Serious relationship/life advice?

I dated this girl for 4 years through college and she ended it last December..I am nowhere close to over her. I really am not sure exactly what went wrong, but I think it was distance/lack of communication. We had planned to get married but now all of a sudden she has freaked out on life and doesnt know what she wants anymore. Im graduating college in a few weeks, but there are no good jobs in my major anywhere near her. I dont understand what she is thinking because she still wants to talk to me every day, but the thought of us dating again freaks her out, and when I say I would take a job as close as possible even if it isnt what I really wanna do for a few years so I can be near her she says that I cant base my life decisions on her because I dont have her. Deep down something tells me that if we ever lived in the same place again we would work things out and make it. I dont know what I should do but I do love her with all my heart and would do anything to make us work. Any advice?Serious relationship/life advice?
I am sorry to hear this, as I know how painful it must be. I dated my high school sweet heart for 9 years before we broke it off... Talk about painful!!!





The most important thing you can do right now is to back off from her... Meaning, give her space to find out what she wants to do with her life. Chances are very strong that if you back away completely from her, she will eventually come back to you in a couple of years because of the emotion connection the two of you had. If you continue to apply pressure to her, however, I can guarantee you that you will loose her forever...





Also, let me also address her wanting to talk to you everyday.... She is trying to keep a life line, and if you truly love her, you will sever it. Meaning, it is very important that she learns to go it on her own for a while. I know this will be hard, but when she calls next time, always be nice but start to distance yourself from her. This is the only way she will ever realize how very valuable you are to her. Right now she is simply taking you for granted...





Good Luck!!Serious relationship/life advice?
Still talk to her and dont push her into anything. I recently stoped talking/ doing things with a VERY close friend. We stopped cold turkey and I got over him very quickly, but I also had reasons to hate him. I think you could get over her if you stop everything with her. It is your choice, but I think you should support her from afar as a friend and possibly get back together when she settles down.





boy your life is compicated


good luck ;D
She is absolutely right. You can't base your decisions on her. It sounds like she cares for you, but is not interested in being with you anymore in that way. Sometimes people find that they want other things in life after being a relationship for a period of time. The two of you may not be compatible in her eyes and it really sounds like she is discouraging you from moving near her. I would suggest you do what is right for you and leave her out of it. Otherwise you may find yourself left out in the cold. If you can remain friends with her, great, but with that you will most likely have to deal with her having other relationships. If you can't handle that then I would suggest that you not stay in contact with her. You need to move on with your life.
Dear Bro' Mosquito:





I feel your PAIN~ Dude!





Somewhat .......


the same thing happened to me!





You know what?


My lover did me A FAVOR!


My lover was acting ';freaky';~


%26amp; now I'm GLAD It ENDED!


I met the most AWESOME Woman~


because of these circumstances!





So .....


Bottom Line?





Lick your wounds! Stay away from this


FREAK! Find your Career based on


YOUR Criteria %26amp; NOT Her Geography!


Be a MAN! Buck-UP!





If you go against this mature advice?


Your Pathway is Slated for DESTRUCTION!





You think she is ';feaky'; now?


Wait until you see how she gets


if you stay together!





Move ON!





There is a Future HOTTIE~


WAITING For YOU!





Good LUCK!
Do what's best for yourself. If it isn't to painful stay phone buddies with her. It is always nice to have someone that really knows you to fall back on for a few laughs and even some girly advice when you do meet that special someone that you are willing to try again with.


Things that are meant to be unfold naturally... If it isn't working out that way, it's because the future has something else in store for you. Don't worry.... work on yourself... you'll be surprised what unexpected options become available to you as time passes.
it was said that if u love thing and it goes away then it wasnt ment to be but if she comes back then it was ! sometimes you have follow your heart and true 2 yourself there is only so much that you can in way u have 2 be strong and just let have that time 2 miss you. its only then that she might understand how much u love her. u dont really know much u care or even love someone untill they are gone. its coz u cant do the little thing togther, like the smiles the words ect. they that true love never dies. in a world where love is lost and in a place where hope is gone all you have is that one thing called faith its there if you belive it if was ment to then it will be. we all walk a path to find our true love just maybe she was not the one then again if is then she will come back.
Don't base anything you do on her. She has come to a crossroads in her life. It is nothing personal to do with you. She has just realised she needs some space.





I think that chances of getting back are fairly remote actually. Admittedly it 'could' start up again. But don't count on it.





In your shoes, I would find work at your own place of choosing, not to be near her.





If it was meant to be it will be. Somehow I think it has ended.





Cheer up, it seems to be the end of the world, but you will find someone else to love. Honest.