Hi, I don't really feel like getting into it much but basically, I have only 1 friend and we have a lot of history. For the longest time he treats me like his ***** and like scum, and just recently, he admitted it to me and basically told me that I'm a loser and that I'm his *****..etc. He cockblocks me when I finally get the nerve to talk to a girl after multiple years of just staying quite, because I'm extremely ugly imho and so self conscious and have such a low self esteem...etc, just to see me fall. He has ruined my life and so on. I don't mean to be a pussy and whine about it, but after what happened to me awhile back, I was left emotionally crippled and fear losing my only friend and being alone in the world. I don't even think he sees me as a friend anymore. I'm sorry if this is whining, but I have no one else to talk to and thought I'd ask the community what I should do. Multiple times I've told him to give me respect, and everytime he just answers: you're annoying...
I don't know what else to do as he sees me as some doll he can throw around. There is a wole LOT more that he does that sometimes makes me just want to hang myself. Tried once too...
Anyways, I just need some help right now and get pointed to the right direction. I have tried making new friends but, my friend had already trashed my reputation with nasty lies and with the dark secrets I told him never to tell back when I trusted him with my life.
Thank you for your responses.Need some life advice?
if you stay his friend, then it seems like all the stuff he says about you is true. i'd get rid of him join a new sport or club and make some new friendsNeed some life advice?
Im going to answer because no one else will. Hes not your friend, confront of him ';I am so fricken sick and tired of the way you treat me, me, ya, im a human being, and human beings are supposed to be treated good, so were done being friends, haning out on the weekends and anything else you even want to think about doing, just get away and stay away.'; then yes he may be your only ';fake'; friend but heres the deal, its true, no human being deserves to be treated like that, not a human being, not an animal. so listen to your heart, say good riddens to that son of a poophead, and start loving yoyrslef, im sure your not ugly, and if your fat, exercuise a little and watch what you eat but your better than this butt who in 20 years will end up homeless, girlfriendless, moneyless, and youll be the one with 3 kids, a beautiful wife and a moneymaking job with lots of friends. think about that son.
Guy sounds like a ****-bird. He's not a real friend if he's doing that and you are FAR better off without him in the loop. It's a big world out there, he doesn't know everybody. Just expand your circle, go new places, try new things and you'll make some new friends in no time. If you need tips, check out ';How To Win Friends and Influence People'; by Andrew Carnige (sp?). It might help your social anxiety. I'll bet it does.
But most importantly, you need to get your self-esteem up. You are really down on yourself, and without knowing you, I can already tell you are being WAY WAY too hard on yourself. So what if your not a male model? There is more then one way to get to the top of the mountain, but the view is the same. Get up on yourself, dude! I'm sure if you try you can think of things you do well - maybe you can play drums, or draw, or are really knowledgeable in some area, etc. - build off of that strength and develop new skills. Once you start feeling good about yourself, people (especailly the chicks) will be drawn in by your postive energy. It's going to take a little work, but you can do it. Now get moving!
Don't waste your time on people like that, don't even call him your friend. Spend your time joining groups, look through your community papers. My single friend joined the ';tall club,'; even I met many friends through her LOL I'm 5'2 and they are all over 6, I feel sooo short around them but they are good people. How about a cycling club? There's one in my community, they get together every weekend to bicycle.
Ok well i kno its hard to make new friends and if anyone ever brings up the rumors tell them its all BS. Be nice and friendly to people and show how great you are....
And second of all, your so called ';friend'; is a piece of crap. He has no respect, why do you even want him to be your ';friend'; Hes not a friend, hes a person who brings you down in life and you do not need that. Lose that son of a beeeeeeeeep and move on. If hes a weak lil shrimp then i suggest you take him in the midle of the school (do this only if you're good at fighting) and talk to him. Kinda climax it into a fight and then beat the **** outta him. I kno that last advice is rreally bad sounding but hey at school maybbe youll impress people (but you have to win) im serious this will nly work if you win.
But ya if u dont want to do that then stop being friends with him and lose him. HES the lozer not you. =]
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