or tell you what you should be doing. Just by looking for advice on here you are showing that you are still not sure of what you want. You are still looking for someone to tell you what to do. Are you afraid of making decisions? Do you even know what really makes you happy, inspires you?Need some general life advice or any kind of positive feedback?
Thank you for everyone's help. I am really glad I put this out there, it really helped a lot. good luck to all of you in all you do!
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This is a challenging time in your life, you probably just want to be free, but there are so many responcibilities you have to take care of. Life is not about knowing the answers, it is about finding them one at a time, some times it can be difficult and some times it can be down right painful. The only thing I can promise you is that you will be ok.
Maybe you could transfer universities? A university away from home, that way you would be more dependent and could make more decisions for yourself.
You really need to figure this out. If you are going to school for all the wrong reasons and not taking classes that are going to help you get where YOU want to be then you need to make a change. But if you think you are just under pressure and scared and getting the I need to run syndrome you need to know that so you can combat it. Stop and look at how you really feel about all this, Think about how you feel when your parents/friends etc give you advice or tell you what you should be doing. Just by looking for advice on here you are showing that you are still not sure of what you want. You are still looking for someone to tell you what to do. Are you afraid of making decisions? Do you even know what really makes you happy, inspires you?Need some general life advice or any kind of positive feedback?
Thank you for everyone's help. I am really glad I put this out there, it really helped a lot. good luck to all of you in all you do!
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This is a challenging time in your life, you probably just want to be free, but there are so many responcibilities you have to take care of. Life is not about knowing the answers, it is about finding them one at a time, some times it can be difficult and some times it can be down right painful. The only thing I can promise you is that you will be ok.
Maybe you could transfer universities? A university away from home, that way you would be more dependent and could make more decisions for yourself.
How to change life ...... advice ...?
hi , i am 38 male unmarried . i have my good points and bad points like most people but basically became deeply confused in early 20s and i am running around in a maze since then . despite my honest efforts i have not been able to exit my life patterns totally . the most destructive part that is the mindset i had still remains while other changes like stopping smoking , reducing weight , reading books have been implemented in last 10 years . any site which can suggest how to rebuild the mindset . i tried the tony robbins audio books but they are too complicated to follow .... he confuses me .... any suggestions ?How to change life ...... advice ...?
Go and see a Life Coach. I am sure you will find it helpful.How to change life ...... advice ...?
I don't want to sound Holy Roller or anything, but I think you should try Religion. Religion has really chagned my life for the better. I'm Christian. Just go to a mass, it's ok if you don't know what to do, Church is the last place someone would make fun of you. I hope you give it a try.
i never read this book before but i can understand ur troubles i'm not saying i can help but i'm wishing u the best with that confusing book! and if u know any one who can help u with it just ask! like ur family or a religion person and trust me it works 4 lots of people i know.good luck ..........all the best
Lilla
Go and see a Life Coach. I am sure you will find it helpful.How to change life ...... advice ...?
I don't want to sound Holy Roller or anything, but I think you should try Religion. Religion has really chagned my life for the better. I'm Christian. Just go to a mass, it's ok if you don't know what to do, Church is the last place someone would make fun of you. I hope you give it a try.
i never read this book before but i can understand ur troubles i'm not saying i can help but i'm wishing u the best with that confusing book! and if u know any one who can help u with it just ask! like ur family or a religion person and trust me it works 4 lots of people i know.good luck ..........all the best
Lilla
Please help, love life advice?
I have a crush on this guy but he's 3 years older than me. We've seen each other like twice but we've been emailing and texting each other since, the first time we saw each other. He's called me cute twice. and he asked if I've ever had a boyfriend (I don't know if that means anything) he also said that having many things in common between us was a good thing. =) If we're texting late, he says he doesn't want to keep me up and when we say good night he says sweet dreams. He also asked for a picture of me for his phone ID thing. He's said I'm sweet too, and he defended me when this guy was annoying me.
Does he like me? Is he just flirting? Does all of this mean anything?Please help, love life advice?
it sounds to me like he likes you:)
this is a lot like what my last boyfriend did before we went out:)
very cute, good luck:)Please help, love life advice?
Do people not talk on the phone anymore? Texting is such a lame way of communicating, especially communicating feelings.
Yes, it sounds like he likes you. It also sounds like you should try using your phone as a phone.
Yes, he likes you.
he likes you! (:
He is in love with you... go make him yours!gold eyeshadow
Does he like me? Is he just flirting? Does all of this mean anything?Please help, love life advice?
it sounds to me like he likes you:)
this is a lot like what my last boyfriend did before we went out:)
very cute, good luck:)Please help, love life advice?
Do people not talk on the phone anymore? Texting is such a lame way of communicating, especially communicating feelings.
Yes, it sounds like he likes you. It also sounds like you should try using your phone as a phone.
Yes, he likes you.
he likes you! (:
He is in love with you... go make him yours!
I need some ';life advice';?
In my life I want to have a very close relationship with God (I'm roman catholic) and I am a teenager who (typically) sins and doesn't want to. I have cleaned up my act a lot lately but still gives into temptation, but I always regret it later (whatever it is). As everybody
does I want to be accepted in modern society but sometimes I destroy my relationship with God to do so. Any advice to help me through these trying times. But that is not all I feel alone in this world and I really don't have anybody to talk to these things about so I want to be accepted and have God be prevalent in my life. Thanks for any and all advice and, well, God bless!!!!!!!!!!I need some ';life advice';?
Dan, don't give in to the haters. Catholicism is not only christian but is the original form of christianity going back to Matthew 18:15-18. Also read John 6:51-56 and 1 Corinthians 11-23-29 and I think you would agree that what is written there resembles more a Catholic mass and the Eucharist than any other explanation.
As for your struggles in purity - you are human and young - and the struggles are natural. Remember that Satan creates nothing (God alone is the creator) but he perverts and twists. Hence, food is not evil, but its abuse in gluttony is; sex is not evil, but its abuse in pornography, premarital sex, and infidelity are. Sin is not about rules broken but a severing or abuse of a relationship (with God or others).
Remember that the difference between a saint and a sinner is that the saint falls but then gets back up. Jesus fell many times carrying the cross and still got back up(he was not a sinner but gave us many wonderful examples of perseverance in our faith walk), Peter denied the master three times and yet became the rock on which Christ built his church. We all sin, we all fail - just get back up, ask for forgiveness and make a heartfelt intention to do better and sin no more. And when you fail again - He will be there to catch you. He always does.
Feel free to write if you need more. You will find really good stuff on www.catholic.comI need some ';life advice';?
God loves you for just trying to be a good christian and trying to have a good relationship with him.
It's a good thing that you regret when you do something wrong. On the one hand you shouldn't beat yourself up like that about it. I mean... you are a teen!! But on the other hand (since you seem smart enough to regret) it's better to prevent than to cure.
To keep your relationship with God, pray to him on every occasion you can. Tell him that you want help and advice and i promise he will send someone right at your door.
That is the Holy Spirit letting you know that you need to repair your relationship with God. God is very close to your heart.
I would recommend that you keep in mind that you usually end up like your friends, so, I would take time to reflect on who your friends are. If they are the kind of people that you want to be like when you grow up, then continue to be their friend. If they are causing you to sin against God often, I would suggest that you find new friends.
