I got my girlfriend pregnant, I think Im going to go to Mexico and start a new life. Any advice?

I just found out a month ago, and after thinking long and hard, Im going to go to live in Mexico. I have dual-citizenship and my parents' family live wayyy deep in mexico and I could start a new life an go to school there (I'm 16).





I cant handle this, its too much. my girlfriends parents are upper middle class, theyll handle it, Im just a junior in HS, and my parents barely make $40K/year.





Any advice, like stuff i should know about being on my own in a foreign country? I already called my family over there, and they said it would be ok if I lived with them, but Id have to pull my own weight. Anyways, Im off to the airport in 3 hours, so Im just thinking here. Sucks, but oh well.I got my girlfriend pregnant, I think Im going to go to Mexico and start a new life. Any advice?
I know you are trying to find a way to get out of this situation you put yourself in, but you have got to face your responsibilities. You were man enough for a grown up relationship, you need to be man enough to take care of your responsibilities. You may not know what you want to do now, but you will always wonder what your baby is doing. You will always wonder about that poor baby you left behind. You will miss out on him growing up. The baby will definitely long to have you in his/her life. You shouldn't make decisions without thinking them through.


You should finish school and go to a University. You can do it. I'm sure if her parents seen you trying to handle up on your responsibility, they will help you.


Running away from your issues will not make it go away. This child is forever. You cannot send it back.


Lets say that you do leave, what will it solve? You will just end up in the same predicament over there in Mexico. How will you support two babies? The pay over there is not good at all. As for an education, it will not mean squat here.


You'd already have to have money before going down there to survive. Think.


I will say a prayer for that poor baby you are considering leaving behind.I got my girlfriend pregnant, I think Im going to go to Mexico and start a new life. Any advice?
don't leave it up to her family to raise your baby. that is something you two should have thought about long before even having sex. you are only 16! don't mess up a babies life and take off because running from your problems isn't going to make the problem go away. if you got me preg and took off i would be so mad at you! you say so yourself that you are gonna have to pull your own weight so why not stick it out here and finish school and be a dad...many kids lack the affection from both parents and this has to start somewhere...you should really think about this because it isn't all about you now...you have a baby to put first!
Let me tell you something. here in North America, you don't treat women like this. This is called being a scaredy cat. What was your main goal for coming here? Why don't you finish off your high school then continue on your studies. This is how you success in life. Right now you lost your oppurtunity. Second, you say that your pregnant girlfriend will fix her own problems with her parents and they will raise the unborn kid. Is that how you treat women in your country? You say it's too much but at least put effort into it. If you get a good job and status, they will recognize you. But running away like this, they will think you are the worst of the wimps. You are 16. Think about it again...the airport can wait. Because if you decide to leave, it will be too late...so think about it again. There are alot of consequences to your act.





As a latina, i am shocked to here that from you. It's a shame.
i hope you get abused in mexico
Your parents family in Mexico says you have to pull your own weight? That is what your parents should be saying to you here in this country. You are not leaving because you want to start a new life, you are leaving so that you can avoid the responsibility of caring for your own child.





Do you think having a baby is just all about having enough money to make it OK? Your baby will be born needing both parents. You don't have to marry the girl to stay a part of your child's life. You were old enough to let the rooster out in the hen house, now be man enough to stay around for the consequences. If you run now, you will always run from life and your mistakes. What about the mother of your child? Does she mean nothing to you?





If you do go to Mexico, nothing will change. You will have learned only how to get away with being irresponsible by having others who are willing to pick up the slack for you.


