Ok everyone is so full of advice, tell my why my life is so great please?

I have no friends, and have lost my relationship with my family and that isn't going to change, lost my lover, meet one loser after the other and I am over 40 so I don't have my whole life to find mr right, I have a low paying job that gives me a different schedule each week so it is difficult to take on a second job and I have no transportation so I am limited to working near home (buses are unrealiable and I have to take a taxi after dark (expensive just to go down the street) as I live in a bad neighborhood and have been robbed at gunpoint), I am one of the only white people in my apartments so I am made fun of daily and harrased by men standing around the parking lot all the time, I have no money for any hobbies or activities, have plenty of aquaintences but no real friends. So why does everyone thinkl that calling some silly counseling service is going to solve everything?Ok everyone is so full of advice, tell my why my life is so great please?
Who says your life is great? sounds like it sucks to me....Ok everyone is so full of advice, tell my why my life is so great please?
You can always get replacement documentation. Yep, you're life sucks at the moment. But, was it always that way? Let's take it one step at a time, shall we.





1 - lost relationships: who's fault? And why is it not going to change? You're stubborn, maybe. Then change.


2 - lost lover: same as above.


3 - over 40: so what? Once you're born you will age until you die.


4 - low paying job: change it, you control that as with 1 and 2.


5 - living accomodations: again your choice, see 4 above.


and all the rest: same problem - your choices. Don't you see a pattern here? Seems to me it's all your choices that you have made for yourself. If you don't like it, change your attitude and your choices. I've been there 20 years ago. But I realized that it was me that needed changing and I did. So, now you know, what are you going to do about it?
there once was a man who complained about his hand hurting , until he meat a man with no arms. there once was a man who always complained about his foot . until he meet a man with no legs. It looks like you have nothing , so I should not complain anymore....thanks ... Truth be told I have nothing either.....
Who knows the way I take but God alone!


Fifty people can look at your life, or my life,


and in their mind believe


they know all the answers,


and each will have a different answer,


but God says,


He alone knows the way that I take,


or that you take.





There will always be judges


sitting in the grandstands,


but as a child of God


we only have one Judge.


And He is able to judge according


to righteousness and mercy.


He sees all our yesterdays,


He sees the moment,


and He sees all our


tomorrows.





Our Father looks at the intent of our heart.


So, if and when, you find yourself


in the hands of many judges, take heart,


don't let their opinion break your spirit,


for you have the Holy One of Israel


who searches depths no finite mind


can comprehend.


Your God, my God, will always and forever


bring good out of the bad events


or circumstances of our lives.





This is when we must trust God and


not lean on our own understanding.


God is God! He will never allow


His children to suffer without


a higher purpose to accomplish.





We must never forget this.


Our Heavenly Father hears our silent cry!


He will never ignore you or pass you by.


His timing is always perfect,


He will not fail you!!





Forever in His Divine Love and Mercy,
life is so great not because we are happy always. it is great because we


1) experience different emtions (sadness, fear, boredom, etc. and you have most of it. you are lucky)


2) have a choice always. (you can transfer to another city and start your life all over again if your life is really that bad and hard there)


3) you are never too old! you were just afraid.


4) stop looking at the negative side! look at the positive and it will do woders to your life
counseling is not going to solve everything if you dont want to be helped. instead of whining about life (i do sometimes too) try a dateline or go to the library, or even go dancing. on ur day off ride the bus to where you want to go. make a day of it. get dressed up, do your make-up, and go. maybe a day out is just what you need. and try to be positive, there are plenty of homeless people who dont have a home to go to. just remember, life could always be worse.
Life is often what we make of it. It doesn't sound like your circumstances are easy, but it's up to you if you want things to be different. I am guessing people are recommending therapy since


having someone to talk to really can help you make changes for the better and feel less alone in the world.





It sounds like you could benefit from trying to connect with people on a deeper level, as you have many acquaintances, but could use some true friends. Are there any acquaintances that you'd like to be closer with? Could you invite someone over to hang out or go for a walk?





What things are you interested in?





Could you find a social group that doesn't cost anything to be involved in? A book group, religious group, a group who plays cards or games - whatever you might be interested in? Due to your changing schedule, you might not be able to make it every week.- but it still is good to have some activities going on.





Meeting people through friends often really works too.





It sounds like you might also consider a job change since you're not happy with your wage or hours. Monster.com has lots of great advice and a resume builder. Maybe look and see if there are other opportunities in your area that you might be qualified for. Changing jobs might allow you to move to a safer neighborhood and a stable schedule might really improve your social life.
My cousin needs a heart transplant she doesn't have any insurance and they haven't found a match. I've never heard her complain once. I'm telling you this because there is always someone out there who has it worse than you. you deserve a better life than what you are giving yourself. Get out there and make some serious changes in your life.I mean what do you have to lose? And who is telling you to get counseling? maybe you have good friends after all??
work for the local newspaper-selling ads over the phone. or move
{{{hugs}}} I think you may need one or two.