I will pray for you and I hope that everything works out!
Who do you want acceptance from, others. What we think of you should matter little. What you think of yourself is what should matter. Life is a learning lesson. Learn from it and chance what you don't like. God of the bible and the real God are different. You will not go to hell but you will get more than one chance.
Having a prayer partner or two is good -- a trusted friend or relative you can call and pray with as needed. Maybe someone at church can help you with this or help you find someone to pray with you. Sounds like you need to work more on yielding to God's Holy Spirit in your life. Like praying daily for His will to reign in your life, and about what He wants you to do, like for the day and longer term. Things I focus on that can be helpful to get the right thoughts are faith, love, peace, meekness.
You need something more. What you need is a close personal relationship with Jesus. This is accomplished by praying to him.
The bible says if we confess our sins to the Lord he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins. You first need to be born again, Jesus said unless a man is born again he will never see the kingdom of God.
This cannot be accomplished by works though. It is accomplished by faith in Jesus.
we are to cast aside reiligion for a personal relationship with the living christ,where he took away the sins of the whole world from the eyes of god never to see them again,he died, and was baried,and on the third day he rose to life,when you by faith believe in this truth at that moment jesus raises you to life,this is what salvation is all about life,he who has the son jesus has life he who doesnot have the son does not have life,we live under a new covenant today,read hebrews10:16,18
God knows that we are not perfect. Ask God for forgiveness and try to do better. God realize that we sometimes make the same mistake over and over but He loves us non the less. Just continue to pray and ask God for his Grace and Mercy. May you be Blessed Always
no one is perfect. god forgives. just dont do anything that causes harm to kids or dont do anything that ll put u in jail.
edit: learn self disciple. learn karate.
men cannot save you. Jesus can. Pray for salvation in Jesus' name and repent. You can pray directly to God without the priest. Try reading the book of John and search online for free devotionals or try upperroom.com
inb4 an hero.
the beginning of second peter comes to mind.
Be a muslim... You'll thank me later.
hey:], i'm a teenager too so i definatly know what youre going through! there's always gonna be that feeling in you, yearning for love and acceptance, but it will go away...only if you fill it with Christ. It's hard, i know! Here's the thing, thats the AMAZINGG thing about God! He accepts us with our flaws..think about it, a perfect, holy God accepts sinners like us! how awesome:] So, because He is an all-knowing God, He understands that we WILL mess up! I've definatly made my mistakes..and it all comes down to how we handle it! you have to understand, God is ALWAYS going to lovee us, ALWAYS going to accept us but do you want God to be dissapoiinted in you? the answer should be no! so heres the thing, when we get a personal relationship with Christ, we are to seek Him in all aspects of our life. We are to strive to be more and more like Him. Because He is perfect, we are NEVER EVER going to be perfect like Him. But, the more we try, the more we seek and yearn for Him, your friends will see a change in you. They will see a change that they want, a change in you that makes them seek what you have! everyones situation is different, but know you are never alone in spiritual struggles. message me if you need any more advice!
Luke 12:6-8 (always remember God loves you, cares for you, seeks for you, accepts you)
Genesis 4:7 (overcome sin!)
Psalm 139 (God knows your heart, what your going through..talk to Him!!)
Wow. What is up with the totally ignorant and intolerant protestants today? Sorry you got treated so poorly by these misguided people. That's certainly no way to lead someone that is asking a serious question about faith.
Anyway, the fact that you feel ';guilt'; for your actions is a good thing. It means you have a strong conscience. Just don't let it eat you up. Taking advantage of the sacrament of confession would be really excellent, if you have not done so. A trusted confessor can help you work through these things - help you get to the root of why you repeat certain action. It's always hard the first few time, but the more often you do it (once a month?) the easier and more productive it is. It is a huge lesson is humility.
We tend to pray at set time s- Once in the morning, once at night, etc. What about adding in a few times during the day? Maybe take a few minutes at lunch to pray or read a spiritual meditation. That little extra focus through the day may help you stay centered. Pax.
Catholicism is not Christian. Catholicism teaches a false gospel of works that cannot save (Galatians 1:6-9).
Catholicism is a counterfeit from Satan. Catholicism cannot give you a personal relationship with Jesus.
It's clear from the Book of Acts in the Bible that catholics didn't even exist during the days of Acts. Those in the Book of Acts are the first Christians, and they believed what would be called fundamentalist doctrine today. ANYONE can read the Book of Acts for themselves and see. Had catholicism existed during the time of Acts, the first Christians would have rejected catholicism completely.
Also here's Christians that called the ';pope'; the antichrist, and who also completely rejected catholicism, long before Martin Luther was even born:
c. 1310
Dante Alighieri
c. 1331
Michael of Cesena
c. 1345
Johannes de Rupescissa
c. 1350
Francesco Petrarch
c. 1367
John Milicz
c. 1379
John Wycliffe
c. 1388
Matthias of Janow
c. 1389
R. Wimbledon
c. 1390
John Purvey
c. 1393
Walter Brute
c. 1412
John Huss
c. 1497
Girolamo Savonarola
So not only is it false to say that ';catholics were the first Christians';, but this list blows away the catholic claim that ';no churches existed other than the catholic church, until Martin Luther';.
There were ALWAYS saved believers outside the catholic cult, who knew catholicism cannot save anyone.
Catholicism cannot save. Only believing in Jesus alone for salvation, is what saves.
Jesus loves you so very much! :D
Salvation is a FREE GIFT that happens in a split second when you believe in Jesus! It is impossible to lose or ';leave'; salvation (John 6:39-40, 1 John 5:13).
The truth about Jesus is that the only way to be saved and to get into heaven and avoid being sent to eternal hell, is by believing in faith alone that Jesus, who is God, died for our sins on the cross as FULL PAYMENT for all our sins, and then Jesus rose from the dead (1 Corinthians 15:1-4). Believe this and you will be in heaven, no matter what!
Please pray now: ';Jesus, please forgive me of my sins. I believe that You died on the cross for my sins and You rose from the dead. Thank You for eternal life!'; You will be in heaven with Him forever when you die. :)
Well, what you are describing is something all who want to follow God experience, All of us are still sinners, but that doesn't mean we don't turn away from sins, if we fall now and then and truly ask for forgiveness, God will forgive, but if we pursue a relationship with God constantly, the less sin even tempts us, The opposite of all sin is Holiness, when we pursue God Who is Holy and the things of God- Holiness, the less we will fall into sin, In life, we will see that our dependence on things, on people, on certain events etc. will let us down, nothing and no one is completely dependable but God and if we depend on anything other than God, we can make these things God in our lives, and put God in a lower place, The very first commandment is Love the Lord thy God with all thy strength, mind, soul. God is to be number 1, If our relationship with God is number 1, everything else will be in right perspective and will be in their right place, and there is a peace and joy that comes from this. God is calling us to complete dependence and surrender to Him and this gives you peace, the world cannot give you.
Hold on to these verses in Jeremiah 17:5-10
';5Thus says the LORD:';Cursed is the man who trusts in man
and makes flesh his strength,
whose heart turns away from the LORD.
6 He is like a shrub in the desert,
and shall not see any good come.
He shall dwell in the parched places of the wilderness,
in an uninhabited salt land.
