i'm 17 and me and my boyfriend want to go to brighton together to get a flat and a job, when we finish our a levels. i'm so in love with him its like i cant actually explain, and staying in london is making us both unhappy because of the pressure of parents and not being able to spend as much time together as we would be able to if we lived together. i might like to go to university one day which is why if we do this we're gonna wait till after a levels. the thing thats making me hesitate is my parents, asking me not to go, but i feel like i need to leave this life behind and just live with him. what would yhou do??Life advice, im 17 and dunno whether to move to brighton with my bf.?
I'm only 18, but I've learned from experience that the only people in the world you can trust are your parents.
They're the Only ones who will never do anything to hurt you, they don't give you bad advice. Everyone else is looking for their own gains, but your mom and dad only want you to be happy and take wise decisions.
Now, we don't know all the details of your situation, nor is it our business, but your folks are obviously aware of everything, so I think they know what they're talking about.
Another aspect is that at 17 you're too young to start life like that, with your own house and a job. The best thing, in my opinion, is to finish high school, then go to college etc. and you'll still be able to hang out with your boyfriend.. That's the best order of things because if you start with getting a job now and think that you'll go to uni ';later';, you'll get too caught up in the routine and just won't pursue your career.
I had a colleague who dropped out of high school (in 11th grade) for a guy and she got married. Now she regrets it. Why? Because she gave up on her life as a teenager (with all that it implies: friends, having fun, high school years...) too early.
So I agree with your parents; they're wise and have more experience in everything.Life advice, im 17 and dunno whether to move to brighton with my bf.?
17 is too young. What you want right now is not what you're gonna want at 21, what you want at 21 isn't gonna be what you want at 27. You're young, and have you really learned or let your parents teach you how to support yourself and how to survive in the world? I would really think about this if I were you.
If I were in your place, obviously I wouldn't do something against my parents because I know whatever they tell me, they are not going to say that because they are jealous of my life or something, they tell for our good. So obviously I would ask them and force them to accept what I am planning then go further...Good luck.
You will regret it, i went to Brighton today actually lol and it looks like a sh.t hole, its alright to go down there for the day but if you lived there you would hate it because it is nothing like London. If you really want to move then go somewhere closer or something.
17 is too young. You don't know who you are at that age. After you get out from under your parents wings, you change. You don't want to move in together and then find out you are incompatible and stuck with a lease on a flat and nowhere to go.
id say go for it. ur parents will always take you back if things go wrong. only you truly know how you feel for him. if you live with him and see him all the time you may end up growing apart. being distant away from eachother creates a constant urge to see that person so ur love doesnt die down.
good luck
well your only 17 dont rush into anything, you will regret it,your to young to make these mistakes, it may even come back to haunt you later in your life if you do do this
Just do what you want to do. Nobody can make the choice for you, so asking on YA! or listening to your parents is just going to make you more uncertain. Besides, Brighton is AMAZING! =]
Wait, your whole life is ahead of you, and why go old any sooner than you have too. When you are old that's it no going back.
i'm 17 as well.
i don't think you're at a point in your life where you should move out, merely based on your age.
if this relationship doesn't work out, what are you going to do.
think practically
I wouldn't. [I'm 16]
I would only do it if I knew he was financially stable and would be able to take care of me.
No matter how deep in love I am I would not do it !!
Make a wise choice, ♥
Sorry I think you are too young as well......... When you move in with someone you have all the crap that goes with it ....... bills, cleaning etc Enjoy yourself and live life to the full
you will regret it. you and your bf will not be together in 5 years. it's a fact of life for most people your age.
Finish up your high school years then move send applications to try to get into a college and then move so you have a chance and you can remove yourself from your stress
you're wasting your time if you plan to move for some guy. dont be stupid honey.
I wouldt your 17 and thats to young! live your life and dont leave your friends! your friends are most important and family!
You should trap him. Get pregnant and get him attached so that he'll always have to contact you. You'll never love anyone else except him so make the move.
Think before ink an edium. Better think twice before taking decision.
Ask My Parents.Persuade Them.Then Go.
just go
if you love him enough then you should
but make shure its what you want
me and my bf are already talking about leaving! :]
don;t be ridiculous it's the gay capital of the UK.
Don't go. You may regret it a few years down the road.
Don't. 17 is too young.
You could share a flat at uni?
Hey!
I know what you're feeling and have heard similar things from many other girls before.
Here is a fact for you to consider. At your stage in life, you stand a high chance of you getting pregnant, and/or breaking up. And at least one of you either won't go to the university or finish it.