I have been down some hard roads myself. My only real advice is to...Try to be more positive...if you really want to change your life, YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN CHANGE!!! Do what you have to do to get out of your situation...like getting a new job, moving into a new place...working on getting transportation.





One major point I'd like to say to you is don't rely on anybody but yourself...for a better life...as far as I know...people don't just walk up to you and give you a better job/apt./car/life. I've never counted on anybody for anything, for one because I didn't have a choice...but being self-reliant is a very wonderful thing. If your life sucks it's your fault if it is great it's your fault. :)





I think you need to suck it up and get out and do something about all that is pissing you off. You get one chance at life only one. Don't waste it.





Try to take care and hopefully you will do what you need to do!





:)
mabey wow
shut up stop crying and do something constructive.


do you really believe we have time to read all those heart groanings about which you have written?
well look at the bright side....it can't get any worse than that...so its gotta get better at some point... now u lost relationship with ur family and friends...and ur lover...well maybe it's you....maybe you're doing something wrong... u know....u dont need mr. right....hope everything goes good for you!!! just stay positive...plz...cause pesimistic thoughts won't get u anywhere...
well, ur not in a good situation.... but you could try to get a pet (preferably dog) i dunno why, but i was sorta in depression and when i got a dog, we (me and my dog) started having fun and i began to think that my life is great, maybe that would happen to you to
Over 40 Look you need get over yourself and realize there are other people in this world other than yourself try caring about them and maybe you might have a meaningful relationship. Quit feeling sorry for yourself and make things happen. There are people who are dieing and are fighting to just take one more breath so you have it easy. Consider yourself lucky to be on earth fairly healthy. So Quit Complaining and Belly aching or you will never go no where and always be where you are.





The truth hurts sorry.
ya ur situation seems troubled, but u know nobody is ever happy some or the other things keep buging them or they try to find things or reason to be sad. its in u and only u who can change ur life, whatever happened with u or is happening is probably ur';karma'; but dont worry u can work it out,


even though u have a tight shedule try to keep looking for a new job, try to search for a new place and try to make more friends (see u cant never find a good frnd, u urself is ur best frnd), n relationship-- c when u will have a deserving job a nice neighbourhood , frnds -- then u will urself start to enjoy ur life and then automatically u will meet mr right. dont worry , be always positive this is the best way to enjoy life. take kare
Save your money and move somewhere....stupid counseling probably wont help...seriously just pack up and go wherever you want...there will always be a job there that you can get after you settle into your apartment...you will meet all new people try all new things....it could be like a fresh start...the new you...it just sounds like your tired of where your at in your life....so just change everything...if you dont like your life fix it...or dont complain...
Counselling doesn't solve everything, but it can help you learn about why you do what you do.





I've read all your posts.There are a lot of reasons your life is the way it is. I don't know all of them but I can tell that one mistake you made was not to get a good education . Now you're 40 and you have no usefull skills. So you can't get a good-paying job.





Then you made your next mistake by marrying the wrong kind of jguy, one who dumped you and left you with a child. I still don't understand why you won't make him pay child support.





The next mistake was to take up with a married guy, which resulted in your parents kicking you out of the house, I think, and also resulting in a separation from your child. Then you ran up huge credit card debts.





So part of the reason you're in the state you are is the result of your own bad choices. And you're looking for a guy who can save you from all your past mistakes by marrying you and allowing you to stay home and not have to work.





You really need to look for a better job, for starters; one that will pay you more of a living wage, but you'll say you can't do that. And you need to try to build some skills and get more education but I know you'll say you can't do that, either. You'll find excuses. And instead of looking to yourself to save what's left of your life--you still have 25 years of work ahead of you, that's enough time to make a career and build a nest egg for retirement--you'll look for a miracle, a Prince Charming, to wake you up with a kiss and carry you off to happiness.





You ask a lot of questions, and you've gotten some good advice here, but you won't take any of it.