7 ';Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD,
whose trust is the LORD.
8 He is like a tree planted by water,
that sends out its roots by the stream,
and does not fear when heat comes,
for its leaves remain green,
and is not anxious in the year of drought,
for it does not cease to bear fruit.';
9The heart is deceitful above all things,
and desperately sick;
who can understand it?
10 ';I the LORD search the heart
and test the mind,
to give every man according to his ways,
according to the fruit of his deeds.';';
does I want to be accepted in modern society but sometimes I destroy my relationship with God to do so. Any advice to help me through these trying times. But that is not all I feel alone in this world and I really don't have anybody to talk to these things about so I want to be accepted and have God be prevalent in my life. Thanks for any and all advice and, well, God bless!!!!!!!!!!I need some ';life advice';?
Dan, don't give in to the haters. Catholicism is not only christian but is the original form of christianity going back to Matthew 18:15-18. Also read John 6:51-56 and 1 Corinthians 11-23-29 and I think you would agree that what is written there resembles more a Catholic mass and the Eucharist than any other explanation.
As for your struggles in purity - you are human and young - and the struggles are natural. Remember that Satan creates nothing (God alone is the creator) but he perverts and twists. Hence, food is not evil, but its abuse in gluttony is; sex is not evil, but its abuse in pornography, premarital sex, and infidelity are. Sin is not about rules broken but a severing or abuse of a relationship (with God or others).
Remember that the difference between a saint and a sinner is that the saint falls but then gets back up. Jesus fell many times carrying the cross and still got back up(he was not a sinner but gave us many wonderful examples of perseverance in our faith walk), Peter denied the master three times and yet became the rock on which Christ built his church. We all sin, we all fail - just get back up, ask for forgiveness and make a heartfelt intention to do better and sin no more. And when you fail again - He will be there to catch you. He always does.
Feel free to write if you need more. You will find really good stuff on www.catholic.comI need some ';life advice';?
God loves you for just trying to be a good christian and trying to have a good relationship with him.
It's a good thing that you regret when you do something wrong. On the one hand you shouldn't beat yourself up like that about it. I mean... you are a teen!! But on the other hand (since you seem smart enough to regret) it's better to prevent than to cure.
To keep your relationship with God, pray to him on every occasion you can. Tell him that you want help and advice and i promise he will send someone right at your door.
That is the Holy Spirit letting you know that you need to repair your relationship with God. God is very close to your heart.
I would recommend that you keep in mind that you usually end up like your friends, so, I would take time to reflect on who your friends are. If they are the kind of people that you want to be like when you grow up, then continue to be their friend. If they are causing you to sin against God often, I would suggest that you find new friends.
I will pray for you and I hope that everything works out!
Who do you want acceptance from, others. What we think of you should matter little. What you think of yourself is what should matter. Life is a learning lesson. Learn from it and chance what you don't like. God of the bible and the real God are different. You will not go to hell but you will get more than one chance.
Having a prayer partner or two is good -- a trusted friend or relative you can call and pray with as needed. Maybe someone at church can help you with this or help you find someone to pray with you. Sounds like you need to work more on yielding to God's Holy Spirit in your life. Like praying daily for His will to reign in your life, and about what He wants you to do, like for the day and longer term. Things I focus on that can be helpful to get the right thoughts are faith, love, peace, meekness.
You need something more. What you need is a close personal relationship with Jesus. This is accomplished by praying to him.
The bible says if we confess our sins to the Lord he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins. You first need to be born again, Jesus said unless a man is born again he will never see the kingdom of God.
This cannot be accomplished by works though. It is accomplished by faith in Jesus.
we are to cast aside reiligion for a personal relationship with the living christ,where he took away the sins of the whole world from the eyes of god never to see them again,he died, and was baried,and on the third day he rose to life,when you by faith believe in this truth at that moment jesus raises you to life,this is what salvation is all about life,he who has the son jesus has life he who doesnot have the son does not have life,we live under a new covenant today,read hebrews10:16,18
God knows that we are not perfect. Ask God for forgiveness and try to do better. God realize that we sometimes make the same mistake over and over but He loves us non the less. Just continue to pray and ask God for his Grace and Mercy. May you be Blessed Always
no one is perfect. god forgives. just dont do anything that causes harm to kids or dont do anything that ll put u in jail.
edit: learn self disciple. learn karate.
men cannot save you. Jesus can. Pray for salvation in Jesus' name and repent. You can pray directly to God without the priest. Try reading the book of John and search online for free devotionals or try upperroom.com
inb4 an hero.
the beginning of second peter comes to mind.
Be a muslim... You'll thank me later.
hey:], i'm a teenager too so i definatly know what youre going through! there's always gonna be that feeling in you, yearning for love and acceptance, but it will go away...only if you fill it with Christ. It's hard, i know! Here's the thing, thats the AMAZINGG thing about God! He accepts us with our flaws..think about it, a perfect, holy God accepts sinners like us! how awesome:] So, because He is an all-knowing God, He understands that we WILL mess up! I've definatly made my mistakes..and it all comes down to how we handle it! you have to understand, God is ALWAYS going to lovee us, ALWAYS going to accept us but do you want God to be dissapoiinted in you? the answer should be no! so heres the thing, when we get a personal relationship with Christ, we are to seek Him in all aspects of our life. We are to strive to be more and more like Him. Because He is perfect, we are NEVER EVER going to be perfect like Him. But, the more we try, the more we seek and yearn for Him, your friends will see a change in you. They will see a change that they want, a change in you that makes them seek what you have! everyones situation is different, but know you are never alone in spiritual struggles. message me if you need any more advice!
Luke 12:6-8 (always remember God loves you, cares for you, seeks for you, accepts you)
Genesis 4:7 (overcome sin!)
Psalm 139 (God knows your heart, what your going through..talk to Him!!)
Wow. What is up with the totally ignorant and intolerant protestants today? Sorry you got treated so poorly by these misguided people. That's certainly no way to lead someone that is asking a serious question about faith.
Anyway, the fact that you feel ';guilt'; for your actions is a good thing. It means you have a strong conscience. Just don't let it eat you up. Taking advantage of the sacrament of confession would be really excellent, if you have not done so. A trusted confessor can help you work through these things - help you get to the root of why you repeat certain action. It's always hard the first few time, but the more often you do it (once a month?) the easier and more productive it is. It is a huge lesson is humility.
We tend to pray at set time s- Once in the morning, once at night, etc. What about adding in a few times during the day? Maybe take a few minutes at lunch to pray or read a spiritual meditation. That little extra focus through the day may help you stay centered. Pax.
Catholicism is not Christian. Catholicism teaches a false gospel of works that cannot save (Galatians 1:6-9).
Catholicism is a counterfeit from Satan. Catholicism cannot give you a personal relationship with Jesus.
It's clear from the Book of Acts in the Bible that catholics didn't even exist during the days of Acts. Those in the Book of Acts are the first Christians, and they believed what would be called fundamentalist doctrine today. ANYONE can read the Book of Acts for themselves and see. Had catholicism existed during the time of Acts, the first Christians would have rejected catholicism completely.
