Messed up love life advice...?

So I met this ';guy'; online 6 years ago(when we were 14), We started talking things were great so we exchanged phone numbers. THe first time on the phone I thought he had a kinda girly voice, but hey he was young and maybe hadn't gone through puberty. So we kept talking, Started falling for eachother, but things were weird because he never mentioned me to his family or friends. Then i found his brother on myspace 2 years ago (after 4 years of ';dating';) and I find out that his brother didn't have a brother, he only had a sister...that confused me, so I went on ';his'; msn and started talking to ';his'; friends and found out that HE was really a SHE who thought she was a guy...transgender type of thing (and we had already met in person and I couldn't tell it was a girl) As soon as I found out she came here and for me things were really awkard, but her things were normal...now I don't now what to do. I've seen her twice since I found out...and I really do love ';him'; but I don't know if I can learn to love her? My parents are totally against the whole lesbian situation, and so was I...when I first had the hunch that HE was a SHE I felt sick to my stomach...and when I think about it I still do...but when I'm with this person I love being with them...I just hate when her parents call her by her name and any other time I'm reminded she's really a girl...I need serious advice...It's really messed up...Messed up love life advice...?
If it's hard on you, imagine how it's been for him.





He was born in a body that never felt right. He had to endure it betraying him with the wrong puberty, and family rejecting him when he tried to get treatment. His brother refuses to acknowledge him for who he is.





If you have to step back that's one thing. But please don't leave him because of his condition. He must have been glad you saw him for who he is instead of what he has. He must have been afraid to risk that by telling you about this.





If you had switched places - if you were both born in male bodies, and you were the one who had to transition, would you want him to see you for who you are, or would you want him to focus on your condition?Messed up love life advice...?
I don't think this person is right for you, if they had to lie to you and pretend to be a guy to hook up with you then they're not an honest person. You don't want someone who won't be completely honest, plus you're straight you don't want a girlfriend you want a boyfriend.
This is very difficult. But you gotta think of whats for the best in the long run and if you can handle the road ahead if you choose to be with this person, even if that means breaking someone's heart.
wow! i could tell you what to do,but if you won't listen to your parents then you won't listen to anybody.
Wowwee! Hunny, i think you need to sit down and think and decide whether you want to be with her. 'cos you fell for 'him' but not her which i understand. So really.. your kind of loving someone that doesn't exist, because she isnt a man.


Think.


Do you love her? Honestly.


Would you ever do anything with her... *wink wink*


When you see her, what do you think?





I think this girl has feelings for you, very strong feelings.


But, i don't know why she lied to you! Which is wrong.





Ask her next time you talk to her, why she did lie.





Just sit and think, you'll make the right decision :)
Blimey this is a real toughy. You love the tomboy her, but don't know if you can love the girly her.


Seems as though you have to think about what you really want, a lesbian relationship with someone who, in some ways you are in love with, or a straight relationship with a guy.


Maybe you could experiment with her, and see how things go, it's not unusual for people to try out different things sexually, its all down to what you really want from a relationship.


Either way, seems you have a loyal friend, its just a case of what you are looking for from a partner.


Mike t.
This is definitely an awkward situation! But you need to think wether you can be with this person or not. If you can't look at this person and say ';yea...they are with me'; then you don't need to be with them. You are the only one that can make this decision! Just relax and take some serious time to think about it.





GOOD LUCK!
I think it is best to let her go. I wouldn't even necessarily suggest staying friends. The entire relationship is based on a lie. Who know what else she has lied to you about. Even if you could get over the fact that she is a girl, you will always question if she is being truthful with you. Trust is very important in a relationship, without trust there will be endless fighting. You know that sick to your stomach feeling that you said you get when you think about her being a girl.... well I'm pretty sure that means you are not a lesbian. Even if you were I wouldn't recommend a relationship with a liar...No excuses
Girl leave that situation alone, take your self from out of that drama. She should have been upfront from the jump. People should have the choice of being an a gay relationship. She should have told you. You guys have been together for 4 years and you don't even really know her, because if you did you would have known he was a she. This just shows that maybe she couldn't trust you with the truth. I think that it is a dishonest situation. You fall in love with a lie, because you ever knew the people behind the disguise.