I really would like to see you succeed and be happy, but I'm afraid that you'll keep looking for a miracle and the easy way out. And I don't think miracles happen.
Pro help isn't always the answer (to me it's never...)


now listen carefully to these tender small words....:





YOU MAKE YOUR LIFE AND CHOOSE HOW IT BECOMES...LEAVING TO THE FLOW WILL NEVER END YOU SOMEWHERE GOOD..YOU MAKE FRIENDS, YOU LOOK FOR A GOOD JOB...THERE IS NO EASIER WAY OR A GUIDE BOOK TO IT...YOU MAKE I YOURSELF...
well you sound like you are in a mess... i think life is rough i know...i find it hard to make ends meet to..but you got to be thankful you have a job....that is one thing that is good..and you have a roof over your head...that is another good thing even though you do not like where you live...i would not either if it is like you say...and being robbed at gunpoint would scare the heck out of me...being harrased by men is not so good either..spray mace in their face...but then i would be afraid they would come back after me....well try to save money a little at a time and get out of that place for sure...i am sorry about the family , but i know what you mean....looks like family could help sometime...and real friends are hard to find these days anyway.. they all think about their self anymore...i am sorry for your situation.. i really am but right now i do not know what to say except save money and try to move out of that area...easier said than done i know...i have the same problem.....i do not think counseling is going to help these problems at all..might give you something for stress which is going to cost to buy it too...so i just hope and pray things get better for you...and i will have you in my thoughts and prayers...take care and i wish there was some simple solution but we need a money tree and there is no such thing as that...
Move to a small place in a good neighbourhood %26amp; look for a good job.


There are many undocumented workers getting jobs anyway
BOO-HOO, IF YOU PUT YOUR TIME AND EFFORT INTO DOING SOMETHING ABOUT YOUR LIFE INSTEAD OF CRYING YOU MIGHT GET SOMEWHERE... TAKE YOUR LIFE BY THE HORNS AND DO SOMETHING, MOVE TO A NEW TOWN, EVEN IF YOU HAVE TO START FROM SCRATCH, AT LEAST YOU WOULD HAVE A FRESH START...
good luck with that.





but you sure can talk.


try to work in something were you can talk that much.


you know: radio person, or interviewer or be a priest or something


and you will be Ok
You should volunteer one day a week for those less fortunate than you and you will feel better and gain some valuable job skills. You will also meet other volunteer who are nice people.
Beats the hell out of death!
You're not going to find the answers you need here. You're sending out a cry for help (although you won't admit it) but you are rejecting everyone that reaches out to you simply because you are afraid (although hoping) that they will help you out of your situation. What I would do, honestly, if I were you, would be to take my next paycheck and just leave. If everything's that bad there, there's nothing to keep you. Get a bus ticket and see where you can get to. Go online and find places with a cheap cost of living. You're never too old to start over and it sounds like anywhere's better than where you're at. I've been in your spot before. You can make it better.
Suck it up and be a big girl, start over. Move your butt away and get a good job somewhere else and concentrate on what IS positive in your life like your health. Hobbies often do not take money so look for those. Check into government grants and loans and go back to school. Just save enough to have money to eat and find a job for two weeks or so and up and leave. Leave all that **** behind and move to a big city or just outside of one. That's what I'd do. Good luck and I hope it gets better for you, I really do. My life has been no bowl of cherries either.
I am sorry to hear about your situation. There are a lot of people in the same position that you are in. You have to keep you head held high and decided is this how you want to live your life. First you need to suck it up and try to mend you relationship with your family. Next get involved with a church, they maybe able to help you find transportation and better housing, if you are geniune about the situation. It never hurt anyone to ask for help.





Calling a counseling service is not the answer, but they maybe able to put you in touch with groups that can help you. Just be open minded, and don't shut open people that are willing to help you.
Apart all your mishaps, I say I love you.
Life is pretty crazy sometimes, isn't it? I am so sorry you've lost contact with your family and those you've loved.





I know it is hard to see anything to be hopeful about, but please look up for a moment. Happiness is not just up to our circumstances, but also how we choose to look at the world around us. Sure, you may think that is easy for me to say, but you don't know my life story either.





Some lottery winners and celebrities who act as though they have everything going for them get depressed and suicidal. On the flip side, I've met people who seem to have lost everything--family, job, health, use of their limbs and eyesight--who are joyful and happy to be alive.





I don't think counseling would solve everything. What I would recommend, if you would like any advice, is to go volunteer at a church food bank or something. Just find a place where you can be fulfilled by helping others. I know your life isn't easy, but for one thing, you'll find people who are in even more difficult circumstances than yourself. Also, you will get a chance to find something to be passionate about that makes you want to get up in the morning. Good luck and God bless.
Well, you certainly are really good at pointing out all the negative aspects of your life.....ever tried looking for what is good? Much of what we go thru is a result of our own thought patterns and behaviors, this is where a counsellor might help you...in other words help you to be able to look beyond or above all the negatives in your life and start thinking positively. Positive energy attracts positive energy, like wise with negative energy. Good luck to you, making the necessary changes to your thought patterns and behaviors won't be easy at your age.