Also here's Christians that called the ';pope'; the antichrist, and who also completely rejected catholicism, long before Martin Luther was even born:
c. 1310
Dante Alighieri
c. 1331
Michael of Cesena
c. 1345
Johannes de Rupescissa
c. 1350
Francesco Petrarch
c. 1367
John Milicz
c. 1379
John Wycliffe
c. 1388
Matthias of Janow
c. 1389
R. Wimbledon
c. 1390
John Purvey
c. 1393
Walter Brute
c. 1412
John Huss
c. 1497
Girolamo Savonarola
So not only is it false to say that ';catholics were the first Christians';, but this list blows away the catholic claim that ';no churches existed other than the catholic church, until Martin Luther';.
There were ALWAYS saved believers outside the catholic cult, who knew catholicism cannot save anyone.
Catholicism cannot save. Only believing in Jesus alone for salvation, is what saves.
Jesus loves you so very much! :D
Salvation is a FREE GIFT that happens in a split second when you believe in Jesus! It is impossible to lose or ';leave'; salvation (John 6:39-40, 1 John 5:13).
The truth about Jesus is that the only way to be saved and to get into heaven and avoid being sent to eternal hell, is by believing in faith alone that Jesus, who is God, died for our sins on the cross as FULL PAYMENT for all our sins, and then Jesus rose from the dead (1 Corinthians 15:1-4). Believe this and you will be in heaven, no matter what!
Please pray now: ';Jesus, please forgive me of my sins. I believe that You died on the cross for my sins and You rose from the dead. Thank You for eternal life!'; You will be in heaven with Him forever when you die. :)
Well, what you are describing is something all who want to follow God experience, All of us are still sinners, but that doesn't mean we don't turn away from sins, if we fall now and then and truly ask for forgiveness, God will forgive, but if we pursue a relationship with God constantly, the less sin even tempts us, The opposite of all sin is Holiness, when we pursue God Who is Holy and the things of God- Holiness, the less we will fall into sin, In life, we will see that our dependence on things, on people, on certain events etc. will let us down, nothing and no one is completely dependable but God and if we depend on anything other than God, we can make these things God in our lives, and put God in a lower place, The very first commandment is Love the Lord thy God with all thy strength, mind, soul. God is to be number 1, If our relationship with God is number 1, everything else will be in right perspective and will be in their right place, and there is a peace and joy that comes from this. God is calling us to complete dependence and surrender to Him and this gives you peace, the world cannot give you.
Hold on to these verses in Jeremiah 17:5-10
';5Thus says the LORD:';Cursed is the man who trusts in man
and makes flesh his strength,
whose heart turns away from the LORD.
6 He is like a shrub in the desert,
and shall not see any good come.
He shall dwell in the parched places of the wilderness,
in an uninhabited salt land.
7 ';Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD,
whose trust is the LORD.
8 He is like a tree planted by water,
that sends out its roots by the stream,
and does not fear when heat comes,
for its leaves remain green,
and is not anxious in the year of drought,
for it does not cease to bear fruit.';
9The heart is deceitful above all things,
and desperately sick;
who can understand it?
10 ';I the LORD search the heart
and test the mind,
to give every man according to his ways,
according to the fruit of his deeds.';';
Whats the best advice you could give a young person about life?
Give more, expect less.Whats the best advice you could give a young person about life?
1. D.U.D.E. - Don't Use Drugs Ever
2. Live life to the fullest but know your limitations
TEEN CREED
Don't let you parents down, they brought you up
Be Humble enough to obey, you may give orders someday
Choose companions with care, you may become what they are
Guard your thoughts, what you think you are
Choose only a date who would make a good mate
Be master of your habits or they will master you
Don't be a show off when you drive, drive with safety and arrive
Don't let the crowd pressure you
Stand for something, or you'll fall for nothing
This creed was from a frame the Vice mayor of our town gave me when I turned thirteen. :) it's just memorable enough to share.Whats the best advice you could give a young person about life?
Time heals all wounds
Things change, always, both for bad and for good, any bad times you go through - don't lose heart, things will change.
Love all you can no matter how much you get hurt, trust without giving your whole self away.
Laugh as often as you can and don't become cynical
Have compassion for your follow beings but don't let the weight of the world tear at your heart.
You only have one life - so be happy.
xx
Learn from your mistakes, enjoy your youth, embrace it, stay ignorant to the world for as long as possible, don't make war, make love, and most important: Don't take anything too seriously, have fun and live your life to the fullest cos you only get one chance
';If there's a message, let it be a message of love.';
';Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.';
Mohandas Gandhi
';No matter what you have or have not done, you are worthy of love.'; John.F.Demartini
Don't bother with the opposite sex until your finished school!
(Including college or university!!)
love every minute... have as much fun as you can... and if you're not having fun, get out and do the next big adventure... life's a gift.. live it to its fullest!
live every day like its your last
laugh at your self sometimes it helps
don't throw stones at glass houses
never judge unless you want to be judged
be kind to your self
x x x
There are no wrong descisions, but be open to oppurtunities.
never leave the one you love for the one you like cuz the one you like will leave you for the one they love
Look after the pennies and the pounds will look after themselves!
live every day like its your last, cos tomorrow may be..!!
and use a condom
say no to drugs
stay away from my daughter
heya!
i say: life is not about waiting for the storm to pass its about learning to dance in the rain.. :)
EXERCISE
Add more fiber to your diet or face horrid consequences.
i honestly cannot tell you i thought long and hard about this and i cannot give answer.
dont f*** up and take drugs.and dont quit high school.
(my younger brother is learning the hard way).
Be relax, be coldblooded
Get married ONLY with the one you love, don't get married because of money or other stupid reasons!
dont watch 2 girls 1 cup, itll scar you for life. :)
Don't EVER do drugs.
';Not everyone can be trusted.';
u'll face many disappointments but u have to find the courage to go on
any mistakes that i've made hopefully they listen and wont make those same mistakes
Life sucks so live it up...
just be smart to make smart choices and be strong coz life is full of challenges.
Just go loony!
keep an open mind, and try not to do drugs
it sucks.
and gets
worse
as
you
mature.
blah.
Be the change you want to see in the world.
Get used to it, kiddo.
It ain't gonna get any easier.
1. D.U.D.E. - Don't Use Drugs Ever
2. Live life to the fullest but know your limitations
TEEN CREED
Don't let you parents down, they brought you up
Be Humble enough to obey, you may give orders someday
Choose companions with care, you may become what they are
Guard your thoughts, what you think you are
Choose only a date who would make a good mate
Be master of your habits or they will master you
Don't be a show off when you drive, drive with safety and arrive
Don't let the crowd pressure you
Stand for something, or you'll fall for nothing
This creed was from a frame the Vice mayor of our town gave me when I turned thirteen. :) it's just memorable enough to share.Whats the best advice you could give a young person about life?
Time heals all wounds
Things change, always, both for bad and for good, any bad times you go through - don't lose heart, things will change.
Love all you can no matter how much you get hurt, trust without giving your whole self away.
Laugh as often as you can and don't become cynical
Have compassion for your follow beings but don't let the weight of the world tear at your heart.
