Monday, August 23, 2010

Need some serious life advice please?

I'm 20. I have a daughter. I have my own apartment. I work 80/hrs per week in a commission based tile selling job. I went to Western Michigan University for a year. I currently go to University of Phoenix online. That's the outside.





The inside is that my rent is past due, I'm potentially getting evicted soon. My internet is shut off on tuesday, so I won't be able to finish this semester at school. My commissioned job is ending next tuesday. I haven't paid gas or electricity in months. I have two warrants out for me for traffic violations (bench warrants). My car has 3 month expired plates, no insurance, no mirrors, cracked windshield, and a dragging muffler. I feel as if my life is imploding.





I just don't know how to dig myself out before it crashes down upon me.Need some serious life advice please?
We're all been to ups and downs, depends on how fast you go up will tell how fast you'll fall. Life is just a cycle, just try to hang on. don't loose hope. One day you'll be back on the good track again.





We are all connected, there will always be someone to take care and love.





Good luckNeed some serious life advice please?
Joel's right, financial problems can be solved. its waaaayyyyy better than having a problem that even loads of money cannot solve.





try to solve it one by one.draw up a plan/schedule. talk to your landlord first to give you grace time. go find another job. and don't worry about your studies for the time being. can you log in at the library?? use their internet.





i really think u need to go get some help! stay strong for the lil one.
I can't pretend that I know what its like to be in your situation. The stress must be nearly unbearable.





I don't know if I can help... but your probably looking for any advice about now... so





Sounds like your first move should be to prioritize. You have countless worries and problems, and you are allowing them to consume you.





Take a minute to just stop, and deeply consider the most important things in your life, the most pressing issues.





I'm sure your daughter and her well-being is first; as long she is in your life, it will not ';implode';. keep that in mind





I'd guess that next would be your income, since you're obviously stressing horribly over your job/career. Your first action, if you are not already doing so, is to search for another job, if you know your current one will end soon. Even if its not a great one, its better than nothing right?





As far as your education goes, try to put it in perspective. Maybe you can't complete this semester, but once you get back on your feet, you'll be able to return to school and become who you want to be.





I don't know if your already doing so, but if not, you should definately look into Student Financial Aid. Most educational institutions gladly loan money to people in your position.





I hope this wasn't totally useless, and I really think you'll pull yourself through.
If you got family ask for help, get a loan from the bank, or find another job. It seems like all your problems are routed from financial problems. Just don't go insane, stay strong. :)
Take care of the legal stuff first. You don't need to spend a night in jail while DCF picks you apart as a parent.





You can attend school if your job permits. Let your teachers know whats going on and that you may have to schedule internet use between work and library hours. Find out what activities are going on in the kid section and they may play babysitter while you upload your homework.





Do what you can with what you have, take some time alone to cry if you feel the world is crashing down but know it doesn't happen all at once. At this point you can still fight.





One thing at a time. Its a long hard process to evict a family with child, you can do your schoolwork and upload it at the library. Theirs nothing you can do about loosing your job but you can focus on things you can change.





I wish you luck, and if you need help please check with your local United Way!
check with your local court house and see if you can get a payment plan...lots of places will let you even though they have turned to warrants...be respectable and call it cant hurt!they should tell you about how much$you might need to give/also they might have a work program that could help you pay it off?talk to your land lord see if he wont let you ride a little longer on ';tab';who cant live with out internet for a while?are you a tile setter or saler?car thing is a drag ';I know';! umm, cant help a whole lot there sorry...it might be time to flip some burgers or something? sorry man!...kit

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