How many babies will you father in Mexico?
my advice is for you to stay put and take care of the kid. it isn't the baby's fault you couldn't keep your pecker in your pants. you played now you pay. (for the next 18 years) You sound like an immature little kid, you messed up now you run away and hide. better yet......get castrated so you can't play at being a big boy ever again.
This problem may go away when u have run away from something u both took part in it. The girl is by the sound of it having the child and sounds like she has take responsibility for the action she took with u in bed. They always say a girl will be in the mind a head of a man by 2 or so years. I think a man or a boy at 16 years is old enough to take care of his life and although u might think by running away you will never have this come back and bite u in the bottom one day when your son or daughter or twins or what ever she is having knocks on your door and say hello u are my dad why did u not love me enough to have me in your life. That child will always fill abandoned in his/her life. You were man enough to put in now at least try and be a man by sticking by the girl why she has the baby very scary thing to go through without the man beside her. At least supply the girl with a bit of finace for her to help bring up your child. Put your self in the baby's shoes how u would feel if you father forgot u and ran away. Running away from things is just plain weak......
Well your definitely not a man to run out on your pregnant girlfriend. Last time I checked it takes two to make a baby, therefore maybe when you move you should learn to keep your stuff in your pants until your ready to be a man
so you are leaving her if thats the case you suck big weenies and you will get yours some day keep your d i c k in your pants a s s h o l e
It's nice that you can hit and run, it's nice that you can walk away and let your girlfriend deal with all this herself. It's nice to know that you were man enough to have sex, obviously without the brains to use a condom, but not man enough to do the right thing and stand up like a man. So maybe it's better that you do run away, your child deserves a father who is a man not a whining little boy.
umm a hint.. dont leave your child... as for living in a foreign country.. i hope u kno spanish.. but ur baby will need you as it grows up and will miss out on having a good dad.. you should take responsibility for your actions
hey at least you had sex my husband won't have sex and we've been married for 2 years!
You claim to love her and you got her pregnant? If you didn't want a child, then you should have used protection.. Now your going to run off like a coward !! Oh , and by the way. Just because YOU run off to Mexico to live, Doesn't mean your girlfriends parents can't sue your parents for child support. You see, your under the age of 18. So they are still LEGALLY responsible for what you do !! So you might run off, but your parents are STILL going to have to PAY for your mistake!! Nice going !! You won't take the responsibility and be a MAN for getting your girlfriend pregnant, and run off and leave your parents stuck with the BILL !! I can tell your going to be a real man you shallow cowardice piece of crap!! If you love her so much, then get a JOB and support her and the baby and be a man for once in your life. Or didn't your father get around to teaching your about taking responsibility for your own actions???
I can't believe you're about to abandon your own child. You and your girlfriend had the child, so you both have to take responsibility. You'll regret it for the rest of your life if you leave.
So you have sex, get somebody pregnant, then run out on them? What a loser.
what type of person are you leaving your girlfriend...you're the father..you cant just runaway and leave her stranded.you need to learn more responsibilities when it comes to sitautions like this..you need to think about your actions
Yeah you'll find a good job in a donkey show down there and fit right in.
Hmm...You are 16 huh? You posted another question saying that you are 21 and your girlfriend is 19! So which is it? Here's my advice...Get a life!
It looks like you already got alot of answers...but I will also do an input.


If you love this girl..don't leave her to face this alone! And if you don't love her be man enough to stay and help her and the baby through this...


You know a baby is a gift from God and not promised to be with us always...the Lord may even take the baby before birth can come..we never know.....then what kind of pain will you have to carry the rest of your life?


Your parents can actually be held responible for the support of the baby while you are a minor....how old is the girl?


If your old enough to use it you should be man enough to accept what happened....


That's why they make condoms...birth control..


Both are at fault....but not the baby..the innocent victim in all of this....and ';daddy'; doesn't want him/her. SAD.....


I pray that you will make the decision to stay and help as much as you can with your girfriend and the baby.....don't let the baby call someone else ';daddy';. I am sure he/she won't be calling someone else ';mommy';. Your girlfriend will have a very hard time but she is strong enough to make it and keep the baby....but are you strong enough to join in?


God bless and really think things over................
wow. have you told her this. no i bet not. because your not a real man. You have to confront your mistakes i know its hard but lifes is so much worse for her. Have you ONCE put yourself in her shoes she has to give birth she ruined her life. you know how hard its going to be for her to go to school she basically has no future. and you walk away... you should atleast help her out you dont have to be there but send her money dont you ever want to see your son/daughter? I bet not. You know what you just think about that i know that its hard for you but you cant walk away from everything. This isnt something some toy or something that you can fix its a living thing. You cant take it back... This is something you should talk to your girl friend about. Just talk things through.
1 word: IRRESPONSIBLE





how do you think she will feel to think that you ran away from your responsibilities?!? Face it!!! You were the one who caused her to be pregnant and you run away from it just because she is financially able to support herself; what about emotionally? do you know that you have probably ruined her life; her relationship with her parents, and she may probably feel unable to trust any man ever again. You think running away will solve the problem? Gosh! That's cowardly actions!!! You ran away from your responsiblities and want to ask for advice about being on your own in a foreign country; just great...