You only have one life - so be happy.
xx
Learn from your mistakes, enjoy your youth, embrace it, stay ignorant to the world for as long as possible, don't make war, make love, and most important: Don't take anything too seriously, have fun and live your life to the fullest cos you only get one chance
';If there's a message, let it be a message of love.';
';Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.';
Mohandas Gandhi
';No matter what you have or have not done, you are worthy of love.'; John.F.Demartini
Don't bother with the opposite sex until your finished school!
(Including college or university!!)
love every minute... have as much fun as you can... and if you're not having fun, get out and do the next big adventure... life's a gift.. live it to its fullest!
live every day like its your last
laugh at your self sometimes it helps
don't throw stones at glass houses
never judge unless you want to be judged
be kind to your self
x x x
There are no wrong descisions, but be open to oppurtunities.
never leave the one you love for the one you like cuz the one you like will leave you for the one they love
Look after the pennies and the pounds will look after themselves!
live every day like its your last, cos tomorrow may be..!!
and use a condom
say no to drugs
stay away from my daughter
heya!
i say: life is not about waiting for the storm to pass its about learning to dance in the rain.. :)
EXERCISE
Add more fiber to your diet or face horrid consequences.
i honestly cannot tell you i thought long and hard about this and i cannot give answer.
dont f*** up and take drugs.and dont quit high school.
(my younger brother is learning the hard way).
Be relax, be coldblooded
Get married ONLY with the one you love, don't get married because of money or other stupid reasons!
dont watch 2 girls 1 cup, itll scar you for life. :)
Don't EVER do drugs.
';Not everyone can be trusted.';
u'll face many disappointments but u have to find the courage to go on
any mistakes that i've made hopefully they listen and wont make those same mistakes
Life sucks so live it up...
just be smart to make smart choices and be strong coz life is full of challenges.
Just go loony!
keep an open mind, and try not to do drugs
it sucks.
and gets
worse
as
you
mature.
blah.
Be the change you want to see in the world.
Get used to it, kiddo.
It ain't gonna get any easier.
Church Vs Social Life? Advice please...?
I believe in god and I do go to church every once in a while. I honestly don't have a social life and I feel I need one. But it seems everytime when I'm about to do something I always wanted to do, what I don't do in church always get thrown up in my face. I hear this so much to the point where I just don't believe anymore, and I'm just not sure.
I was just thinking back to when I started going out for the first time in two years and how badly my mother tried to hold me back from it. My cousin invited me to her 21st birthday party in May, and my mother didn't want me to go. She then tried to use church against what I wanted to do...saying things like ';can you go to your cousins party but you can't go to any church events?';...this happens all the time. When people invite me somewhere its always no this and no that, but when a church event comes up she always expect me to go and I never do. I'm not really interested and I would just like to live my life normal.
Then yesterday my cousin invited me to a party he was having and before I could say anything else, it was ';HELL NO. You're not going. They like to drink.'; It wasn't like I was going there to have a few drinks, I was going there just to have fun. I could care less on the drinking part. Plus whenever we do go over to our families house they do drink and smoke, so I don't really see the difference.
I would have a conversation with her about it, but it would get blown out of proportion and she would think little of me. I just don't want to live my life wondering if I'm doing anything wrong and feeling guilty of anything just because of how I was raised. Btw, I'm 19. I just want to live a normal life without any strings attach...Church Vs Social Life? Advice please...?
God doesn't exist. I'm 14 and am to old for these fairy tales. Use your common sense and use your brain. You have one life. Live it to your best.Church Vs Social Life? Advice please...?
It's utter nonsense ie sin to exercise control over a humanbeing unless he/she is a threat to society..A church being a part of society has to make its contribution to building a society that helps man to bloom to the full.So it's wrong to frame a phrase like 'church vs social life'
Leave the church, they are manipulating you.
you're 19? move out.
i'm really sorry about what you're going through, luckily my parents have always given me a choice to go to church or not.
anyways.. you should be able to move out soon, so you can do what you want and make friends.
also, drinking alcohol isn't a sin.
anyways... until you can move somewhere else, you're just going to have to deal with your mom.
Drinking is not a sin. It is only drunkenness that is sin, and like all sins, drunkenness is forgiven completely by the person believing in Jesus alone for salvation
And ';believing in God'; won't save you. Going to a church building won't save you either.
It is only believing in JESUS alone for salvation, that saves :)
Jesus is God, and Jesus loves you so very much! :D
Salvation is a FREE GIFT that happens in a split second when you believe in Jesus alone to save you! It is impossible to lose or ';leave'; salvation (John 6:39-40, John 10:28, 1 John 5:13).
The truth about Jesus is that the only way to be saved and to get into heaven and avoid being sent to eternal hell, is by believing in faith alone that Jesus, who is God, died for our sins on the cross as FULL PAYMENT for all our sins, and then Jesus rose from the dead (1 Corinthians 15:1-4). Believe this and you will be in heaven, no matter what!
Please pray now: ';Jesus, please forgive me of my sins. I believe that You died on the cross for my sins and You rose from the dead. Thank You for eternal life!'; You will be in heaven with Him forever when you die. :)
You are going through the normal pangs of teenage life and breaking out on your own. But if you truly believe in God and that Christ died for your sins, you will honor your mother and father. My mother did the same thing when I was a teenager and I was really angry, because I thought I was missing out. But looking back, I'm glad she did that, because many of those kids took a different road in life than I did. Your Mom loves you, and is trying to protect you. You will still have your good days and bad at home, but making the ';right'; choice isn't always the easy road.
sounds like your mom is worried about you and the paths that are out there with so much temptation...she doesnt want you tempted and off the right path.
you shouldnt feel guilty unless you are doing something you know is wrong. you will feel it inside, if you are a believer. if the people you want to hang are bad influences, it will effect your life. you cant think you can some how stay separate from it.
mb to please your mom and open other doors to explore, try some church events. there is no reason why you cant have both a life in and out of church.
try this...
Mom, I am 19 and an adult. I know right from wrong and God knows where I am and what I am doing and I am not going to do anything that he would be unhappy with.
If you have a problem with how you raised me then you need to talk to God about that and let me get on with my life and my walk with God.
Hope this idea helps...
don't do anything that your guardian angel would be embarrassed to see. :)
I was just thinking back to when I started going out for the first time in two years and how badly my mother tried to hold me back from it. My cousin invited me to her 21st birthday party in May, and my mother didn't want me to go. She then tried to use church against what I wanted to do...saying things like ';can you go to your cousins party but you can't go to any church events?';...this happens all the time. When people invite me somewhere its always no this and no that, but when a church event comes up she always expect me to go and I never do. I'm not really interested and I would just like to live my life normal.
Then yesterday my cousin invited me to a party he was having and before I could say anything else, it was ';HELL NO. You're not going. They like to drink.'; It wasn't like I was going there to have a few drinks, I was going there just to have fun. I could care less on the drinking part. Plus whenever we do go over to our families house they do drink and smoke, so I don't really see the difference.
I would have a conversation with her about it, but it would get blown out of proportion and she would think little of me. I just don't want to live my life wondering if I'm doing anything wrong and feeling guilty of anything just because of how I was raised. Btw, I'm 19. I just want to live a normal life without any strings attach...Church Vs Social Life? Advice please...?
God doesn't exist. I'm 14 and am to old for these fairy tales. Use your common sense and use your brain. You have one life. Live it to your best.Church Vs Social Life? Advice please...?
