Life advice, anybody?

I've made a load of bad decisions in the last few years. I've just turned 20 and still live at home. Unfortunately, I'm also unemployed and a college dropout. I just got out of a very intense co-dependent relationship, so I'm also pretty depressed/unmotivated as of late.





I pretty much know what I need to do. I'm going to start going to counseling to help with the confidence issues I've developed (and hopefully keep me out of relationships like the one I just got out of) and I'm going to hunt like mad for a job (setting a goal of four-five applications a day). College is going to be hard for me to get back into right now, so I'm going to hold that off. Hopefully I can go back and get a degree at some point.





So, right. I'll get a full-time job and save up to move out with a room mate or two. This will take some time, but whatever. As long as the wheels are in motion, right?





I just want to know, as I've made some catastrophically stupid decisions in the last few years, does this sound like an okay plan? Obviously it isn't ideal, but I can't keep living in this rut y'know? Anybody ever gotten themselves out of a similar rut? Inspirational stories/advice?





Thanks.Life advice, anybody?
hi, i am a 19 year old junior in a university in california.


i know how you feel when you say you are behind.


i need to retake 1 class i failed and i feel like the slowest person ever.


dude an advice i can give you is do not go for the bait of the military.


there is no such thing as safe branches and military jobs.


many army and marines are involuntarily being sent to afghanistan.


navy and airforce are also being retained and holding rifles in iraq, just research ';individual augmentee (ia)';


ok so now you know that if you decide to enlist in the military, you have a very high chance of deploying to afgahan/iraq regardless of job or contract. just ask hundreds of troops in the desert.


and remember to never trust recruiters. i have personal experience. i was to ship out in 2007 but i didn't. they are snakes and half truth telling demons.





anyway, i could've easily gone the bad route (drugs, crime) many many times but i didn't.





if i can do my college life over, i would first get a job then start college. right now it is so hard to get jobs especially for students since schedule is a big problem and employers know that students won't be sticking along for long.





in actuallity you are not behind. do you ever watch the a%26amp;e show ';intervention'; on youtube? basically it's drug user documentary who are being recorded and they tell their life story. most of these users are like really smart people who graduated top in their high school class or great atheletes who start out good in their 20s then in their 30s they are living in the streets doing meth.





so look at the bigger picture. there are ';slow motion traps'; in the years of people's life.





by the way, if you live until you are 80 years old, you live only 4160 weeks (52x80).





i'm just waiting for 1 more week to go by.Life advice, anybody?
I think you have realistic goals. Put them in writing with deadlines and keep them. Use long term and daily goals, until you get the hang of it. Put a check mark on the list after you have met your goal. This is how you build self esteem.(Self estimation). I would also avoid any relationships until you work out the co-dependence issues, just to be fair to yourself and others. You have nothing to offer to a relationship until you are complete. Good luck!





Mike
We have all been there at some point in our lives but we will eventually overcome it.





My advice to you would be stop looking for a full time job and focus on school. The economy is really bad right now and not very many places are hiring. It is a really good time to start / finish your education. Spending a couple more years at home with your parents does seem like it would suck but think about it. After college you should be able to maintain a steady lifestyle.





I have been in a bad relationship before and I know what its like but I also learned my lessons from it. I am now very cautious about the girls I date. Just think about yourself for a while.
you sound like you have now got a very clear plan of what you want to do with your life now, go for it you can do it! set your self small goals at a time and be for you know it you will have the whole picture in the frame, you are on the road to turning your life round now, so life will be on the up good luck with it all Your worth it Im sure.