The other common line is: We'll be careful about not getting pregnant. But more often then not, Ooops!, something happened.
Moving in now is a short-term decision that may mess up your long-term life. I think your parents have the life experience to recognize this and to counsel you as they are.
At 18, you're an adult and your parents are not obligated to take you back. And even if they take you back, they may feel you took advantage of their love for you.
Ultimately, it's your life and you'll decide as you will.
Well, most people are going to tell you not to go and that you are too young. You will listen and think that they have no idea how much you love your boyfriend and you will go anyway. This is normally the scenario.
How do I know?
It happened to me. I graduated highschool and was so in love with my boyfriend. I just moved out, all the while my mom was very against it. I left and started a new life with him. We got married a few months later, I was trying to work to pay bills and also a full time college student. It doesn't seem that hard, but it really and truely is. Once you move in with your boyfriend, after awhile it is like you are married also. You will want to scream when he makes a mess and doesn't clean it up- day after day after day. While all is fine and dandy now, once you get married or even just move in together- you see a different side to him. I loved my husband and I still do, we have been divorced for a year and I left him because I got sick of his crap. Sometimes love really is not enough. I think we got to serious way to fast and way to young. This happens a lot.
I say you stay where you are, go to a university, get your education first. Live with your parents until you finnish. It may seem like 'forever', but it will make things so much easier on you in the future. If you two are ment to be together then you will be. Be patient.
Best of wishes to you :)
What do these people mean, you're too young and you're going to regret it???
When you're 18 you're a legal adult and it is EXPECTED that you move away from your parents! So what if you split up from your boyfriend later on down the line - it's not a permanent arrangement, you're just moving in with him. If you love each other and Brighton will give you more freedom, you'll love it! You'll have fun, which is what you're meant to do as an 18-year-old!
If you're going to uni, you will probably move away from London anyway (unless, of course, you go to a London uni) so why not Brighton, and why not with your boyfriend? You have to grow up sometime, this is the perfect time to do it!
If you've got your heart set on uni, why don't you get your boyfriend to move with you to a university? You can get double accommodation for partners as well at most universities, because you're not the only one in this situation. Or you could go to Sussex University, which is in Brighton. (You didn't say why Brighton is so special, could you both move somewhere else?)
Anyway, GO FOR IT! You're young, you're free, have fun! :D
I know you don't want to hear it, but you'll be sorry if you do this. You are to young to tie yourself to one guy! As in love as you feel now will change over time! The chances of this working long term are VERY LOW and you will end up hurt! You will NEVER get to a University this way because to much life will start happening and get in the way! You're thinking with your teanage brain and this is NOT a wise decision! If it's real love then it will last and it can wait, you're trying to rush adulthood and it's ALWAYS a mistake!
I wouldn't. you're young and this might seem like this is it i love him but 99.99999999 percent of the time it isn't. a few years from now you'll be glad you didn't but if you do a few months from now you'll regret you did. besides moving in together will only start arguments and not because your young even if you were 25 or 42 it's always hard to move in with someone it will not be the same. everything will change. and what if it doesn't last? then what? who leaves who stays? who pays for the bills? who picks up what? consider all that
I think any adult must have freedom to decide about their life but we should instill moral value to our children by good education and by becoming an example for them than let them decide what is good. 17 is not the age to be in relationship. There are many things to do in life. Now you should study college and get a university degree to get a good job. If your parents want you to live with them than they are right as they wish you to accompany them in their life.you are too young to go and live with your bf instead you should stay with your parents, study good and enjoy life.
I wouldn't burn your bridges - you may be in love now, or think you're in love, but the truth is you're only 17 so family is so much more important - they'll stick with you through anything. It would totally suck if you were to move to Brighton then break up with your bf having totally alienated your parents, where would you go and what would you do?
Moving away and getting a job is ok, but you have to be ready for the fact that once you get into a job it gets so much harder to leave - you kind of settle and you might end up never going to uni.
Also, Brighton? Really? It's ok, but somewhere like Devon might be nicer - never been a big fan of rock myself... How would you fund yourself? Even on a part time job now you wouldn't be able to rent a flat straight away - obviously you wouldn't be getting a student loan, and you wouldn't be getting funding from your parents so even if you found a job straight away how would you fund getting a flat together in a holiday hotspot?
Just do what you think is best, but my advice is not to totally alienate your parents - if you're sure you want to move away then definately get their blessing first, and make sure this guy is totally worth it. I don't think it's really possible to fall in love at 17, infatuation maybe, but it's definately too young to settle - nothing wrong with playing the field :p
good luck xxx
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