It's utter nonsense ie sin to exercise control over a humanbeing unless he/she is a threat to society..A church being a part of society has to make its contribution to building a society that helps man to bloom to the full.So it's wrong to frame a phrase like 'church vs social life'
Leave the church, they are manipulating you.
you're 19? move out.
i'm really sorry about what you're going through, luckily my parents have always given me a choice to go to church or not.
anyways.. you should be able to move out soon, so you can do what you want and make friends.
also, drinking alcohol isn't a sin.
anyways... until you can move somewhere else, you're just going to have to deal with your mom.
Drinking is not a sin. It is only drunkenness that is sin, and like all sins, drunkenness is forgiven completely by the person believing in Jesus alone for salvation
And ';believing in God'; won't save you. Going to a church building won't save you either.
It is only believing in JESUS alone for salvation, that saves :)
Jesus is God, and Jesus loves you so very much! :D
Salvation is a FREE GIFT that happens in a split second when you believe in Jesus alone to save you! It is impossible to lose or ';leave'; salvation (John 6:39-40, John 10:28, 1 John 5:13).
The truth about Jesus is that the only way to be saved and to get into heaven and avoid being sent to eternal hell, is by believing in faith alone that Jesus, who is God, died for our sins on the cross as FULL PAYMENT for all our sins, and then Jesus rose from the dead (1 Corinthians 15:1-4). Believe this and you will be in heaven, no matter what!
Please pray now: ';Jesus, please forgive me of my sins. I believe that You died on the cross for my sins and You rose from the dead. Thank You for eternal life!'; You will be in heaven with Him forever when you die. :)
You are going through the normal pangs of teenage life and breaking out on your own. But if you truly believe in God and that Christ died for your sins, you will honor your mother and father. My mother did the same thing when I was a teenager and I was really angry, because I thought I was missing out. But looking back, I'm glad she did that, because many of those kids took a different road in life than I did. Your Mom loves you, and is trying to protect you. You will still have your good days and bad at home, but making the ';right'; choice isn't always the easy road.
sounds like your mom is worried about you and the paths that are out there with so much temptation...she doesnt want you tempted and off the right path.
you shouldnt feel guilty unless you are doing something you know is wrong. you will feel it inside, if you are a believer. if the people you want to hang are bad influences, it will effect your life. you cant think you can some how stay separate from it.
mb to please your mom and open other doors to explore, try some church events. there is no reason why you cant have both a life in and out of church.
try this...
Mom, I am 19 and an adult. I know right from wrong and God knows where I am and what I am doing and I am not going to do anything that he would be unhappy with.
If you have a problem with how you raised me then you need to talk to God about that and let me get on with my life and my walk with God.
Hope this idea helps...
don't do anything that your guardian angel would be embarrassed to see. :)
Life advice--- Spending too much $$$ ?
Gday all, quick briefing... I'm a single 23 year old male from Australia who currently lives at home with my parents and works a low paying job even though i have a university degree in communications. I'd earn about $35,000-$40,000 a year. And I still owe about $10,000 on uni payments lol.
Now my ultimate goal is to one day have a nice family and a nice home. And really just a job that pays alright and is enough to get by with some added extras lol.
In my heart though I've always wanted to see the world (different from travelling the world because travelling means experiencing more than just getting a glimpse of something)... so right now I'm at a crossroads and need some help decision wise and some advice please.
I have about $50,000 ---enough $$$ to put a deposit on a house and pay off my Uni debts... but i have a yearning to see the world so my plan is to take $20,000-25,000 and visit Europe and US for 3 months and just go wild and have fun because in all likelihood i'lI probably not be able to again.
So is this a good idea or should I leave my seeing the world until later in life and put $$ to a house or compromise and just go to either US OR Europe?? Would spending $20,000 on a holiday be too much?
Any advice and help is much appreciated. Cheers. (BTW spending that much is probably over estimating though lol)Life advice--- Spending too much $$$ ?
Pay off your university loans and go travel the world. When you have children and a family it will be harder to do so!Life advice--- Spending too much $$$ ?
I would pay the uni.
Work another year and plan the trip well.
Do the trip.
And then pay the house.
;-)
I would suggest you pay your uni loan off and take $5000 and travel the Philippines for 3 months. Many beautiful places to see and the people here are friendly and english speaking. Besides the women here are gorgeous. Maybe staret with a week or 2 in boracay and go to other places you can pick out at www.wow.philippines.com
Spending $20,000 on a holiday is way to much and you can still have a great time in other places way cheaper. Many Austrailians visit here and I know a few who married a philippine gal like me.
Now my ultimate goal is to one day have a nice family and a nice home. And really just a job that pays alright and is enough to get by with some added extras lol.
In my heart though I've always wanted to see the world (different from travelling the world because travelling means experiencing more than just getting a glimpse of something)... so right now I'm at a crossroads and need some help decision wise and some advice please.
I have about $50,000 ---enough $$$ to put a deposit on a house and pay off my Uni debts... but i have a yearning to see the world so my plan is to take $20,000-25,000 and visit Europe and US for 3 months and just go wild and have fun because in all likelihood i'lI probably not be able to again.
So is this a good idea or should I leave my seeing the world until later in life and put $$ to a house or compromise and just go to either US OR Europe?? Would spending $20,000 on a holiday be too much?
Any advice and help is much appreciated. Cheers. (BTW spending that much is probably over estimating though lol)Life advice--- Spending too much $$$ ?
Pay off your university loans and go travel the world. When you have children and a family it will be harder to do so!Life advice--- Spending too much $$$ ?
I would pay the uni.
Work another year and plan the trip well.
Do the trip.
And then pay the house.
;-)
I would suggest you pay your uni loan off and take $5000 and travel the Philippines for 3 months. Many beautiful places to see and the people here are friendly and english speaking. Besides the women here are gorgeous. Maybe staret with a week or 2 in boracay and go to other places you can pick out at www.wow.philippines.com
Spending $20,000 on a holiday is way to much and you can still have a great time in other places way cheaper. Many Austrailians visit here and I know a few who married a philippine gal like me.
Life advice, anybody?
I've made a load of bad decisions in the last few years. I've just turned 20 and still live at home. Unfortunately, I'm also unemployed and a college dropout. I just got out of a very intense co-dependent relationship, so I'm also pretty depressed/unmotivated as of late.
I pretty much know what I need to do. I'm going to start going to counseling to help with the confidence issues I've developed (and hopefully keep me out of relationships like the one I just got out of) and I'm going to hunt like mad for a job (setting a goal of four-five applications a day). College is going to be hard for me to get back into right now, so I'm going to hold that off. Hopefully I can go back and get a degree at some point.
So, right. I'll get a full-time job and save up to move out with a room mate or two. This will take some time, but whatever. As long as the wheels are in motion, right?
I just want to know, as I've made some catastrophically stupid decisions in the last few years, does this sound like an okay plan? Obviously it isn't ideal, but I can't keep living in this rut y'know? Anybody ever gotten themselves out of a similar rut? Inspirational stories/advice?
Thanks.Life advice, anybody?
hi, i am a 19 year old junior in a university in california.
i know how you feel when you say you are behind.
i need to retake 1 class i failed and i feel like the slowest person ever.
dude an advice i can give you is do not go for the bait of the military.
there is no such thing as safe branches and military jobs.
many army and marines are involuntarily being sent to afghanistan.
navy and airforce are also being retained and holding rifles in iraq, just research ';individual augmentee (ia)';
ok so now you know that if you decide to enlist in the military, you have a very high chance of deploying to afgahan/iraq regardless of job or contract. just ask hundreds of troops in the desert.
and remember to never trust recruiters. i have personal experience. i was to ship out in 2007 but i didn't. they are snakes and half truth telling demons.
anyway, i could've easily gone the bad route (drugs, crime) many many times but i didn't.
if i can do my college life over, i would first get a job then start college. right now it is so hard to get jobs especially for students since schedule is a big problem and employers know that students won't be sticking along for long.
in actuallity you are not behind. do you ever watch the a%26amp;e show ';intervention'; on youtube? basically it's drug user documentary who are being recorded and they tell their life story. most of these users are like really smart people who graduated top in their high school class or great atheletes who start out good in their 20s then in their 30s they are living in the streets doing meth.
so look at the bigger picture. there are ';slow motion traps'; in the years of people's life.
by the way, if you live until you are 80 years old, you live only 4160 weeks (52x80).
i'm just waiting for 1 more week to go by.Life advice, anybody?
I think you have realistic goals. Put them in writing with deadlines and keep them. Use long term and daily goals, until you get the hang of it. Put a check mark on the list after you have met your goal. This is how you build self esteem.(Self estimation). I would also avoid any relationships until you work out the co-dependence issues, just to be fair to yourself and others. You have nothing to offer to a relationship until you are complete. Good luck!
Mike
We have all been there at some point in our lives but we will eventually overcome it.
My advice to you would be stop looking for a full time job and focus on school. The economy is really bad right now and not very many places are hiring. It is a really good time to start / finish your education. Spending a couple more years at home with your parents does seem like it would suck but think about it. After college you should be able to maintain a steady lifestyle.
I have been in a bad relationship before and I know what its like but I also learned my lessons from it. I am now very cautious about the girls I date. Just think about yourself for a while.
you sound like you have now got a very clear plan of what you want to do with your life now, go for it you can do it! set your self small goals at a time and be for you know it you will have the whole picture in the frame, you are on the road to turning your life round now, so life will be on the up good luck with it all Your worth it Im sure.
I pretty much know what I need to do. I'm going to start going to counseling to help with the confidence issues I've developed (and hopefully keep me out of relationships like the one I just got out of) and I'm going to hunt like mad for a job (setting a goal of four-five applications a day). College is going to be hard for me to get back into right now, so I'm going to hold that off. Hopefully I can go back and get a degree at some point.
So, right. I'll get a full-time job and save up to move out with a room mate or two. This will take some time, but whatever. As long as the wheels are in motion, right?
I just want to know, as I've made some catastrophically stupid decisions in the last few years, does this sound like an okay plan? Obviously it isn't ideal, but I can't keep living in this rut y'know? Anybody ever gotten themselves out of a similar rut? Inspirational stories/advice?
Thanks.Life advice, anybody?
hi, i am a 19 year old junior in a university in california.
i know how you feel when you say you are behind.
i need to retake 1 class i failed and i feel like the slowest person ever.
dude an advice i can give you is do not go for the bait of the military.
there is no such thing as safe branches and military jobs.
many army and marines are involuntarily being sent to afghanistan.
navy and airforce are also being retained and holding rifles in iraq, just research ';individual augmentee (ia)';
ok so now you know that if you decide to enlist in the military, you have a very high chance of deploying to afgahan/iraq regardless of job or contract. just ask hundreds of troops in the desert.
and remember to never trust recruiters. i have personal experience. i was to ship out in 2007 but i didn't. they are snakes and half truth telling demons.
anyway, i could've easily gone the bad route (drugs, crime) many many times but i didn't.
if i can do my college life over, i would first get a job then start college. right now it is so hard to get jobs especially for students since schedule is a big problem and employers know that students won't be sticking along for long.
in actuallity you are not behind. do you ever watch the a%26amp;e show ';intervention'; on youtube? basically it's drug user documentary who are being recorded and they tell their life story. most of these users are like really smart people who graduated top in their high school class or great atheletes who start out good in their 20s then in their 30s they are living in the streets doing meth.
so look at the bigger picture. there are ';slow motion traps'; in the years of people's life.
by the way, if you live until you are 80 years old, you live only 4160 weeks (52x80).
i'm just waiting for 1 more week to go by.Life advice, anybody?
I think you have realistic goals. Put them in writing with deadlines and keep them. Use long term and daily goals, until you get the hang of it. Put a check mark on the list after you have met your goal. This is how you build self esteem.(Self estimation). I would also avoid any relationships until you work out the co-dependence issues, just to be fair to yourself and others. You have nothing to offer to a relationship until you are complete. Good luck!
Mike
We have all been there at some point in our lives but we will eventually overcome it.
My advice to you would be stop looking for a full time job and focus on school. The economy is really bad right now and not very many places are hiring. It is a really good time to start / finish your education. Spending a couple more years at home with your parents does seem like it would suck but think about it. After college you should be able to maintain a steady lifestyle.
I have been in a bad relationship before and I know what its like but I also learned my lessons from it. I am now very cautious about the girls I date. Just think about yourself for a while.
you sound like you have now got a very clear plan of what you want to do with your life now, go for it you can do it! set your self small goals at a time and be for you know it you will have the whole picture in the frame, you are on the road to turning your life round now, so life will be on the up good luck with it all Your worth it Im sure.
Life advice from the wise?
sometimes i feel like i am stuck in life.
i'm a college junior bio major, my grades arne't bad but they're not great, i'm shooting to get into an accelerated RN program and set into my career after that. I have my plan and i know what i want to do but why do i feel so stuck? like my time from here to my career is just whatever, blah.
i seek content in simply things and just being in solitude. i have a loving boyfriend and great friends but why don't i feel like this is it?
sometimes when i feel stability, i don't want it to change, but knowing life change is ALWAYS constant. how do i accept change in my life without trying to hold on to the past?
maybe life is all about finding out and maintaining a balance..
i want to gain some insight from the elder, because i feel that wisdom and knowledge comes with age.Life advice from the wise?
i think wisdom...sometimes...comes with experience, but the world is full of people who have spent their whole lives either making the same mistakes over and over or having just settled into the first few they've made and 'settled'.
i have had a true roller-coaster of a life already (i'm 'only' in my late thirties =D) and seen the most amazing things and the most terrible imaginable.
my ONLY regrets...i don't have many...are about things that i HAVEN'T done - relationships i could have tried harder at, things i could have said that i was afraid of the consequences of, opportunities missed.
i 'drifted' until my late 20's and then found a way of life and work that has kept me utterly enthralled ever since and it was something i have ALWAYS had a gift for - i just never thought i could actually make a life out of it.
the happier and more successful people i know ALL have this in common - they have found, in the deepest parts of their hearts something they are truly passionate about and have followed that, whatever it was.
if you are open to 'spiritual' things you might research something called the soul gesture. i was taught this as a simple physical gesture that somehow expresses your purpose, your meaning, your 'home' in this life. you might be able to intuit this for yourself.(be warned - finding someone who can actually see this in you for real might be hard - there are sooo many of us who want to help people, or believe we can when we are just hiding from ourselves...but when you meet the good ones your heart will let you know, i think). i found that helpful in understanding the direction i wanted to go in life.
if your looking for the deeper meaning in life i'd recommend a book called 'the reality game' by Rowan...but i recommend that to everyone, pretty much! =P
i think if you're finding life bland and uninspiring at the moment it's probably because you haven't found what you really want to do or perhaps just some part of you is being denied in this world - either by you, your circumstances or your past.
the journey to finding that can be tough. ..boring.. .soul-wracking. ..grey... whatever, and i think of that bit as The Wilderness Years! but you learn stuff about yoursellf and the world that will be important later on.
find your heart and follow it.
=)
EDIT - o, and don't let people 'diagnose' you with depression when you are just sad - grieving is important...even if your grief is about something that HASN'T happened, instead of something that has. grief just lets us know that there is something valuable that we are missing and interrupting that process, however tough it is to go through, ruins peoples lives. i've seen tooo many clienst diagnosed as depressed by psychiatrists and doctors who simply weren't interested in the fact that the person had every right to be sad about what was going on in their lives. easy answers are rarely more than band-aids.Life advice from the wise?
My first thought reading that is DEPRESSION honey!!! However, sometimes life seems to be going nowhere and doing it slowly. Especially when you are ';waiting'; on things to get here.Life goes faster than you are aware at the moment. I would recommend a therapist, councelor, or perhaps a psychiatrist to at least rule out depression. If you are depressed, it only gets worse from here.
As far as accepting change without holding onto the past.... reflect on your accomplishments, happy days, favorite things, and then think of the stuff that has changed, how it has changed and what that means to you, does it make you happy, satisfied, scared, content, interested....?. It all comes together, and once again, if it doesn't, someone who is impartial to your life can help you sort through those things.
Of course, when we are in our comfort zone, we don't want it to change. Thats pretty normal. You seem to have good goals and plans,,just be patient, do your work and you will get there. It's o.k. to be content with the simple life because we never know when things will change and what challenges we will face so enjoy the simplicity for now. Be grateful for what you have and have had and keep moving forward. Good Luck!!!
You have chosen a field that is all about change. Medicine is a constant updating and learning field. New technology, astounding strides in laser and microscopic surgery, medical and imaging advancment is mind boggeling. If change is not your thing, maybe you chose the wrong field. Or maybe you should choose a hobby that satisfies your quiet, peaceful needs like gardening or something equally soothing and stress free. But your carreer choice is one of fast paced, on the go, ever changing, minute to minute crisis and not likely to be one that will sit well with your stated personality preference. So it seems you have some choices to make. And my suggestion is to think about it long and hard before you invest a lot of time and effort into an education that will not make you happy. Find out what really makes you happy.gold eyeshadow
i'm a college junior bio major, my grades arne't bad but they're not great, i'm shooting to get into an accelerated RN program and set into my career after that. I have my plan and i know what i want to do but why do i feel so stuck? like my time from here to my career is just whatever, blah.
i seek content in simply things and just being in solitude. i have a loving boyfriend and great friends but why don't i feel like this is it?
sometimes when i feel stability, i don't want it to change, but knowing life change is ALWAYS constant. how do i accept change in my life without trying to hold on to the past?
maybe life is all about finding out and maintaining a balance..
i want to gain some insight from the elder, because i feel that wisdom and knowledge comes with age.Life advice from the wise?
i think wisdom...sometimes...comes with experience, but the world is full of people who have spent their whole lives either making the same mistakes over and over or having just settled into the first few they've made and 'settled'.
i have had a true roller-coaster of a life already (i'm 'only' in my late thirties =D) and seen the most amazing things and the most terrible imaginable.
my ONLY regrets...i don't have many...are about things that i HAVEN'T done - relationships i could have tried harder at, things i could have said that i was afraid of the consequences of, opportunities missed.
i 'drifted' until my late 20's and then found a way of life and work that has kept me utterly enthralled ever since and it was something i have ALWAYS had a gift for - i just never thought i could actually make a life out of it.
the happier and more successful people i know ALL have this in common - they have found, in the deepest parts of their hearts something they are truly passionate about and have followed that, whatever it was.
if you are open to 'spiritual' things you might research something called the soul gesture. i was taught this as a simple physical gesture that somehow expresses your purpose, your meaning, your 'home' in this life. you might be able to intuit this for yourself.(be warned - finding someone who can actually see this in you for real might be hard - there are sooo many of us who want to help people, or believe we can when we are just hiding from ourselves...but when you meet the good ones your heart will let you know, i think). i found that helpful in understanding the direction i wanted to go in life.
if your looking for the deeper meaning in life i'd recommend a book called 'the reality game' by Rowan...but i recommend that to everyone, pretty much! =P
i think if you're finding life bland and uninspiring at the moment it's probably because you haven't found what you really want to do or perhaps just some part of you is being denied in this world - either by you, your circumstances or your past.
the journey to finding that can be tough. ..boring.. .soul-wracking. ..grey... whatever, and i think of that bit as The Wilderness Years! but you learn stuff about yoursellf and the world that will be important later on.
find your heart and follow it.
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EDIT - o, and don't let people 'diagnose' you with depression when you are just sad - grieving is important...even if your grief is about something that HASN'T happened, instead of something that has. grief just lets us know that there is something valuable that we are missing and interrupting that process, however tough it is to go through, ruins peoples lives. i've seen tooo many clienst diagnosed as depressed by psychiatrists and doctors who simply weren't interested in the fact that the person had every right to be sad about what was going on in their lives. easy answers are rarely more than band-aids.Life advice from the wise?
My first thought reading that is DEPRESSION honey!!! However, sometimes life seems to be going nowhere and doing it slowly. Especially when you are ';waiting'; on things to get here.Life goes faster than you are aware at the moment. I would recommend a therapist, councelor, or perhaps a psychiatrist to at least rule out depression. If you are depressed, it only gets worse from here.
As far as accepting change without holding onto the past.... reflect on your accomplishments, happy days, favorite things, and then think of the stuff that has changed, how it has changed and what that means to you, does it make you happy, satisfied, scared, content, interested....?. It all comes together, and once again, if it doesn't, someone who is impartial to your life can help you sort through those things.
Of course, when we are in our comfort zone, we don't want it to change. Thats pretty normal. You seem to have good goals and plans,,just be patient, do your work and you will get there. It's o.k. to be content with the simple life because we never know when things will change and what challenges we will face so enjoy the simplicity for now. Be grateful for what you have and have had and keep moving forward. Good Luck!!!
You have chosen a field that is all about change. Medicine is a constant updating and learning field. New technology, astounding strides in laser and microscopic surgery, medical and imaging advancment is mind boggeling. If change is not your thing, maybe you chose the wrong field. Or maybe you should choose a hobby that satisfies your quiet, peaceful needs like gardening or something equally soothing and stress free. But your carreer choice is one of fast paced, on the go, ever changing, minute to minute crisis and not likely to be one that will sit well with your stated personality preference. So it seems you have some choices to make. And my suggestion is to think about it long and hard before you invest a lot of time and effort into an education that will not make you happy. Find out what really makes you happy.
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